House Cat|1424993860|3838729 said:"Hon" is another thing all together.
My husband's ex-wife used to call me "hon." It would grate up my spine like fingernails on a chalkboard. That woman was the worst piece of sociopathic work I have ever known, but we had to fake it...for the kids. There she was, calling me "hon" and she was younger than me. I truly believe it was her way of messing with me while appearing sweet.
As I said, I know the girl at the video game store didn't mean any harm. I think that manners are a lost art when raising kids these days. Wow, I sound like a really old, angry, lady. Where's my leopard print fur coat and my elongated cigarette holder? I guess it's time to shrivel up and be my eccentric old self!
kitsunegrl|1425003731|3838802 said:I don't mind being called hon at all. I use it too. Babe is reserved for dh.
This may be a Louisiana thing, but people that are younger than you but are either family friends or general acquaintances use The term Miss ( your name). Hello, Miss L..... Or Hello Mr. Mike. It's a nice balance I think.
azstonie|1424988893|3838697 said:Yes, one can win.
Example: I dont get cranky if anyone calls me ma'am. Or Miss. Or Excuse me,.
If the person addressing me is a professional I am retaining, hon, sweetie, dear are unacceptable and I find another doc/dentist/lawyer to remunerate.
Retail staff? I don't like it but it's not a continuing relationship usually.
Some random man? Uh, No.
It's about respect. I bet many of you wouldn't put up with that from a male store clerk, waiter, etc so why give our own gender a free pass?
In my teaching years, I NEVER referred to a parent (client) that way. When I worked in state government calling anyone such things would get one counseled, trained and ultimately fired if that disrespect was persistent.
Now in Balmer? Even I have heard of the Balmer Hons and I would love that!!!!
missy|1425043160|3839027 said:Random example. I like it when Callie and Gypsy refer to me as "hon". Then I feel it is a term of endearment by lovely women used in the nicest way.
If a younger woman calls an older woman miss, it can also be seen as disrespectful, because miss is generally reserved for younger folk.Chrono|1425042900|3839026 said:You cannot go wrong with "Excuse me" and "Mister/Miss" when addressing a stranger. It grates me when I am called "Hon", "Sweetie" and such from people I don't know or barely know but I shrug it off because the likelihood of us meeting and interacting again is slim to none.
Maisie said:I am replying again to this thread because someone used a familiar term on me last night. I hurt my back yesterday and I was in agony. I had to phone for an out of hours check up. The lady making the appt kept calling me 'my love'. I have to admit it was comforting because I was quite upset. She has a great bedside manner. Not so sure how I would feel being called that at a supermarket check out, but I quite liked it last night!
Gypsy said:missy|1425043160|3839027 said:Random example. I like it when Callie and Gypsy refer to me as "hon". Then I feel it is a term of endearment by lovely women used in the nicest way.
I am glad. I consider you a friend and that's all I mean by it. That I like you.
anne_h|1425134648|3839718 said:Are men addressed like this?
AGBF|1425124416|3839681 said:...
This is more than a bit outré, but when my daughter was younger she disobeyed me and brought a man-a man with a prison record, no less-into the house after I had told her not to. I found the door to her bedroom upstairs closed and locked. I ran up the stairs, banged on it, demanded entry, and found a naked man trying to hide in her closet. (My daughter was naked as a jaybird in the middle of the room.) I screamed at the man to come out before I called the police and hedid, tring to cove up with some pieces of clothing. I remember he said, "I', sorry, Miss" and I said, "I am not "Miss". I am a married woman. You address me as "Ma'am"!"
And thus began my relationship with one of the three guys my daughter has dated who came to call me, "Mom"! (Yes, he was an ex-con. But he was very respectful to my daughter and me.)
AGBF