Biggest disappointment?

[mrs-b]

That's celebrities for you, fame and money go to their head.

100% true.

 

[seaurchin]

Thank you so much. I am so so sorry you have had to experience this - it’s just absolutely the worst feeling and I can’t imagine how much worse it would be once you’re married. i am grateful that if it had to happen, it happened now. But ugh, there’s so much anger and betrayal, especially since he is now in a relationship with her and I hear it’s serious. I want to warn her lol that that’s usually when he cheats so she should steer clear. But she knew when she started seeing him that he had a partner and she didn’t care. So they deserve each other.

I had a good friend for years who started doing this kind of thing. I don't know why, but her strong sense of fairness (which was something I had always especially liked about her) just went right out the window somewhere along the line.

I know some people think that if you're not the one who's with somebody then you're not doing anything wrong but I disagree. But I also know none of us are perfect of course so I wouldn't ditch a long term friend for making what I feel is a mistake. But when it became a pattern, then I felt like it was no longer mistakes she had made but the type of person she had become. It weighed heavily in why I decided to end the friendship.

Anyway, she married one of the guys she was seeing behind his wife's back. Then, after all the times she'd sat there listening to him lie to his wife on the phone when he was with her and helped him scheme about how to fool his wife and cover up their secret meetings, suddenly she was the one on the other side of that deal. And she was a basket case every time he was a little late coming home from work or went somewhere without her. Their marriage didn't last, even though I don't know that he did ever cheat on her too. So I feel like "karma" is often just people getting exactly what they ordered. fwiw

 

[AllAboardTheBlingTrain]

I had a good friend for years who started doing this kind of thing. I don't know why, but her strong sense of fairness (which was something I had always especially liked about her) just went right out the window somewhere along the line.

I know some people think that if you're not the one who's with somebody then you're not doing anything wrong but I disagree. But I also know none of us are perfect of course so I wouldn't ditch a long term friend for making what I feel is a mistake. But when it became a pattern, then I felt like it was no longer mistakes she had made but the type of person she had become. It weighed heavily in why I decided to end the friendship.

Anyway, she married one of the guys she was seeing behind his wife's back. Then, after all the times she'd sat there listening to him lie to his wife on the phone when he was with her and helped him scheme about how to fool his wife and cover up their secret meetings, suddenly she was the one on the other side of that deal. And she was a basket case every time he was a late coming home from work or went somewhere without her. Their marriage didn't last, even though I don't know that he did ever cheat on her too. So I feel like "karma" is often just people getting exactly what they ordered. fwiw

I am a strong believer in karma, so I do believe that you get what you deserve, eventually.

Imo the best revenge I could ever have imagined for them both is having to be with each other. He is incapable of fidelity and naturally, projects that mistrust upon his partners. She clearly knows that about him and would have a healthy amount of paranoia as well.

So good luck to them. I have cried a lot today - I think you saw my post on the other thread since I seem to remember you commented, but onwards and upwards. In a way, I feel like the worst is behind me.

 

[LightBright]

i have tried really really hard to get over mine ...but its still there in the background
see i flew cattle class (Including the layovers alone in transit) for 36 hours both way to see Bruce Springsteen (my imperfectly perfect hero for the first time, to Moncton in NB Canada, btw that venue, magnetic hill has the most amazing sound, go see anybody there if you have the chance, green old me thought that was typical sound, it was not ...
anyway back a few months
see its 2012, i woke up one morning during the Wrecking ball tour and switched on the net to find the holy grail had been played, i was leaping around the house, yelling and screaming in excitment, like heart attack excitment

so im finally going to see Bruce Springsteen and the E street band ....

anyway the night before the concert in Moncton i think in Montréal, where i could have had a stop over and attended if i had known what i was doing, he played my favourite song
i know this sounds minor compaired to everyone else, but this song to me when i first heard this particuar version was like hearing not just music, but sound, for the very first time
thankfully i did not realize till i got home how close i'd been to missing it, roaming data was really expensive in those days

then they extended the tour to Australia and of course i couldnt go because the piggy bank was now empty
and yip, in Sydney he played that song, the way i like it, again
i was devistated
until this particular tour this song had not been played like this since 1980,

Bruce has since been back to NZ and again its been played in Australia but never crosses the ditch the next week

last time he even played in it Auckland,

but the other version

and you know in the modern era it honestly gets better and more defined every time he plays it, not that its been played that way much this last tour that so far hasn't come down under

after Auckland i did go back to my hotel and cry, because i cannot express in words how much this song means to me, but it has to be the long version that we call the '78 intro

and you know some very misguided fans even prefer the other version to the '78 version yet they get the extended version and not me
i cant listen to the other version as im always thinking why? why ? why? not for me !!!

so you know never mind the regrettes about not trying harder at school, not having a carerr, not growing up to make a difference or change the world, my biggest dissapoinment is not getting the '78 version of Prove it all night and it just eats me up
and i feel so horrible over it, like im being terribly ungreatful

YES. This is the absolute best of Bruce and The EStreet band on this song. My good friend was a Bruce fan. She used to tell me a normal concert was four hours plus. On and jamming and grooving together like athletes putting EVERYTHING into every song! This version you share of Prove It All Night is fantastic!! What venue was this? (Edit I see it was winterland SF 1978 and he mentions on your audio clip after acknowledging all the musicians which he always did, “that some day somebody will hear this song through the magic of bootlegging” LOL) I really love early Bruce and his band. Just wow. Thank you for sharing This version! I’m sorry you missed it. And wonder if there’s a way you could request he play it next time. He’s known to be down to earth w fans!

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

YES. This is the absolute best of Bruce and The EStreet band on this song. My good friend was a Bruce fan. She used to tell me a normal concert was four hours plus. On and jamming and grooving together like athletes putting EVERYTHING into every song! This version you share of Prove It All Night is fantastic!! What venue was this? (Edit I see it was winterland SF 1978 and he mentions on your audio clip after acknowledging all the musicians which he always did, “that some day somebody will hear this song through the magic of bootlegging” LOL) I really love early Bruce and his band. Just wow. Thank you for sharing This version! I’m sorry you missed it. And wonder if there’s a way you could request he play it next time. He’s known to be down to earth w fans!

this is sad reading

Winterland Ballroom - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

i know nothing of the San Francsico music sceen but its the winterland ballroom, nowdays its apartmnets as it was pulled down
this concert was in its last year of existance
it was an ice skating rink
it makes sense it was owned by Bill Graham

Prove it all night in the modern era is just as awsome as in 1978
it just gets better and better (the actual opening guitar solo)
there is much argument on my Springsteen forum which concert in 1978 was better ! but for me its always Winterland becuase that's what jump started my fandom -like a shock from a defibulator !!!

 

[kenny]

That we die.

 

[missy]

That we die.

That may be the final disappointment of all

"
I remember when I was a little girl
Our house caught on fire
I'll never forget the look on my father's face as he
Gathered me up in his arms and
Faced through the burning building out on the pavement
And I stood there
Shivering in my pajamas and
WAtched the whole world go up in flames
And when it was all over
I said to myself
Is that all there is to a fire?
Is that all there is
Is that all there is?
If that's all there is my friends
Then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is
And when I was twelve years old
My daddy took me to the circus
The greatest show on Earth
There were clowns and elephants, dancing bears
And a beautiful lady in pink
Tights flew high above our heads
And as I sat there watching
I had the feeling that something was missing
I don't know what, but
When it was over
I said to myself
Is that all there is to the circus?
Is that all there is
Is that all there is?
If that's all there is my friends
Then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is
And then I fell in love
With the most wonderful boy in the world
We'd take long walks by the river or
Just sit for hours gazing into each other's eyes
We were so very much in love
Then one day
He went away
And I thought I'd die, but I didn't
And when I didn't
I said to myself
Is that all there is to love?
Is that all there is
Is that all there is?
If that's all there is, my friends
Then let's keep
I know what you must be saying to yourselves
If that's the way she feels about it
Why doesn't she just end it all?
Oh, no, not me
I'm not ready for that final disappointment
Because I know
Just as well as I'm standing here talking to you
That when that final moment comes
And I'm breathing my last breat
I'll be saying to myself
Is that all there is
Is that all there is?
If that's all there is my friend
Then let's keep dancing
Let's break out the booze and have a ball
If that's all there is

 

[Austina]

Thinking that you matter to someone, and realising you don’t.

 

[canuk-gal]

Thinking that you matter to someone, and realising you don’t.

Taking kindness for weakness; emotional usury are truly low points.

 

[missy]

Thinking that you matter to someone, and realising you don’t.

100% agree

Taking kindness for weakness; emotional usury are truly low points.

Yup. People who do this are not kind people themselves though of course initially they can fool others. I've been fooled and I have experienced what Austina wrote above and what you wrote about kindness being viewed as a weakness. My philosophy in life works well for me because I am still me. But I learn and remember.."fool me once shame on you...fool me twice shame on me"...once someone shows me WHO they are you can bet I listen and hear and never forget.