- Apr 3, 2004
he/she does not agree with your political ideologies?
AprilBaby|1479267653|4099139 said:I just stopped reading for a while so I didn't get mad at anyone.
missy|1479293840|4099225 said:No because a grudge hurts me more than the person I am holding it against. And just because someone has different political beliefs than me is not enough for me to dislike them.
BUT there are other factors that will absolutely make me not like someone which might be related.
That is, if you don't believe in equal rights for all.
If you hate someone because they have:
a different color skin; a different religion; a different gender or gender belief; love someone of the same sex; have different physical abilities or intellectual capabilities; and so on and so forth. Black, Muslim, Jewish, Indians, Pakistani, Native Americans, Palestinians, Israelis, Physically Disabled, Intellectually Disabled,Transgender, Gay and Women to name a few.
If you don't treat animals or children well. If you have hate in your heart.
When you get to know someone you get to know who they really are and then I know if I like them or I don't or if I even hate them. So yeah there are people I don't like and people I hate but I have good reason to feel that way. Bigger and more important reasons than your political affiliation which does not automatically make you a bad or good person.
I don't know azy... maybe it isn't petty, maybe it's just a part of you that is being protective and honest. Maybe you needed that part of you a long time ago, to stay safe...You know?azstonie|1479312080|4099293 said:Sigh, I'm a grudge holder in general and I dislike this part of my personality, its petty.
House Cat|1479313434|4099300 said:I don't know azy... maybe it isn't petty, maybe it's just a part of you that is being protective and honest. Maybe you needed that part of you a long time ago, to stay safe...You know?azstonie|1479312080|4099293 said:Sigh, I'm a grudge holder in general and I dislike this part of my personality, its petty.
I am the same way and I acknowledge that is why I hold grudges. It makes it easier to let go.
I am a work in progress.
Elliot86|1479319668|4099331 said:I dislike some people who post here. I'm quite sure they dislike me just as much. The sun will rise tomorrow. I don't think about them for a second of my life otherwise.
There was one poster here who was really "sad" when gay marriage was legalized and started preaching. I heavily side eye whenever the username comes up.
However if a person says something in passing but is otherwise cool, no grudges. I more notice patterns or extremes.
dk168 said:I respect everyone is entitled to his/her own views and opinions on everything.
I expect the same courtesy in return.
JoCoJenn|1479352830|4099562 said:Saw this on a church marquee sign 12 or so years ago and it stuck with me: "Holding a grudge is letting someone live rent-free in your head".
I'm not in the 'landlord' business.
We may disagree; I might think some of your opinions are extreme, and you probably think mine are as well. But I haven't walked in your shoes, and you haven't walked in mine, so law abiding human beings have my respect and the benefit of the doubt, and I would hope I would have others' respect for the same reasons as well.
If not, I only have one question - do you also offer room service?
azstonie|1479353520|4099567 said:That sign was left up after a 13-step meeting.
purplesparklies|1479336275|4099459 said:dk168 said:I respect everyone is entitled to his/her own views and opinions on everything.
I expect the same courtesy in return.
Yes. While I may not agree with some opinions or viewpoints, I choose to believe that people are generally good and kind and have good intentions. It is all about perspective and I can not judge the perspective of one whose path I have not walked. I can not imagine feeling strongly negative personal feelings about an individual based solely on the brief glimpses of their lives they share within a few sentences. I hate no one. Even those with whom I strongly disagree, I do not hate.
In my former life as a teacher, I worked with children with behavior disorders. I always felt that the worse the behavior, the more the child needed love. The more the child acted out, the more they felt unloved and misunderstood. I believe many adults still have those frustrated, misunderstood children deep inside. The world needs more love. Period.
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