Well, the title says it all. How can I stop the worrying?
Boyfriend made me promise not to talk to any of my sisters or friends about the engagement ring choosing process. To be honest, he inherited a stone (pics will be coming soon) that is over 1.5 carats. It is a beautiful stone. So, I got to choose my own setting. Well, I just gravitate towards the three-sided pave and milgrain types (think art of platinum). It''s just what I love, especially for an antique ring.
We''ve finally met with the person who will set it. The person, whose artistic preferences I trust SO much, said that doing it without a halo would not do the stone justice. He said a thin halo would be the difference between a "really nice" ring and an "absoluely stunning" ring. We also considered the whole shrinkage factor. We decided to go with the halo -- so it''s going to look even bigger!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, at this point in my life, I know a lot of people who have gotten engaged. Almost everyone has plain solitaries, around a carat. These are not really small rings, but mine will be a lot bigger. I feel like mine is going to be the most extravagant of all my friends and family. I am afraid it will elicit comments of "it''s too big" or "it''s gaudy" behind my back.
Boyfriend says that I should stop worrying already. He said to tell them he picked it out by himself. He''s worried that I am so worried about what other people think.
Can anyone offer me help here? Should I just look to the long term and realize that, with shrinkage, it will be perfect? I''m really interested just to hear people'' reactions.
I know, if this is my only problem, I am a very lucky gal indeed. I don''t want to sound spoiled -- that''s the whole point of the thread, that I am worried about people thinking that, I guess.
Boyfriend made me promise not to talk to any of my sisters or friends about the engagement ring choosing process. To be honest, he inherited a stone (pics will be coming soon) that is over 1.5 carats. It is a beautiful stone. So, I got to choose my own setting. Well, I just gravitate towards the three-sided pave and milgrain types (think art of platinum). It''s just what I love, especially for an antique ring.
We''ve finally met with the person who will set it. The person, whose artistic preferences I trust SO much, said that doing it without a halo would not do the stone justice. He said a thin halo would be the difference between a "really nice" ring and an "absoluely stunning" ring. We also considered the whole shrinkage factor. We decided to go with the halo -- so it''s going to look even bigger!!!!!!!!!
Anyway, at this point in my life, I know a lot of people who have gotten engaged. Almost everyone has plain solitaries, around a carat. These are not really small rings, but mine will be a lot bigger. I feel like mine is going to be the most extravagant of all my friends and family. I am afraid it will elicit comments of "it''s too big" or "it''s gaudy" behind my back.
Boyfriend says that I should stop worrying already. He said to tell them he picked it out by himself. He''s worried that I am so worried about what other people think.
Can anyone offer me help here? Should I just look to the long term and realize that, with shrinkage, it will be perfect? I''m really interested just to hear people'' reactions.
I know, if this is my only problem, I am a very lucky gal indeed. I don''t want to sound spoiled -- that''s the whole point of the thread, that I am worried about people thinking that, I guess.