Would you be upset if your parents didn't split up their fortunes..

[cmd2014]

@canuk-gal Thanks Sharon. She really has become a very vile, bitter & greedy woman. My father in law spent the last two years of his life in a home due to a massive stroke that left him completely paralysed & she never visited him once. She makes me shudder. And not only that (there's more...) she wants my bro in laws 10% of FIL's company signing over to her so that she has some security for her future. WTF??!!!!

I would advise him to find a good estate lawyer. Inheritances are exempt from divorce settlements here too, unless you inadvertently make them into marital property (which you can do in all sorts of unexpected ways). Having legal guidance would be worth it in this case.

 

[Ally T]

Thank so @cmd2014 There are lawyers involved & the divorce goes through court next month. According to bro in law's solicitor, it depends on the Judge that day as to how much pity he will take on her & how much he gives her in settlement. It's out of his hands now & what will be will be.

 

[BlingObsession]

I don’t think this is necessarily about greed. I think it is unremittingly hurtful for parents to suggest that they loved one kid more than the other(s) through inequality in their wills. Because this is the clear message that this gives.

This!

It is not about entitlement. It is not about monetary value. It is simply the message that is given. "This" person is more important to me than "you".

 

[partgypsy]

I agree with you Bling. People have every right to do what they want with their money (and they often do!) But in turn people have every right to judge what people do with their money. Because what you spend your money on, reflects your values. If one parent gives more to one child over other child or children, it is really hard to separate that from feelings of how much that parents "loves" or values their relationship with their respective kids.

I know I have various insecurities about that. For example two people I know who have gone through divorce, their parent or parents moved down to be in the same town and help them with the grandchild. In every way; babysitting, helping monetarily, trips. I also know where the breadwinning spouse traveled alot, parents moving to be closer to grandkids to help out. I would love if members of my family are closer to me, especially in my current situation where I could use the help. But I can't expect or demand it.

 

[BlingObsession]

I'm leaving my estate to charity.
A couple sentimental items (without regard to value) will be willed to individuals.

If I had kids I'd do the same and let them know, and know why?

Why?
IMO it builds character to make your own money.

Kennnnyyyyyyyyy - can you leave me your Octavia......