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This is so true. My summer daycare teachers all knew about the beatings, but it wasn't a crime back then, unless they killed you. My mother always told me that if I ever told anyone, she would kill me and be happy to go to prison over it. Things have really changed in that regard...
[/QUOTE]Nope I was in a violent home, drug addicted mother, drunk father, violence, abuse, neglect, guns, I left home at 17 but I had 2 little brothers that were 4 and 5 years younger than me that I had to take care of and returned as much as I could.. One bro is insane the other died of lung cancer at 58. I was diagnosed 2x with PTSD, I worked since I was 15, my mother tried to kill me at 13, my brother tried to kill my mother when he was 31, my sister was in a mental institution twice, mugged, destroyed emotionally.. I had loads and tons of fun and continual violence so you aren't the only one who had it bad. That is the problem with people they think their the ONLY ones who've struggled and made it.. Both my brothers are convicted felons for drugs, both had just a felony on driving drunk, one bro had drunk driving convictions in 6 states, sobriety ha!... I never had a car till I was 24. When my grandmother died when I was 13, my life ended, no where to go no one cared, not one person.. Ima sure many people have survived mental, physical abuse, but scaring is there.. I've had therapy on and off for years, I take no crap from anyone because I was on my own basically at 13. Sex? there's a story I'll never share again here.. sheesh. So maybe you were living in a car but I was living in hell and taking care of my brothers because my older sister was too delicate and cowered by my parents afraid of dying I guess.. but I wasn't. Life sucks, then ya die. You are not unique, I'm not afraid of a bully. My brothers and sister did not make it emotionally, they were devoid, empty. Sad.
This is so true. My summer daycare teachers all knew about the beatings, but it wasn't a crime back then, unless they killed you. My mother always told me that if I ever told anyone, she would kill me and be happy to go to prison over it. Things have really changed in that regard...
“Millennials are the gen that won’t grow up” is an insult. Maybe the status quo has changed and what boomers view as “growing up” doesn’t apply anymore.
When your sick everyone thinks they have the right to lecture you. From boomers to gen z and that was just in the last week.
Who should i blame?
You know I will say something for Gen X and that is that we were highly functional at a young age. It drives me crazy that now it's looked at as neglectful to send say a twelve year old to a local store to buy something, people will call the cops if they don't have an adult with them! I remember our son being 10 or 11 and needing sunscreen for camp, drove him to CVS and was going to send him inside with cash while I waited in the car. DH said no, he is too young...Whaaaaat?
I remember walking with my best friend across the city to Friendly's we would get seated and order two sundaes, ate them and paid and left a tip, we were around 11 possibly younger. So in one sense our parents did leave us much to ourselves but in turn we developed some street smarts, common sense and critical thinking skills.
Btw, I'm not talking about neglectful parents, that's different.
If you READ what I said, Boomers were the ME generation, not true, I was stating that labels are thrown on generations that are not necessary accurate.
Some were but not a high enough percentage to take all the blame.Liberals?
Sorry my mistake.
I would think that you, as someone who has missed the point of practically everything I’ve written in this thread, would sympathize with a lack of reading comprehension.
Some were but not a high enough percentage to take all the blame.
Well I would think that you, as someone who has totally missed the point of practically everything I've written in this thread could at least comprehend.
Ya know, all ya had to do with say, "Sorry I misinterpreted what you said" I wouldve said "hey no prob I've done it too" but noooo snark rules
It's boring.
No problem, I’m just reacting to your obvious rudeness by sending it back at ya. You give snark you get snark. Fair play regardless of age.
@Bayek, no, I'm not comparing Gen X to millenials or any other generation. Just speaking on my experience.
@Bayek, no, I'm not comparing Gen X to millenials or any other generation. Just speaking on my experience.
Well go back and read again because I was NOT THE ONE to start being rude, and if you had read my post and comprehended it you'd see I said that.. jeezus.
Fair game regardless of age goes both ways.
Okay--I am going to ask a perhaps inflammatory question.
This is a diamond forum. Meaning those of us here like shiny luxury items, no matter our generation.
Do millennials think that boomers or other generations are inherently evil because some of us can afford these sparkly things (even though there are many millenials posting some pretty spectacular stuff here)?
Because if Boomers are being blamed for millennials not having affordable education or being able to first time homes or find affordable rentals, why are those millennials on a diamond site?
This is a sincere question and I am not trying to get flamed. I guess my point is that there are boomers who are poor and boomers that are well off. Same for millennials. And generalizations are fodder for fools.
I appreciate your view. I don't say this to invalidate your reality, please don't misunderstand. I'm sure this was terrifying and left many psychological scars. I just want to highlight their reality as well.
These kids have seen literal blood splashed in their hallways, in their classrooms, on their faces and hands, and held the bodies of their friends. They watch 50 people gunned down at a concert, they watched the news of 49 die and 53 wounded at a nightclub multiplied exponentially in event after event. People they know. In their neighborhood.
Their daily existence is having to wear bullet proof backpacks and go through series of metal detectors with armed guards depending on location. Everyday. They learn to barricade doors and staunch gunshot wounds in class. They learn to run. They are taught how to hide. They learn to file out of school with their hands in the air so they aren't shot by SWAT teams accidentally. It is has the feel of intermittent warzone.
Their reality is one of immediacy. There has never been a time like this.
Okay--I am going to ask a perhaps inflammatory question.
This is a diamond forum. Meaning those of us here like shiny luxury items, no matter our generation.
Do millennials think that boomers or other generations are inherently evil because some of us can afford these sparkly things (even though there are many millenials posting some pretty spectacular stuff here)?
Because if Boomers are being blamed for millennials not having affordable education or being able to first time homes or find affordable rentals, why are those millennials on a diamond site?
This is a sincere question and I am not trying to get flamed. I guess my point is that there are boomers who are poor and boomers that are well off. Same for millennials. And generalizations are fodder for fools.
I don’t know anyone in my friend group who cares about jewelry! I do and used this site to find pieces that were the best quality for an affordable price.
I have never heard anyone say anything negative about an older person and their bling. It doesn’t seem to be on the radar for the most part.
I will say that friends (and myself) were engaged with non-traditional wedding rings. I have a Cartier Trinity ring, a good friend has a pearl ring (and a box of replacement pearls). I see a lot of simple diamond bands. This can lead to hostility if an older coworker or relative comes in and discounts the ring for not being traditional. This happened to me a few times “What he can’t afford a diamond?” Meanwhile I have other diamond jewelry and just love my Trinity ring. We picked it out on a trip to Paris cue “You could have put that money towards a diamond” and then talk about how everyone has a diamond.
For the most part, it’s not that younger people blame boomers for financial hardship. It’s the fact that some boomers tell us what we should be doing without taking into consideration that the world is vastly different than it was 40 years ago. Nobody wants to be lectured about living up to an unrealistic standard.
Okay--I am going to ask a perhaps inflammatory question.
This is a diamond forum. Meaning those of us here like shiny luxury items, no matter our generation.
Do millennials think that boomers or other generations are inherently evil because some of us can afford these sparkly things (even though there are many millenials posting some pretty spectacular stuff here)?
Because if Boomers are being blamed for millennials not having affordable education or being able to first time homes or find affordable rentals, why are those millennials on a diamond site?
This is a sincere question and I am not trying to get flamed. I guess my point is that there are boomers who are poor and boomers that are well off. Same for millennials. And generalizations are fodder for fools.
Oh and I'm sorry you're frightened at getting older, you too will become wiser, it just takes knowledge..
Amen. I was engaged in 1980 with no engagement ring and $18 wedding band. We had no $. I got the same comments about marrying someone who didn't buy me an engagement ring. I appreciate the embarrassment and hostility that can cause.
So---that is not a millennial vs. boomer thing, just more of an economic or personal values thing,
I am a huge fan of non-traditional engagement or wedding rings. It's nice that people can get what works for them.
Having been through that situation, I try to be very cognizant of not shaming anyone or embarrassing them. Any ring is a good ring if it signifies love and commitment and personal taste!
@Bayek sorry for the confusion! This right here is an attack. I’m just pointing it out in case you didn’t realize and would like to apologize to @SandyinAnaheim