TravelingGal
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I was going to vent on my friend''s IVF thread, but figured you ladies might have stories or possible answers to share.
My friend, who is now pregnant after 6 years of trying is keeping it pretty mum. She did tell family and a few close friends. She''s just trying to hang on until her ultrasound next week and will let the cat out of the bag then even though it is early because everyone is apparently dying to know if the IVF worked.
We have a group of 20 friends (10 couples). Word spreads like wildfire in this group. I go to lunch with my other girlfriend (another one of the 3 girls that got the news directly from the pregnant friend) and she tells me that pregnant friend''s DH did tell a few of the guys, who are no doubtedly now telling their wives and the news is possibly spreading. Pregnant friend is still under the impression that her DH didn''t tell anyone.
This angers me on behalf of my friend. She has waited six long years to have news like this...I think it is her story to tell! I feel like people who are spreading the news are robbing my friend of the joy and reaction she deserves when she breaks the news herself. She''s waited a lifetime to have news like this and it could easily be a once in a lifetime bit of news to tell.
I know people get so excited that they can''t restrain themselves, but I wonder if people really realize how much they are talking away from the person who deserves to tell the exciting news. Especially since many of these people have children and got to tell others of their pregnancy on their own terms and enjoy people''s reactions back then?
My friend, who is now pregnant after 6 years of trying is keeping it pretty mum. She did tell family and a few close friends. She''s just trying to hang on until her ultrasound next week and will let the cat out of the bag then even though it is early because everyone is apparently dying to know if the IVF worked.
We have a group of 20 friends (10 couples). Word spreads like wildfire in this group. I go to lunch with my other girlfriend (another one of the 3 girls that got the news directly from the pregnant friend) and she tells me that pregnant friend''s DH did tell a few of the guys, who are no doubtedly now telling their wives and the news is possibly spreading. Pregnant friend is still under the impression that her DH didn''t tell anyone.
This angers me on behalf of my friend. She has waited six long years to have news like this...I think it is her story to tell! I feel like people who are spreading the news are robbing my friend of the joy and reaction she deserves when she breaks the news herself. She''s waited a lifetime to have news like this and it could easily be a once in a lifetime bit of news to tell.
I know people get so excited that they can''t restrain themselves, but I wonder if people really realize how much they are talking away from the person who deserves to tell the exciting news. Especially since many of these people have children and got to tell others of their pregnancy on their own terms and enjoy people''s reactions back then?