04diamond<3
Ideal_Rock
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So we're finally building our dream home and we close in less than a month! we've been married almost 6 years but have only had cats for the last 4.
When we got the oldest cat, we lived in a spacious two bedroom and he was the only one - he loved the attention and all the space, just for him. Then we moved to a smaller two bedroom and that's when he changed. Both DH and I work in stressful fields so we were gone a lot. We'd come home to pee embedded in the carpet. It was only in front of the front door.
Since he was stressed, we thought a campanion would be nice for him, so we got a baby sister for him. She was the complete opposite, playful and relaxed as can be. He hated her and we were afraid he'd kill her while we were gone so we'd lock her in the bathroom for the first two weeks (only while we were gone). After they warmed up to each other (just recently started cuddling after 2 years) ,we moved again due to me being in school full time and having to survive on DH's old salary.
Since I was home, the older cat wasn't peeing in front of the door as much. And the few times he did, I was there to clean it right away. However, since looking around, I've noticed, he's done little spritz's of pee along the apartment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The other issue is that he pee's when he's scared. He's terrified of thunderstorms but now every single time it just rains, he will pee (still does this).
I'm also allergic to them, but it's been ok as long as I don't cuddle them, get scratched, swallow any hair (that gets on my food) or, God forbid get one in my eye! But, we have friends and family that are far more allergic than I am and haven't come to our home because of the cats. All of this, I was set on giving them up for adoption. I also feel really bad because due to our schedules, we're not around much to interact with them, so I feel like I've neglected them. It's hard for me not to even when I'm home though because of my allergies.
DH says that having a bigger home will help - they won't be as stressed, we'll keep it spot less and we'll have air purifiers every where. I don't want to be a bad owner, but I can't stand the damage and the mess that's created. I know it sounds elitest of me, and trust me, I' not - just keeping up with everything else and coming home to puke, pee and hairballs is beyond irritating.
We've waited a long time to get our own home and we're paying my salary just for the floors! I don't want to sound selfish, but I'd really have a panic attack if they did this at the house. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I was set on giving them up...but my brothers cat died today and it broke my heart. I love them dearly and just want the best for them. What do we do???
When we got the oldest cat, we lived in a spacious two bedroom and he was the only one - he loved the attention and all the space, just for him. Then we moved to a smaller two bedroom and that's when he changed. Both DH and I work in stressful fields so we were gone a lot. We'd come home to pee embedded in the carpet. It was only in front of the front door.
Since he was stressed, we thought a campanion would be nice for him, so we got a baby sister for him. She was the complete opposite, playful and relaxed as can be. He hated her and we were afraid he'd kill her while we were gone so we'd lock her in the bathroom for the first two weeks (only while we were gone). After they warmed up to each other (just recently started cuddling after 2 years) ,we moved again due to me being in school full time and having to survive on DH's old salary.
Since I was home, the older cat wasn't peeing in front of the door as much. And the few times he did, I was there to clean it right away. However, since looking around, I've noticed, he's done little spritz's of pee along the apartment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The other issue is that he pee's when he's scared. He's terrified of thunderstorms but now every single time it just rains, he will pee (still does this).
I'm also allergic to them, but it's been ok as long as I don't cuddle them, get scratched, swallow any hair (that gets on my food) or, God forbid get one in my eye! But, we have friends and family that are far more allergic than I am and haven't come to our home because of the cats. All of this, I was set on giving them up for adoption. I also feel really bad because due to our schedules, we're not around much to interact with them, so I feel like I've neglected them. It's hard for me not to even when I'm home though because of my allergies.
DH says that having a bigger home will help - they won't be as stressed, we'll keep it spot less and we'll have air purifiers every where. I don't want to be a bad owner, but I can't stand the damage and the mess that's created. I know it sounds elitest of me, and trust me, I' not - just keeping up with everything else and coming home to puke, pee and hairballs is beyond irritating.
We've waited a long time to get our own home and we're paying my salary just for the floors! I don't want to sound selfish, but I'd really have a panic attack if they did this at the house. I don't know what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
I was set on giving them up...but my brothers cat died today and it broke my heart. I love them dearly and just want the best for them. What do we do???