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Sorry to hear the Tiffany ring is gone
but I'm sure in the end you'll end up with the perfect one. If you're feeling frustrated at this point, feel free to take a few days to settle down before you start your search again.
I just want to agree with MollyMalone above - please don't get her a solitaire. Since you asked her opinion, I think you should listen to it. She has made it so clear that she likes halos, and the last thing you want is for her to feel confused or disappointed when you present the ring to her. You only get to propose once, and she should get to enjoy those first few days/weeks/months with a ring she loves rather than a ring that's "halfway there" and needs to be "upgraded" later. Some people may not even like the idea of an upgrade, and sometimes life gets in the way (buying a house, having kids etc) and you may not be able to justify a frivolous cost such as upgrading a setting.
A quick side story: When my ex-husband proposed with a solitaire even though he knew I wanted a pave band, he told me he was afraid to have one custom made in case I didn't like it. So he had it set in a simple solitaire and the jeweller said we could go and swap out the setting right away for a custom one designed with my input. But once he proposed with that ring, I didn't want any other one and never did get the kind that I really wanted. I'm not bashing him and it wasn't a huge deal to me, but still, I didn't choose to "upgrade" because of the sentimental aspect of that being the actual ring he proposed with. I don't think most forum members here think that way, but in the real world it's common.
This is a forum about diamonds, so it's understandable that the members think the diamond is most important, but we should also keep in mind that to your girlfriend this is a "ring" as a whole, not just a "diamond." Not everyone needs the biggest diamond, some people are happier with a piece of jewelry they truly like, rather than a larger diamond with an overall look they don't adore. You should obviously aim to maximize the value you get for your budget, but not at the expense of the one guideline she gave you. You can still get a nice halo with a nice size diamond within your budget.
I just want to agree with MollyMalone above - please don't get her a solitaire. Since you asked her opinion, I think you should listen to it. She has made it so clear that she likes halos, and the last thing you want is for her to feel confused or disappointed when you present the ring to her. You only get to propose once, and she should get to enjoy those first few days/weeks/months with a ring she loves rather than a ring that's "halfway there" and needs to be "upgraded" later. Some people may not even like the idea of an upgrade, and sometimes life gets in the way (buying a house, having kids etc) and you may not be able to justify a frivolous cost such as upgrading a setting.
A quick side story: When my ex-husband proposed with a solitaire even though he knew I wanted a pave band, he told me he was afraid to have one custom made in case I didn't like it. So he had it set in a simple solitaire and the jeweller said we could go and swap out the setting right away for a custom one designed with my input. But once he proposed with that ring, I didn't want any other one and never did get the kind that I really wanted. I'm not bashing him and it wasn't a huge deal to me, but still, I didn't choose to "upgrade" because of the sentimental aspect of that being the actual ring he proposed with. I don't think most forum members here think that way, but in the real world it's common.
This is a forum about diamonds, so it's understandable that the members think the diamond is most important, but we should also keep in mind that to your girlfriend this is a "ring" as a whole, not just a "diamond." Not everyone needs the biggest diamond, some people are happier with a piece of jewelry they truly like, rather than a larger diamond with an overall look they don't adore. You should obviously aim to maximize the value you get for your budget, but not at the expense of the one guideline she gave you. You can still get a nice halo with a nice size diamond within your budget.