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Shiny_Rock
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aviastar|1382556373|3543069 said:Nope, not unreasonable to have these concerns (AT ALL!). If your husband could address your list of concerns, realistically- not in a vague way, would you be open to considering it?
Your concerns are legit and not easily overcome; perhaps if your husband could have your 'permission' to go ahead and see if there are solutions to them he would feel 1)more proactive, 2) supported in his worry about his parent, and 3) (hopefully) more empowered to say no to his parent because he has put in the effort to really check it out and has concrete examples of why it won't be possible for your family. I agree with amc, though, that MIL is being very unreasonable and none of these concerns will sway her; I'm more thinking about how to make your DH feel comfortable with putting his family's needs first without feeling like a bad son.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this; families are wonderful and awful and messy and glorious all at the same time and it's just hard to manage it all well all the time.
Thanks Aviastar, you do pose a good question. The thing is I really don't see what help we could even be at this stage apart from cleaning, grocery shopping etc. there are no current health concerns nor has there been in the past apart from a broken knee. It is funny how families are so different, my parents were so different to DH's in every way