missrachelk
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HI Everyone - As some of the ladies on the Preggo thread just heard, I've been offered a new job.
I'm really excited and it's a big promotion, but I am trying to get my head around the situation for my family and for child care and would love some insight and others' experiences.
Where I am is that with my current job, I have arranged to go back to work very part time (something like 20 hours a week) mostly from home so that I won't need regular child care. I have always said that I would rather sacrifice and even be broke for a while than to send my small baby to full time daycare. My mom didn't work full time when I was growing up, except for some scattered periods here and there. I honestly had no expectations going into this interview (it's a job I was passed over for last year, came open again and they contacted me knowing I'm pregnant and wouldn't be available until January).
I am looking at some figures and it's looking to me like even with this significant raise, if I end up needing full time day care, I will not be bringing home much more than if I stuck with my current job and part time plan. Depending on child care costs the difference will only be $150-$200 a week more for the new job.
Any thoughts? I don't love my current job, but it is perfectly acceptable in general, especially so for part time work from home as my dissatisfaction has come mostly from the physical office environment rather than the work itself. Current job is also in an industry I'm really interested in personally. The new job is an unknown (and a totally foreign industry, it's a super high tech research center at a major university and I was an English Major!), but I imagine I will like it, and it has a lot more opportunity to advance in the future. I do want more children, and anticipate wanting to start trying for #2 once our first is about age 2.
My personal situation is also definitely a factor in my decision making. My husband is in the restaurant industry and works nights. So if I'm working full time the only time I will see him is one weekday evening, Saturday mornings and all day Sunday. The evenings would be me and the baby on our own 4 days a week (well plus Saturdays so 5 days). He would probably keep the baby during the day and take her to day care / sitter / ?? around noon each day he works, so baby would be in care for about 5 hours a day.
When I first set up the part time work plan I said that if I was to work full time, not even talking about child care costs, I didn't think I would be happy because I would be so busy it would be hard to cook good healthy dinners and very hard for me to find time to exercise, and that on top of not seeing my husband much would probably leave me fairly unhappy.
I suppose I can always go for the new job and leave it if it doesn't work out? I may be able to go back to my current job and part time plan in that case. Or do I pass up the opportunity because it really doesn't seem like the ideal time in my life?
Longer term working for the university would probably be great, our kids may even be able to get in state tuition for free or almost nothing, which is huge. But with baby #1 still in my belly that is so far off it's hard for it to be a factor, while my day to day life in the evenings is a huge factor in my mind.
Thanks for getting through that novel and for your thoughts.
I'm really excited and it's a big promotion, but I am trying to get my head around the situation for my family and for child care and would love some insight and others' experiences.
Where I am is that with my current job, I have arranged to go back to work very part time (something like 20 hours a week) mostly from home so that I won't need regular child care. I have always said that I would rather sacrifice and even be broke for a while than to send my small baby to full time daycare. My mom didn't work full time when I was growing up, except for some scattered periods here and there. I honestly had no expectations going into this interview (it's a job I was passed over for last year, came open again and they contacted me knowing I'm pregnant and wouldn't be available until January).
I am looking at some figures and it's looking to me like even with this significant raise, if I end up needing full time day care, I will not be bringing home much more than if I stuck with my current job and part time plan. Depending on child care costs the difference will only be $150-$200 a week more for the new job.
Any thoughts? I don't love my current job, but it is perfectly acceptable in general, especially so for part time work from home as my dissatisfaction has come mostly from the physical office environment rather than the work itself. Current job is also in an industry I'm really interested in personally. The new job is an unknown (and a totally foreign industry, it's a super high tech research center at a major university and I was an English Major!), but I imagine I will like it, and it has a lot more opportunity to advance in the future. I do want more children, and anticipate wanting to start trying for #2 once our first is about age 2.
My personal situation is also definitely a factor in my decision making. My husband is in the restaurant industry and works nights. So if I'm working full time the only time I will see him is one weekday evening, Saturday mornings and all day Sunday. The evenings would be me and the baby on our own 4 days a week (well plus Saturdays so 5 days). He would probably keep the baby during the day and take her to day care / sitter / ?? around noon each day he works, so baby would be in care for about 5 hours a day.
When I first set up the part time work plan I said that if I was to work full time, not even talking about child care costs, I didn't think I would be happy because I would be so busy it would be hard to cook good healthy dinners and very hard for me to find time to exercise, and that on top of not seeing my husband much would probably leave me fairly unhappy.
I suppose I can always go for the new job and leave it if it doesn't work out? I may be able to go back to my current job and part time plan in that case. Or do I pass up the opportunity because it really doesn't seem like the ideal time in my life?
Longer term working for the university would probably be great, our kids may even be able to get in state tuition for free or almost nothing, which is huge. But with baby #1 still in my belly that is so far off it's hard for it to be a factor, while my day to day life in the evenings is a huge factor in my mind.
Thanks for getting through that novel and for your thoughts.