I need some advice!! I am getting married in 9 weeks. My fiancee and I have been engaged for a year and have been together a total of two and a half years. Here is my problem:
He broke up with a girl to start dating me in July 2002. They had been dating for five or six months. He continued to talk to her over email for over a year into our relationship - last email was September 2003. She would ask him if he had a girlfriend, and he said no. He never had anything else to do with her... but it just really bothers me that he talked to her on email and never mentioned me... and we were very serious. There would be four or five months between the emails, then she would email him out of the blue. He would respond to her email, then another four months would go by, and she would email him again.
I recently confronted him about this, and he said that he was just trying to avoid the situation... hoping that she would just go away. I don''t understand how he could be telling me that he loved me during this time but still be talking to his ex on email. He should have told her that he had a girlfriend.
I do trust my fiancee... I know he would never cheat on me, so how am I supposed to be able to forgive him and get over this? I know that he doesn''t like her... the last email was September 2003.
I want to send her an email with a link to our webpage on theknot.com... then she will see in the write up that she was dumped for me... I have on the webpage when we started dating. When he broke up with her, he told her it was because he was too busy with school and they lived too far apart... a bunch of BS excuses. I want this girl to know that she was dumped because he met the girl of his dreams and that she meant nothing to him. I would send this email, but I don''t want her to start emailing him again. What should I do???? Am I being stupid?
He broke up with a girl to start dating me in July 2002. They had been dating for five or six months. He continued to talk to her over email for over a year into our relationship - last email was September 2003. She would ask him if he had a girlfriend, and he said no. He never had anything else to do with her... but it just really bothers me that he talked to her on email and never mentioned me... and we were very serious. There would be four or five months between the emails, then she would email him out of the blue. He would respond to her email, then another four months would go by, and she would email him again.
I recently confronted him about this, and he said that he was just trying to avoid the situation... hoping that she would just go away. I don''t understand how he could be telling me that he loved me during this time but still be talking to his ex on email. He should have told her that he had a girlfriend.
I do trust my fiancee... I know he would never cheat on me, so how am I supposed to be able to forgive him and get over this? I know that he doesn''t like her... the last email was September 2003.
I want to send her an email with a link to our webpage on theknot.com... then she will see in the write up that she was dumped for me... I have on the webpage when we started dating. When he broke up with her, he told her it was because he was too busy with school and they lived too far apart... a bunch of BS excuses. I want this girl to know that she was dumped because he met the girl of his dreams and that she meant nothing to him. I would send this email, but I don''t want her to start emailing him again. What should I do???? Am I being stupid?