I thought I''d move over here to this forum b/c the BWW just doesn''t feel like the right place to be anymore.
First, I wanted to say thanks! to Mara, Janine, Irish, Mandarine and Kimberly. Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts. I think I can use all the good and peaceful thoughts that I can get these days.
As for our situation, we went to our 1st session last night. It was difficult and has only gotten harder since then. He said that he went to counseling for a different reason than I did. I guess I just assumed the only reason was to work on us. But he said that he can''t even think about working on us until he figures out what these issues are and why he feels what he does. I can understand that, I think, but what do I do in the meantime? Where are we in the meantime? And how long does this figuring out take? He''s right, I do have a ton of questions and he has no answers. He suggested I write them down and we try to go through them in counseling. I think that''s a good idea but it feels so painful to just wait, wait and see, wait around as my life continues to fall apart. I feel like I''m barely holding on these days.
Or I could take a step and just say I''m not interested in counseling. But I just can''t do that. I just don''t know what to do.
Has anyone else been through counseling?
I brought up us going away for the weekend of the 9th (the wedding weekend) which we may not even be able to do due to work but I can''t figure out if it''s a good idea. I want to but that''s us going as us, which really I don''t think that exists right now. I guess we could go and keep pretending which is how it feels now or I could go somewhere else or just stay here. I just really don''t want to be here. Not that weekend. I guess I''ll bring that up in counseling too. It all feels so hopeless right now.
First, I wanted to say thanks! to Mara, Janine, Irish, Mandarine and Kimberly. Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts. I think I can use all the good and peaceful thoughts that I can get these days.
As for our situation, we went to our 1st session last night. It was difficult and has only gotten harder since then. He said that he went to counseling for a different reason than I did. I guess I just assumed the only reason was to work on us. But he said that he can''t even think about working on us until he figures out what these issues are and why he feels what he does. I can understand that, I think, but what do I do in the meantime? Where are we in the meantime? And how long does this figuring out take? He''s right, I do have a ton of questions and he has no answers. He suggested I write them down and we try to go through them in counseling. I think that''s a good idea but it feels so painful to just wait, wait and see, wait around as my life continues to fall apart. I feel like I''m barely holding on these days.
Or I could take a step and just say I''m not interested in counseling. But I just can''t do that. I just don''t know what to do.
Has anyone else been through counseling?
I brought up us going away for the weekend of the 9th (the wedding weekend) which we may not even be able to do due to work but I can''t figure out if it''s a good idea. I want to but that''s us going as us, which really I don''t think that exists right now. I guess we could go and keep pretending which is how it feels now or I could go somewhere else or just stay here. I just really don''t want to be here. Not that weekend. I guess I''ll bring that up in counseling too. It all feels so hopeless right now.