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I’m going to try and be brief. Upfront admission—I am horribly indecisive and struggle with the anxiety of making a “wrong” decision. I have two diamonds-- .82 E VS2 CBI and 1.11 I SI1 OEC. LOVE the CBI, not entirely thrilled with the OEC—I LOVE the OEC’s positive attributes, don’t like some of its less desirable qualities and ultimately would really prefer to have an OEC that I adore completely. I’ve gone back and forth on the OEC options—sell it; recut it; or set it, wear it, and see if I grow to love it completely. I keep getting stuck on some of the potential negative issues. The ones causing me the most anxiety include the following—
1. Selling is hard (and frankly, I’m afraid to try);
2. What if I decide I really do want to sell it and it doesn’t sell;
3. How would I ship with adequate insurance without announcing “hey, here’s a small valuable item—come steal it!”
4. What if I do sell it and can’t find another one I like more than this one, that's in my budget;
5. A recut is risky and will most likely sacrifice too much weight to justify fixing the issues that could be minor in someone else’s eyes;
6. It’s expensive to set a diamond that I may not want to keep in the long run;
7. If I do set it, do I choose a simple inexpensive setting in case I don’t grow to love it unconditionally, or do I set it in a more expensive setting that I really, really love?
There’s more, but you get the drift. I like the idea of having both an OEC and a CBI. I also justify having two because I’d like to have a diamond to leave to each of my daughters when I’m gone. But lately, another thought has been creeping into my head. I originally wanted to have my white gold CBI wedding set and a yellow gold OEC wedding set, to switch on and off. Should I “consolidate” instead? Maybe one bigger diamond would be better. As much as I love variety, taking my rings on and off is a bit of a chore. I have the dreaded Big Knuckle Syndrome which I imagine will only get worse with age. Will I want to switch out my wedding set five or ten years from now? I could sell my OEC and put the money towards a CBI upgrade. Or, I could sell my OEC, take advantage of HPD’s buyback and put the combined funds toward a bigger, better OEC.
Basically, I’ve just complicated my indecision issues by giving myself more options. Am I insane?? Yes, yes I am. Are these 1st world problems? Absolutely, I feel guilty even worrying about the whole thing. But I’m at the point in my life where I want to indulge in things that bring me joy and a gorgeous diamond is one of those things. The OEC is sitting idle because I can’t seem to make a decision. It’s shameful and a total waste to do nothing with it, so I really do want to make a move. Does anyone have any thoughts, ideas, or inspirations to help me work my way through my self-imposed quagmire? i could really use some perspective. Thanks!
I guess I wasn’t that brief… (sorry )
1. Selling is hard (and frankly, I’m afraid to try);
2. What if I decide I really do want to sell it and it doesn’t sell;
3. How would I ship with adequate insurance without announcing “hey, here’s a small valuable item—come steal it!”
4. What if I do sell it and can’t find another one I like more than this one, that's in my budget;
5. A recut is risky and will most likely sacrifice too much weight to justify fixing the issues that could be minor in someone else’s eyes;
6. It’s expensive to set a diamond that I may not want to keep in the long run;
7. If I do set it, do I choose a simple inexpensive setting in case I don’t grow to love it unconditionally, or do I set it in a more expensive setting that I really, really love?
There’s more, but you get the drift. I like the idea of having both an OEC and a CBI. I also justify having two because I’d like to have a diamond to leave to each of my daughters when I’m gone. But lately, another thought has been creeping into my head. I originally wanted to have my white gold CBI wedding set and a yellow gold OEC wedding set, to switch on and off. Should I “consolidate” instead? Maybe one bigger diamond would be better. As much as I love variety, taking my rings on and off is a bit of a chore. I have the dreaded Big Knuckle Syndrome which I imagine will only get worse with age. Will I want to switch out my wedding set five or ten years from now? I could sell my OEC and put the money towards a CBI upgrade. Or, I could sell my OEC, take advantage of HPD’s buyback and put the combined funds toward a bigger, better OEC.
Basically, I’ve just complicated my indecision issues by giving myself more options. Am I insane?? Yes, yes I am. Are these 1st world problems? Absolutely, I feel guilty even worrying about the whole thing. But I’m at the point in my life where I want to indulge in things that bring me joy and a gorgeous diamond is one of those things. The OEC is sitting idle because I can’t seem to make a decision. It’s shameful and a total waste to do nothing with it, so I really do want to make a move. Does anyone have any thoughts, ideas, or inspirations to help me work my way through my self-imposed quagmire? i could really use some perspective. Thanks!
I guess I wasn’t that brief… (sorry )