Birth gift (jewelry)

[Hudson_Hawk]

I have a friend who is expecting. I recall hearing or reading somewhere that the father should buy a birth gift (usually jewelry) for the mother upon the successful birth of their child (or children). Has anyone else heard of this practice and can you point me in the direction of source that states the tradition? My friend is thinking of a small eternity band to stack with her ER and WR but needs some proof to back up the claim.

Thanks all!

H2

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I expect a "pushing present"

hehe. Signed pieces have great maternity rings that are pick or blue sapphires. I love the idea of stacking rings so she can wear them all together (as they have more and more children). I think an eternity band is the right idea.

 

[lisaC]

Google push present and you''ll get your evidence.
Link

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I had never officially heard of it until I came on PS. So you might have to use PS as the authority on jewelry gift occasions.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 12/18/2006 8:36:43 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I had never officially heard of it until I came on PS. So you might have to use PS as the authority on jewelry gift occasions.

Yeah, this wasn''t done when I was having kids. I wanna know if I can collect now, kinda like back taxes.

 

[tanuki]

I''m a Pediatrician and have seen quite a few new moms sporting new jewelry on my morning rounds.
Just last month there was a lady with a beautiful new diamond "circle of life" pendant which really set off the lovely hospital gown.

 

[colorkitty]

My husband and I aren''t having kids, but, if we did, I''d be all about the push present. I''ve wandered onto pregnancy message boards before out of sheer curiosity and every mention of push presents erupts into rounds of "the baby is enough of a present!" and "that''s ridiculous."

Whether it''s PC to say or not, both the mother and the father get the baby as a "gift" (if that''s how you choose to look at a baby; I tend to think of them as people and not presents). But only the mother was pregnant for 9 months. There''s no we in pregnancy. She went through the symptoms, the risks, and the childbirth. A push present is a token of appreciation for what she''s gone through to make them a family of three. It doesn''t need to be expensive or even jewelry, but I think it''s a nice concept.

 

[dtnyc]

My mom got a sapphire eternity band when I was born in 1976- don''t know why she got blue sapphires for a baby girl, probably because she liked them? She wore the band as an anniversary band w/ her wedding band and e-ring. It make a nice little set- she has since re-set her e-ring and w-band into yellow gold and she gave me the sapphire band... I wonder where it is?

She never referred to it as a "push gift" though- I find that term to be just a little tacky and gauche.

 

[asscherisme]

Hmm, I have 4 kids and have never heard of a push present before PS. My kids are not very old either (ranges from 3 to 10).

Almost all my friends have kids and none have gotten jewelry with kids either.

He bought me flowers with my first and that was pretty much all I got for all 4 kids. I bunch of flowers for the first one.

In movies you always see the man thanking the woman in the delivery room. Nope, not even that for him. I felt really disspointed that he did not even seem to appreciate the fact that I had just carried and given birth to his children.

If someone can afford it, I think jewelry is a really sweet thing to do.

One day, I''ll have a little chat with my sons and son in laws when they are expecting

 

[Stone Hunter]

My friend got her engagement diamond reset and a new diamond wedding band. He went to the NYC Diamond district and hand picked the diamonds for the band. That was 9.5 years ago. I think her husband came up with this idea all on his own

I am jealous. I didn''t get any jewelry and my husband doesn''t come up with these ideas on his own. Now her MIL is a big jewelry person so I bet that''s where it comes from.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 12/19/2006 9:05:36 AM
Author: dtnyc

She never referred to it as a ''push gift'' though- I find that term to be just a little tacky and gauche.

I think it is funny!

 

[asscherisme]

Well having pushed 4 kids out, I think its funny too. AND coming from this mom who never got one, I think if you can afford it, the effort is definately deserved of a gift The pushing is only the culmination of the discomforts of pregnancy. But then I was not one of those who enjoyed pregnancy, but I adore my kids so it was beyond worth it

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I agree that the mother should get a ''push present'', labor (and motherhood in general) is hard work! My husband got me a ring and a pair of earrings with our sons birthstone. After the second child, I got a mothers ring with both childrens'' birthstones, and after the third I added her birthstone to the ring.

 

[asscherisme]

I have some big news for anyone who does not have kids but wants them.

The pushing is the EASY part comparing to parenting those kids you push out LOL.

 

[Gypsy]

It think its more prevalent in some cultures that others. I know some women who have gotten jewelry on the birth of a son.... But didn''t know the terms was ''push present'' and frankly everytime I''ve seen it its been tied to a boy baby. I think its nice as a thank you to the mom... regardless of the sex of the baby. But it bugs me as a gift for a boy.

 

[Ellen]

Date: 12/19/2006 1:11:00 PM
Author: asscherisme
I have some big news for anyone who does not have kids but wants them.

The pushing is the EASY part comparing to parenting those kids you push out LOL.

Yeah, I''m looking forward to the next big push, out the door.

Just kidding!


Kinda.

 

[widget]

Date: 12/19/2006 1:51:19 PM
Author: Ellen
Yeah, I''m looking forward to the next big push, out the door.

LOL LOL LOL!!!!!!

My opinion: Who cares if it''s a tradition???? I think it''s a lovely idea!

....and it wouldn''t even necessarily have to break the bank, either.

I''ve always thought a peapod pendant would be cute...like these from Michael Michaud. (I wonder if you could order an ''empty'' one, and then add a pearl, birthstone, or diamond (

) "pea" for each new baby...):

widget

 

[jadeleaves]

Date: 12/19/2006 1:11:00 PM
Author: asscherisme
I have some big news for anyone who does not have kids but wants them.


The pushing is the EASY part comparing to parenting those kids you push out LOL.

Amen to that

, and my little one is only 12 wks old

Back on topic, I think the idea of a gift for the birth is fantastic

. Hubby upgraded my ring and got a matching w-band for the new ring as a combination anniversary and baby gift.

I still haven''t got it though, as it''s in the process of getting made at MWM. I just heard today that it will be ready around mid jan!! Woohoo!!!

 

[Linda W]

Date: 12/19/2006 1:11:00 PM
Author: asscherisme
I have some big news for anyone who does not have kids but wants them.
The pushing is the EASY part comparing to parenting those kids you push out LOL.




HA HA HA HA HA HA HA. Ellen, you crack me up.

When my daughter was born, I receved flowers. My hubby went out and bought himself a new stero. What was with that?????

Linda

 

[widget]

Date: 12/19/2006 4:56:50 PM
Author: Linda W

When my daughter was born, I receved flowers. My hubby went out and bought himself a new stero. What was with that?????

LOL...Too funny, Linda!

Show him this thread and shame him into working on an LM colored stone ring for you!

widget

 

[Linda W]

Yeah, I''m looking forward to the next big push, out the door.



Oops, Ellen you said th above, ha ha ha ha ha.


Linda, who can''t read right, better put on my glasses.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 12/19/2006 1:51:19 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 12/19/2006 1:11:00 PM
Author: asscherisme
I have some big news for anyone who does not have kids but wants them.

The pushing is the EASY part comparing to parenting those kids you push out LOL.

Yeah, I''m looking forward to the next big push, out the door.

Just kidding!


Kinda.

Lol! We must have kids near the same age!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 12/19/2006 2:19:31 PM
Author: widget

Date: 12/19/2006 1:51:19 PM
Author: Ellen
Yeah, I''m looking forward to the next big push, out the door.

LOL LOL LOL!!!!!!

My opinion: Who cares if it''s a tradition???? I think it''s a lovely idea!

....and it wouldn''t even necessarily have to break the bank, either.

I''ve always thought a peapod pendant would be cute...like these from Michael Michaud. (I wonder if you could order an ''empty'' one, and then add a pearl, birthstone, or diamond (

) ''pea'' for each new baby...):

widget

Glad you all got a chuckle.


widget, those are adorable!! A pea for each child would be sweet.

 

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Date: 12/18/2006 8:51:00 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 12/18/2006 8:36:43 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I had never officially heard of it until I came on PS. So you might have to use PS as the authority on jewelry gift occasions.

Yeah, this wasn''t done when I was having kids. I wanna know if I can collect now, kinda like back taxes.

ROFL! Ellen, if I was drinking milk when reading this it would be coming out my nose right now this had me laughing so hard! That and the push ''em out the door comment!

Hmm, back taxes - you may just get the biggest honker in the history of PS!!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 12/19/2006 7:36:36 PM
Author:

Date: 12/18/2006 8:51:00 PM
Author: Ellen

Date: 12/18/2006 8:36:43 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I had never officially heard of it until I came on PS. So you might have to use PS as the authority on jewelry gift occasions.

Yeah, this wasn''t done when I was having kids. I wanna know if I can collect now, kinda like back taxes.

ROFL! Ellen, if I was drinking milk when reading this it would be coming out my nose right now this had me laughing so hard! That and the push ''em out the door comment!

Hmm, back taxes - you may just get the biggest honker in the history of PS!!

And well I should! Three kids, and all boys no less.