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Shiny_Rock
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I know this seems like a strange post and it may/may not belong in this forum. I''ve read a few posts about this same subject on PS, but can''t find them -- and I actually wanted some thoughts on my particlaur situation...
Those of you who know my sign-on identity probably know my story -- married 10 years to a great guy who has given me a 10-year anniversary upgrade treat which is being custom-made now..(re-made actually, the first attempt by the jeweler was not quite what I wanted..so we''ll see. But that''s another story...) and I know within the next few weeks I will have my new set. It''ll be quite an upgrade over what I''ve had these 10 years.
This is what I wanted help with: I know it sounds strange, but my current e-ring is a one-carat and it happens that mine is actually one of the larger e-rings among my closest friends. But my new e-ring center stone is a 2.86 - and will have an eternity-style setting and matching band of smaller diamonds. To be honest with everyone, my new rings will stand out, to say the least, among the rings my friends wear and that is where my concern lies. My particular concern is with my two closest friends...both of whom have had fairly serious financial strain lately. My best friend''s husband has had to file for bankruptcy and we have spent many hours lately with me listening to her worries and letting her cry on my shoulder. I think they''ll come out of this okay, but it has been very emotionally draining for her. She loves sparkly things, much like I do, and she wears a pretty ring, though not a very elaborate or large one, that was passed down from her hubby''s grandmother. My other best friend, who struggles a bit financially with her husband as well, has never had a diamond from her husband. When they married, they poured all their $$ into the house they wanted with the promise from her husband that he''d save for a diamond for a future anniversary. They don''t have a large income but somehow or other he finds ways to buy "toys" he wants, but money is never available for her diamond. Meanwhile, they''ve had 4 kids and have been married 17 years and he seems to have no plans to buy her one. ANYWAY -- my question is: I have not mentioned to either friend that my husband has given me this incredible gift. There hasn''t been a good time and quite frankly it would be awkward to bring it up considering the financial strain & worries they have both shared with me lately. And yet sometime soon, I will suddenly show up wearing my new rings and I just wonder how to handle it. They are both great friends and awesome women and will be complimentary and sweet but I know how it will make them both feel.
So - would you bring it up beforehand -- or just show up one day sporting the new diamonds? I know they''ll both ask why I never told them about it and I won''t know quite what to say. I know it sounds like a weird concern, but the reality is I am worried about it. I discussed it with my husband and he jokingly said we needed to find richer friends, but he of course was kidding. He himself is concerned about his sister seeing my rings -- as she and her husband struggle and we often have helped them out financially actually - but he knows she''ll never own something like this.
I hope this post doesn''t come off sounding icky -- like I''m bragging or want to focus on jealousy issues. I really don''t. I''m so excited to have my new rings, but worry that some of the fun of it may dwindle if I feel like it makes those closest to me feel crummy. Am I making any sense or just sounding icky?
Any thoughts? Thanks for "listening" !
Those of you who know my sign-on identity probably know my story -- married 10 years to a great guy who has given me a 10-year anniversary upgrade treat which is being custom-made now..(re-made actually, the first attempt by the jeweler was not quite what I wanted..so we''ll see. But that''s another story...) and I know within the next few weeks I will have my new set. It''ll be quite an upgrade over what I''ve had these 10 years.
This is what I wanted help with: I know it sounds strange, but my current e-ring is a one-carat and it happens that mine is actually one of the larger e-rings among my closest friends. But my new e-ring center stone is a 2.86 - and will have an eternity-style setting and matching band of smaller diamonds. To be honest with everyone, my new rings will stand out, to say the least, among the rings my friends wear and that is where my concern lies. My particular concern is with my two closest friends...both of whom have had fairly serious financial strain lately. My best friend''s husband has had to file for bankruptcy and we have spent many hours lately with me listening to her worries and letting her cry on my shoulder. I think they''ll come out of this okay, but it has been very emotionally draining for her. She loves sparkly things, much like I do, and she wears a pretty ring, though not a very elaborate or large one, that was passed down from her hubby''s grandmother. My other best friend, who struggles a bit financially with her husband as well, has never had a diamond from her husband. When they married, they poured all their $$ into the house they wanted with the promise from her husband that he''d save for a diamond for a future anniversary. They don''t have a large income but somehow or other he finds ways to buy "toys" he wants, but money is never available for her diamond. Meanwhile, they''ve had 4 kids and have been married 17 years and he seems to have no plans to buy her one. ANYWAY -- my question is: I have not mentioned to either friend that my husband has given me this incredible gift. There hasn''t been a good time and quite frankly it would be awkward to bring it up considering the financial strain & worries they have both shared with me lately. And yet sometime soon, I will suddenly show up wearing my new rings and I just wonder how to handle it. They are both great friends and awesome women and will be complimentary and sweet but I know how it will make them both feel.
So - would you bring it up beforehand -- or just show up one day sporting the new diamonds? I know they''ll both ask why I never told them about it and I won''t know quite what to say. I know it sounds like a weird concern, but the reality is I am worried about it. I discussed it with my husband and he jokingly said we needed to find richer friends, but he of course was kidding. He himself is concerned about his sister seeing my rings -- as she and her husband struggle and we often have helped them out financially actually - but he knows she''ll never own something like this.
I hope this post doesn''t come off sounding icky -- like I''m bragging or want to focus on jealousy issues. I really don''t. I''m so excited to have my new rings, but worry that some of the fun of it may dwindle if I feel like it makes those closest to me feel crummy. Am I making any sense or just sounding icky?
Any thoughts? Thanks for "listening" !