allycat0303
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I am so upset right now. Yesturday night, my fiancé and my mom went to sign the contract for my venue. My mom had all these specifications of things she wanted to have done (sone Viet food issues..I don''t know). In any case, she was going to make sure that it would be ok to have that food catered etc. Since everything was decided, I didn`t think it would be a big deal. I couldn''t go because I was on call, and I had already seen the place and it was ok.
Now background on the venue. There are basically only 2 venues in the montreal area that fit the whol country wedding-water-garden thing I wanted. My original first choice of a venue changed owners, and the new banquet director REFUSED to give us a price per head. She refused to even give me a menu with prices on it, so we could have an idea of what it would. She told us basically, we put down a deposit, and then 3 months before the wedding we pick the food. I pushed hard and she VAGUELY said ''''Uhmmm well about 120-150$ minimum for food depnding on what you choose, with extra for drinks + open bar.'''' Now this rang all sorts of bells with me, because let''s face it, it''s hard to do a budget on info like that. And is that 120$ for 1 dish? Of course, this was the venue I had booked for the wedding this year (with a totally reasonable and specific contract and deposit) but had to be cancelled because of family issues (i.e my sister was determined to get married on that day).
SO anyways, I find this other place. It''s not my first choice, but it works for many reasons a) Good pricing b) dj is already included c) some minimal decoration needed but all in all a good compromise. I have resigned myself to a second choice venue, but it was ok, I''m actually even excited.
Then (I know you probably all see this coming), yesturday my mom and fiancé go to finalize the contract...and yup, my mom blows up at the owner. Totally insults him, says to my fiancé (in front of the owner) ''''if you want to do business with him, fine but I won''t come to the wedding'''' and gets up from the meeting and SLAMS the door on her way out. Now I did not get all the details from my fiancé because I just couldn`t handle it. I asked my fiancé ''''was she right, or was she wrong to act like that?'''' and he said ''''totally wrong, and I was really embarassed'''' He just apologized and left, but was fiancé was REALLY angry. He says (and I agree) that there is no going back to that venue, because it''s impossible.
Now she says to me that it''s ridiculous for me to pick a venue to save money (i.e, initially she loved this venue and pushed hard for it). Which is easy for her to say because fiancé and I are paying for all 80 of my parents and his parents friends to come to our wedding. Fiancé and I are inviting 20 people between the two of us. Sometimes I start to wonder if my mom does this stuff on purpose.
Now background on the venue. There are basically only 2 venues in the montreal area that fit the whol country wedding-water-garden thing I wanted. My original first choice of a venue changed owners, and the new banquet director REFUSED to give us a price per head. She refused to even give me a menu with prices on it, so we could have an idea of what it would. She told us basically, we put down a deposit, and then 3 months before the wedding we pick the food. I pushed hard and she VAGUELY said ''''Uhmmm well about 120-150$ minimum for food depnding on what you choose, with extra for drinks + open bar.'''' Now this rang all sorts of bells with me, because let''s face it, it''s hard to do a budget on info like that. And is that 120$ for 1 dish? Of course, this was the venue I had booked for the wedding this year (with a totally reasonable and specific contract and deposit) but had to be cancelled because of family issues (i.e my sister was determined to get married on that day).
SO anyways, I find this other place. It''s not my first choice, but it works for many reasons a) Good pricing b) dj is already included c) some minimal decoration needed but all in all a good compromise. I have resigned myself to a second choice venue, but it was ok, I''m actually even excited.
Then (I know you probably all see this coming), yesturday my mom and fiancé go to finalize the contract...and yup, my mom blows up at the owner. Totally insults him, says to my fiancé (in front of the owner) ''''if you want to do business with him, fine but I won''t come to the wedding'''' and gets up from the meeting and SLAMS the door on her way out. Now I did not get all the details from my fiancé because I just couldn`t handle it. I asked my fiancé ''''was she right, or was she wrong to act like that?'''' and he said ''''totally wrong, and I was really embarassed'''' He just apologized and left, but was fiancé was REALLY angry. He says (and I agree) that there is no going back to that venue, because it''s impossible.
Now she says to me that it''s ridiculous for me to pick a venue to save money (i.e, initially she loved this venue and pushed hard for it). Which is easy for her to say because fiancé and I are paying for all 80 of my parents and his parents friends to come to our wedding. Fiancé and I are inviting 20 people between the two of us. Sometimes I start to wonder if my mom does this stuff on purpose.