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A Tale of Two E-Rings

Discussion in 'Show Me the Bling! (Rings,Earrings,Jewelry)' started by annagene12, Sep 13, 2019.

  1. annagene12
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    by annagene12 » Sep 13, 2019
    I have been lurking on PS for a long while. I wanted to share my story and also give thanks for all of the incredible knowledge sharing you ladies (and men) provide for clueless girls like me! The process for my e-ring has been a little atypical and if anything I am looking for moral support! I hope this isn't too long!

    Background - My bf of 2+ years and I have been talking about marriage for a little while now. We are young and relatively serious people individually, with good careers but four parents to help support financially (his parents are both disabled, mine were just terrible at planning ahead). We prefer to make decisions, many times even small ones, jointly. Him surprising me with a ring was essentially against the fiber of how we operate in a relationship.

    We had talked at length about a very modest engagement/wedding, with matching budgets...but he's old school, and wanted to get me a diamond for my e-ring. I happily agreed to do research (he knew he'd be well out of his league and that I was excited at the prospect by contrast) and I quickly realized that our budget was woefully low for a diamond of any substantial size (which is what we both preferred :wall:). I am not a size queen in the traditional sense, but I am over 6ft tall with VERY large hands (size 7.5 with v long fingers) and anything under a carat looked teensy tiny, and even upwards to 1.5CTW seemed conservative for our taste (nothing wrong with it, just not for us).

    I scoured the internet. I learned that I liked round vintage stones, could bend on clarity, LOVED the warmer colors of the L-O range (my heart was set on M) but was having a hard time finding anything. I was in the midst of negotiating for a 1.76CTW RB stone I saw online (not vintage) and a custom setting, but it had an inclusion in the dead center that was quite visible and it was a little dull, but I thought...this is the best deal we'd get.

    On a whim, I perused a local vintage jeweler's website. And *GASP* I found my DREAM diamond ring. The color, size (2+ CARATS :shock:), with a setting nearly identical to the custom one I wanted....so my BF and I went the next day to the store! The catch?? It was so far beyond our original budget, and outside of what I thought we could afford...I felt sick about it. Of course, it was everything I could have hoped for besides cost, so I looked around and another ring unexpectedly caught my eye. It was a smaller old miner cut, a bit wonky (never what I would have picked online) but it was charming, the M color I liked, and when I sent my mother a photo, she told me it was just like my late grandmother's engagement ring - a woman I loved dearly and miss terribly. If you can believe it, I fell in love with that ring too, and at half the price, it entered into the "ring" of contenders.

    So now my friends, the decision is out of my hands - he wants to take it from here. I described what I liked about both, and why my BF in no way should feel guilted into buying the bigger stone. He's our financial planner, and assured me we could swing it, but I still wanted to give him the option and I frankly would be pleased with both, although the dream ring...UGH! I am sure you all understand. So now I am agonizing and hoping the wait is over soon! He confirmed that he bought one, asked for my father's hand...it's only a matter of time! :roll: They say patience is a virtue...

    The rings and pic with my giantess hand, I don't have all of the stats:

    1. Midcentury RB solitaire :pray:
    Setting - 14kt natural white gold (no rhodium) solitaire with lotus style prongs
    2.01CTW, 8.1mm spread
    M, SI1-SI2 (eye clean with a few white inclusions that are mostly covered by prongs)
    Pros: Lots of fire, lovely white reflections

    2. Art Deco Set Old Mine Cut
    Setting - vintage platinum
    1.00CTW, with 1.6CTW total (6 side diamonds, F-G color, VS clarity)
    M, SI3 (eye clean)
    Pros: Mined in the late 1800s, lots of history and character

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  2. tyty333
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    by tyty333 » Sep 13, 2019
    Each ring is beautiful in its own right. I love that a stone has history behind it. I hope you will be happy with whichever stone/ring he picked out!
     
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  3. Alex T
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    by Alex T » Sep 13, 2019
    Firstly, welcome to PS! And congratulations on the search for an engagement ring - exciting times.

    These are both beautiful rings & I adore the old charm & stories the antique stone could tell you! Personally, I'm a solitaire girl & I can see why you would like the one that's in the running.

    Please do come back after the proposal & show us your new (or very, very old!) sparkles!
     
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  4. hypermom
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    by hypermom » Sep 13, 2019
    Can’t wait to see what your boyfriend chooses for you!
     
    


    


  5. Diamond Girl 21
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    by Diamond Girl 21 » Sep 13, 2019
    Well this is exciting! I can't wait to see which ring he chooses for you.
     
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  6. junebug17
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    by junebug17 » Sep 13, 2019
    They are both beautiful @annagene12! Lots of wonderful things are ahead for you! This is very exciting and I can't wait to see which ring he chose.
     
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  7. Hounddog
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    by Hounddog » Sep 13, 2019
    ‘Welcome’ annagene12. They’re both beautiful rings and either will look lovely on you. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
    I think it’s actually fitting and lovely that your boyfriend gets to make the final decision, as technically/traditionally it’s a ring gifted from him to you.

    Obviously the most important aspect of all this...is that you have the best boyfriend and soon to be Fiancé for you, wishing you both a very happy life together, with whichever your engagement ring turns out to be.
    Hope we get to see it soon.:appl:
     
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  8. JPie
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    by JPie » Sep 13, 2019
    It sounds like the two of you have a very strong relationship and are considerate and thoughtful of each other. The ring is just the icing on the cake! Congratulations and I look forward to seeing which one he chose.
     
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  9. Daisys and Diamonds
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    by Daisys and Diamonds » Sep 13, 2019
    congradulations on your engagment
    i love the old one the best but they both look stunning on you
    i too look forward to knowing which one he's got you
     
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  10. Miss Marple
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    by Miss Marple » Sep 13, 2019
    They are both lovely rings. Very excited for you. Hope you’ll come back with updates.
     
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  11. arkieb1
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    by arkieb1 » Sep 14, 2019
    Very pretty congrats!!!
     
  12. luv2sparkle
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    by luv2sparkle » Sep 14, 2019
    That solitaire looks perfect on your hand!
     
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    by motownmama » Sep 14, 2019
    I have a preference, but alas - it’s not for ME!! When will we know the decision??? Can’t wait. And - CONGRATS!
     
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  14. Bonfire
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    by Bonfire » Sep 14, 2019
    Welcome to PS! I love your story so much! I can’t wait to see if I’m right about which ring he picked for you! ;)2 Lovely choices either one. Btw, your fingers are long and lovely! Beautiful.
     
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  15. missy
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    by missy » Sep 15, 2019
    Congratulations and looking forward to seeing your chosen ring...you guys have a strong relationship and that is what matters. Though the ring will be a beautiful symbol of the love and respect you two share. :appl:
     
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  16. Mamabean
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    by Mamabean » Sep 15, 2019
    I’m so excited for you..They are both beautiful rings. Please let us know which one he chose for you...Lots of pics please!
     
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    by angeljosephy » Sep 16, 2019
    I can't wait to see the one he chose on your hand after the proposal!:kiss2:
     
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    by HNGN » Sep 16, 2019
    excited for you!!! Can't wait on what your bf pick out in the end. I am sure he knows what you truly love.....:D:D
     
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    by diamondseeker2006 » Sep 16, 2019
    Very exciting! Come back and show us "the one"!
     
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  20. annagene12
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    by annagene12 » Sep 16, 2019
    What a lovely community this is!

    Thank you all so much for your kind words of encouragement! I will ABSOLUTELY keep everyone posted and will do another post of the final ring when the time comes. I am so excited!

    And you all are absolutely right - I love this man with all my heart and that is definitely most important, which is why either one he chooses will be perfect, because it will be a representation of how he wants to convey his love. I can’t wait to marry him.
     
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    by KristyDarling » Sep 16, 2019
    The love and respect between the two of you is truly special! It bodes very well for your future together! :kiss2: What a wonderful story and I'm so looking forward to reading about your soon(hopefully!)-to-be engagement!!
     
  22. Diamond_Hawk
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    by Diamond_Hawk » Sep 17, 2019 at 12:38 AM
    This is fantastic - Don't forget to return with the conclusion of the story.
     
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    by pinklemonadegurl » Sep 17, 2019 at 5:13 PM
    Your hands are STUNNING, and either ring will be a sparkly and eye-catching testament to your love and commitment. Happy and excited for you-has he 'hinted' as to when......:twisted2:
     

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