Mrs Mitchell
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Listen to TGal, she knows!Date: 2/22/2010 11:42:08 AM
Author: TravelingGal
Yes, but not in the first couple of weeks, IMHO.Date: 2/22/2010 11:35:02 AM
Author: meresal
I totally get this. However, what about when I want to get away and do something with my friends? I can''t keep DH from doing things he likes, because then he will resent me when I want to take a night off.Date: 2/22/2010 11:24:52 AM
Author: TravelingGal
No meresal, NO. Baby comes early, he does not get to go to the party, even though your mom and you have things under control. Life must change for him too. That means sacrifices. Caretaking does not mean only when it is CONVENIENT. Best not to set that example early, especially since your DH even thought that going to a party at 39 weeks was OK.Date: 2/22/2010 11:20:56 AM
Author: meresal
Just an update...
I sent DH an email explaining all of my qualms about him going. He just called me at work and said that he now sees ''why'' it was a bad idea. Sometimes he reacts better to things that are written out, as opposed to being spoken.
To be honest, my mom is going to be here for a month after the baby is born, and if the baby happens to come before the party, then I could care less if he goes. It''s only one night and my mom will be there to help... but before teh baby arrives is just so much different to me. DH agreed that if the baby has not arrived by then, he will stay at home with me.
I''m honestly pretty surprised that he backed down already. I thought this was going to need a mediator
Thank you again for all of your input. I appreciate the advice!
Life is going to change drastically for both of us, and we definitely understand that... but to us, it doesn''t mean that our lives outside of a child have to come to a complete hault. DH has his moments of stupidity, and moments of clarity, but I would be a horrible person if I told him he couldn''t do anything now that a baby is here.
C definitely understands sacrifices and has already made many just to prepare for our baby. We are both changing, but I definitely can''t take away everything that he likes doing, just because we have a child. I would hate if he did that to me, and I can''t do that to him.
And I can pretty much assure you that your taking a NIGHT off won''t happen for awhile.