Re: Women Who Don't Have Kids: Are You OK With It? Any Regre
I think you're incredibly brave for saying this. I suspect many parents often feel the same way (but there's too much taboo around it to say so).
coda72|1488248172|4134506 said:I can look this issue from both sides, as I waited until I was 40 until I decided to try and get pregnant. In my 30s I was enjoying life, and didn't really want to have kids. My husband and I travelled extensively, and were happy with just the two of us. We talked about retiring early. Right when I turned 40 though, I started thinking I would regret not having a child. So, we decided to try and have one, although I did not want to undergo fertility treatments if it didn't happen naturally.
I was very lucky to be able to conceive and had a baby girl at 41. I'm now 44 with an almost 3 year old, and now we're most likely going to sell our retirement home so we can send our child to a good school, and I have mixed feelings about this. I don't regret having a child, but obviously my life is completely different as a result. I love my little girl with all my heart and would never say to her that I wish I wouldn't have had her, but at the same time I wish I could do want I want and live where I want. I feel very selfish even writing this, but I'm putting my honest feelings out there.
I think you're incredibly brave for saying this. I suspect many parents often feel the same way (but there's too much taboo around it to say so).