purrfectpear
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Search your old threads and reread. It''s clear you were not on the same page, and only managed to waste more time. Stay strong
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I''m proud of you!Date: 2/22/2010 9:27:02 AM
Author: Skychick
Hardest email I ever sent. But, I know where I stand now.
Date: 2/20/2010 7:12:40 PM
Author: monarch64
Write down what you want, Starset. You will get through this breakup and move on. Just believe in yourself.
That is awesome. Truly. I love this.Date: 2/20/2010 7:12:40 PM
Author: monarch64
Starset, don''t cave. Don''t settle. There is nothing wrong with missing someone but indulging in fantasies of what might have been are not doing you any good. I want to share something with you, I met my SO when I was spending a weekend at home last fall and thinking about who I saw myself with, if anyone, as far as dating. I decided to post a silly ad on Craigslist. I just wrote from the heart, and honest to god I ended up with exactly what I wanted. Here''s my ad:
Title: (women seeking men) Attention Grabbing Title
''Your pic gets mine. I''m single, looking for a man with ALL of the following qualities: (I know you''re out there, and probably you don''t resort to answering CL ads but I''ll take my chances) Tall, some sort of ''hot'' factor, articulate, able to spell whether in emails or texts or even (ohmygod!) in random and sickeningly sweet Hallmark cards, NOT an attention whore, and financially comfortable.
I''m a great catch. If your response seems interesting and I decide to respond, you won''t be disappointed. My bullshit meter performs very well, so don''t bother conveniently omitting the fact that you have 10 kids or that you''re married or that you''re a convicted felon from your reply. Cheers.''~Monarch64
Write down what you want, Starset. You will get through this breakup and move on. Just believe in yourself.
Ugh, it sucks so much that you work together--nothing like rubbing salt in a wound daily.Date: 3/4/2010 4:28:45 PM
Author: Starset Princess
Thanks JG. It''s decent. He still texts me stupid stuff like ''The hockey match of the decade is on at 2:15. Don''t forget to tune in.'' Another one was ''I suck at trivia without you.'' Which meant he was over at our friends house playing trivia like ''we'' used to. No matter how many times he gets ignored, he still sends me texts. I can''t give in though because HE has nothing to lose. We work together and one time he walked up behind me while I was getting coffee and whispered ''I think about this decision every day. Don''t think for one second that I don''t.'' I turned and smiled and said, ''I know.'' And then in my best don''t trip or run into the wall walk, I waltzed away.
We''ve both lost weight since January, I got a new sassy hair cut and he got (sexy) new glasses. The electricity between us is unbearable so I stay away from his sector.
No. He''s not. He''s doing it for exactly the reason he told you - "you are putting so much more into this relationship than he is and he doesn''t think he wants this anymore."Date: 3/3/2010 11:12:20 PM
Author: prettylnpink419
This is exactly what I needed to read tonight. I am so heart broken at the moment. You women are all so strong, I don''t know if I can be that strong. Not being with him feels so wrong. I won''t bore everyone with the details but we went from moving in together next week and talking about what he wants for his birthday in two weeks to fighting about something stupid to him saying he never wanted to move in and it feels wrong and i''m putting so much more into this relationship than he is and he doesn''t think he wants this anymore. He asked for a break. Time to be alone, and not have to worry about anyone but himself.
I really feel like he''s doing this because he is scared. Doesn''t make it okay though.
I feel very mislead and hurt and more than anything, sad. I can''t get past the thought that I might never fall asleep with him again. I might never kiss him again. All of our plans may be thrown out the window. Three years of my life, wasted.
I feel like I know I should deserve better but just can''t let go of him. I want to call him, text him, e-mail him. I want to go over there and make him talk to me. I want him to see that not being together is wrong.
I feel so weak. So unsure. So sad. So scared. So alone.![]()
Date: 3/4/2010 5:50:10 PM
Author: purrfectpear
No. He''s not. He''s doing it for exactly the reason he told you - ''you are putting so much more into this relationship than he is and he doesn''t think he wants this anymore.''Date: 3/3/2010 11:12:20 PM
Author: prettylnpink419
This is exactly what I needed to read tonight. I am so heart broken at the moment. You women are all so strong, I don''t know if I can be that strong. Not being with him feels so wrong. I won''t bore everyone with the details but we went from moving in together next week and talking about what he wants for his birthday in two weeks to fighting about something stupid to him saying he never wanted to move in and it feels wrong and i''m putting so much more into this relationship than he is and he doesn''t think he wants this anymore. He asked for a break. Time to be alone, and not have to worry about anyone but himself.
I really feel like he''s doing this because he is scared. Doesn''t make it okay though.
I feel very mislead and hurt and more than anything, sad. I can''t get past the thought that I might never fall asleep with him again. I might never kiss him again. All of our plans may be thrown out the window. Three years of my life, wasted.
I feel like I know I should deserve better but just can''t let go of him. I want to call him, text him, e-mail him. I want to go over there and make him talk to me. I want him to see that not being together is wrong.
I feel so weak. So unsure. So sad. So scared. So alone.![]()
You need to do yourself a favor and stop looking for excuses or hidden meanings. He''s done until he tells you he isn''t done, and what his plans for the future are, and how you can know that it won''t happen again. Until that happens, he''s done. Not scared, not confused, not any other excuse you want to make for him. He doesn''t want to be in the relationship with you at the level you thought it was at.
Remember your self respect, find something usefull to do and good luck![]()
Trumps glasses. FYI, just in case you were wondering.Date: 3/4/2010 4:28:45 PM
Author: Starset Princess
Thanks JG. It''s decent. He still texts me stupid stuff like ''The hockey match of the decade is on at 2:15. Don''t forget to tune in.'' Another one was ''I suck at trivia without you.'' Which meant he was over at our friends house playing trivia like ''we'' used to. No matter how many times he gets ignored, he still sends me texts. I can''t give in though because HE has nothing to lose. We work together and one time he walked up behind me while I was getting coffee and whispered ''I think about this decision every day. Don''t think for one second that I don''t.'' I turned and smiled and said, ''I know.'' And then in my best don''t trip or run into the wall walk, I waltzed away.
We''ve both lost weight since January, I got a new sassy hair cut and he got (sexy) new glasses. The electricity between us is unbearable so I stay away from his sector.
Thanks so much, IL! He did have many good qualities and this was not exactly how we thought things would turn out. But this has to be the most civil breakup possible. I think she is still down about it, but she is keeping busy with her friends and has had one interview and has two more scheduled within the next week. So hopefully that dust is working!Date: 3/7/2010 4:45:44 PM
Author: IndyLady
DS, I am so sorry to hear that! I remember reading about your daughter and being so impressed that she had such a proactive boyfriend. He seems like an honest and straightforward guy, and I have to commend him for that. Lots of hugs and healing dust for your daughter.