Iowa Lizzy
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So the "Which One Counts" thread got me thinking about one of my favorite "self help" books.
I remember being a LIW and getting so freaking caught up in the proposal process. Believe me, I had thought about it enough on my own, then I found PS and found a little niche that I could fit into. Suddenly I was checking the LIW board many, many times per day and that totally didn't help my cause. Although I'm so grateful for PS in terms of the educational aspect of diamonds, DH would probably have shut down the LIW board if he had the opportunity.
I recently pulled my "Why Men Marry Bitches" book off the shelf and started re-reading it. I read it shortly after DH and I moved in together and I started using some of the principles from the book. I specifically remember it was like a switch was flipped. It's not a book about tricking a man into proposing, but about making sure he knows that you have so much self respect, he'd better hurry up and lock you down before someone else realizes how amazing you are and does it first.
I'd heard it time and time again, men like the thrill of the chase, men are competitive. No wonder things didn't progress as fast as I thought they would when I said "okey dokey! I'm ready to get married. Go buy the ring and let's do this!" Things always moved faster in our relationship when I backed off and just let him do his thing. (I remember when we first started dating and I decided to not be the one to call him on a Friday night and told him I wouldn't be going out with him. I think he called and texted me every hour to see what I was doing and if I was sure I didn't want to meet up, haha) I still got the desired end result: proposal and marriage, but sometimes I just totally cringe when I think about how many times I asked about the damn ring and "are we on the same page?"
I just really love this book and I wanted to recommend it to you LIWs. So if you happen to be strolling by your local bookstore, you should pick up a copy. Here's a link to the book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Marry...books&qid=1285182659&sr=8-1#reader_074327637X
Read the first few pages and see if it speaks to you. I know it did to me.
Oh, and I swear I'm not trying to bash the LIW boards! I really loved my time here and the ladies. I think I just had a hard time separating myself from all the anticipation here when we were just dating.
I remember being a LIW and getting so freaking caught up in the proposal process. Believe me, I had thought about it enough on my own, then I found PS and found a little niche that I could fit into. Suddenly I was checking the LIW board many, many times per day and that totally didn't help my cause. Although I'm so grateful for PS in terms of the educational aspect of diamonds, DH would probably have shut down the LIW board if he had the opportunity.
I recently pulled my "Why Men Marry Bitches" book off the shelf and started re-reading it. I read it shortly after DH and I moved in together and I started using some of the principles from the book. I specifically remember it was like a switch was flipped. It's not a book about tricking a man into proposing, but about making sure he knows that you have so much self respect, he'd better hurry up and lock you down before someone else realizes how amazing you are and does it first.
I'd heard it time and time again, men like the thrill of the chase, men are competitive. No wonder things didn't progress as fast as I thought they would when I said "okey dokey! I'm ready to get married. Go buy the ring and let's do this!" Things always moved faster in our relationship when I backed off and just let him do his thing. (I remember when we first started dating and I decided to not be the one to call him on a Friday night and told him I wouldn't be going out with him. I think he called and texted me every hour to see what I was doing and if I was sure I didn't want to meet up, haha) I still got the desired end result: proposal and marriage, but sometimes I just totally cringe when I think about how many times I asked about the damn ring and "are we on the same page?"
I just really love this book and I wanted to recommend it to you LIWs. So if you happen to be strolling by your local bookstore, you should pick up a copy. Here's a link to the book on Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Marry...books&qid=1285182659&sr=8-1#reader_074327637X
Read the first few pages and see if it speaks to you. I know it did to me.
Oh, and I swear I'm not trying to bash the LIW boards! I really loved my time here and the ladies. I think I just had a hard time separating myself from all the anticipation here when we were just dating.
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