Which way looks best?

[Ally T]

Struggling to decide which way to wear my rings. I have come to realise that removing my wedding ring does not tempt fate & doom & symbolize the end of my marriage, despite never having removed it until recently. So my thoughts are that even though I have had a custom setting made for my pear to enable me to wear it next to my eternity, I am beginning to feel the pear looks lost against it. When I wear the pear next to my plain band, the pear shape pops out more & gets lots of compliments. But I am not wholly comfortable with removing my wedding band each day, hence I have started occasionally sleeping in them. Which look do you prefer to show off my rings more, practicalities aside?

 

[diamondloveaffair]

from my point of view, there is too much stuff on your finger.

anyway, wedding ring first looks better to me. With the eternity ring bring first, it creates a confusing look with too many elements vying for attention.

 

[Christina...]

I much prefer your engagement ring alone with the plain wedding band. I would wear the eternity on my right hand or solo on my left. Together there is just too much texture and competition in my opinion. They are all lovely rings though.

 

[Christina...]

Forgot to add....sleeping in your rings is a very bad idea. The prongs can get caught and cause stone to become loose and fall out. Its equally a bad idea to wear your eternity against your ering without a spacer. The prongs will rub against the ering and can cause damage over time.

 

[Ally T]

Ah, no... That's upsetting that you both think they should not be worn as a set
I'm a bit of a sentimental old fool & my wedding rings mean the world to me. My original engagement ring was a big cluster of quad set princess cuts, hence my husband had the eternity hand made to match & they looked great together. When that was damaged beyond repair & written off, I struggled completely with the idea of a replacement as it just wouldn't feel the same. So I went with a fancy as I have always loved pears & didn't want to try to replace the original with something too similar as it would just never have been the one. I went totally non-matchy for a reason but have always felt they should be worn together as a set, hence my dilemma

 

[Ally T]

Roger that about sleeping in them, Christina, thanks. The 2 rings don't need a spacer however, as the pear setting was specifically made to sit the stone up high above, missing the eternity claws completely. The only part the the pear ring that the eternity touches is the flat side edge, so nothing can get damaged

 

[Christina...]

Roger that about sleeping in them, Christina, thanks. The 2 rings don't need a spacer however, as the pear setting was specifically made to sit the stone up high above, missing the eternity claws completely. The only part the the pear ring that the eternity touches is the flat side edge, so nothing can get damaged

Well this is certainly good news! I definitely think that you should wear them together if that is what appeals to you most and non matchy matchy sets are popular right now. I do prefer the plain band in the center of the stack though. I think it helps balance thedifferent styles of the ering and eternity better.


So sorry about your original engagement ring. I can completely understand why you would be heartbroken....but you have a beautiful replacement. I'm a sucker for a pretty pear!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I think you have plenty of room to wear all three rings. I think the thing that throws it off a little is that the eternity ring has a lot of metal prongs or something sticking out rather than having smooth sides. I usually like the widest band at the bottom, which appears to be the plain band.

 

[zoebartlett]

Actually, I'd choose to pair the engagement ring and plain band together and wear the eternity band as a right hand ring.

 

[missy]

Hi Alex, I understand your dilemma. I also never thought I wouldn't wear my original WB with my ER but when I changed my ER my original WB didn't look right with it. So now I occasionally wear it on my right hand and wear my ER with a simpler band on my left. Ofc you have to do what feels right to you but there is nothing wrong with doing it that way. FWIW I prefer your beautiful pear ER with the simpler band though your WB is gorgeous I think it looks better on its own. Whatever you decide wear them in health and happiness!

 

[Niel]

Well I know you made your ring specifically to wear with your eternity band so I'm inclined to say west them next to each other. But I personally like the plain band sandwiched between the two diamond bands. Also I would support the e band wore on the other finger, just ad an excuse to use it to start a stack of them.

 

[Enerchi]

If it were me, I think I'd prefer to wear the pair with the plain band on my LH and then wear the princess eternity on my RH. IMO, it seems as tho the princess band is competing with the pear.

I wonder if you could "...suggest...." ( ) to your DH a thin channel set band as a birthday or anniversary gift to wear on the LH and the maybe start some stackers to go with the princess band, as a collection of RHR's??? I mean, not that you'd want to encourage your hubby to buy you more rings or anything... no... that would be a bad idea....

 

[Christina...]

If it were me, I think I'd prefer to wear the pair with the plain band on my LH and then wear the princess eternity on my RH. IMO, it seems as tho the princess band is competing with the pear.

I wonder if you could "...suggest...." ( ) to your DH a thin channel set band as a birthday or anniversary gift to wear on the LH and the maybe start some stackers to go with the princess band, as a collection of RHR's??? I mean, not that you'd want to encourage your hubby to buy you more rings or anything... no... that would be a bad idea....

enerchi is our resident 'enabler'! We adore her.....our husbands....not so much!

 

[momhappy]

As far as sleeping in rings is concerned - I don't really buy into the theory that sheets rub on metal and "wear it down" or damage it over time. It's something that I've heard before and certainly, everyone has the right to their own opinion on the matter, but I just don't share the same opinion. I wear my jewelry pretty much 24/7 (I sometimes switch my gold diamond necklace for my platinum one or I'll wear a special pair of earrings), which means that I have slept in it, showered in it, etc. for years and years.... I don't see anything wrong with taking your jewelry off at night, but I also don't see anything wrong with wearing it 24/7 I'm sure that someone, somewhere has damaged a piece of jewelry in some way by sleeping in it, but my personal experience of wearing earrings, necklaces, and rings to bed every night, has been that I have never had so much of a "snag" on a sheet, so it's not a concern for me.
About the rings in the images - I tend to agree that there is a lot going on there, but I think that it could work. I would wear them with the plain band in the middle position to break up the "competition" going on between the diamonds. They are all pretty rings and I love being unique when it comes to E-Ring/Wedding Ring combos, so maybe you could wear them different ways at different times and you'll probably find that you will have developed a preference for one, particular way.

 

[gregchang35]

What about these options for stacking: you may have already tried them and presented the 2 for us to choose, but i thought i would throw them into the mix again.

Option A
1) engagement
2) wedding band
3) eternity

Option B
1) Wedding
2) engagement
3) eternity

Option C
My FAVOURITE stacking sequence:
1) eternity
2) engagement
3) wedding

Option C gives the pear the right bling as the tip of the pear is against the plain wedder.
You can make it mean: The eternity is closer to the hand giving it meaning- closer to the heart. then the sequence of engagement and wedding as in how ppl get married - they get engaged first and then married.

Sorry if i confused you more.....

 

[Enerchi]

If it were me, I think I'd prefer to wear the pair with the plain band on my LH and then wear the princess eternity on my RH. IMO, it seems as tho the princess band is competing with the pear.

I wonder if you could "...suggest...." ( ) to your DH a thin channel set band as a birthday or anniversary gift to wear on the LH and the maybe start some stackers to go with the princess band, as a collection of RHR's??? I mean, not that you'd want to encourage your hubby to buy you more rings or anything... no... that would be a bad idea....

enerchi is our resident 'enabler'! We adore her.....our husbands....not so much!

Toooooo funny, Christina!!! Its a gift and a curse at the same time - being the resident enabler!! hahahahaha!!!

What can I say? Who among us can turn down another opportunity for more bling??? lol!!! not me!!

 

[Ally T]

Thank you everyone, and Enerchi & Niel - what fab suggestions about collecting stackers!

I have asked husband already for a full channel set thin eternity, maybe 1.5 or 2mm wide maximum, to place between the princess band & the pear. He's not adverse to the idea, but I may have to wait a while seeing as he spent a small fortune last year on the pear & its new home

The eternity spikes of metal you can see are the shared prongs, which are squared off instead of rounded, which is how the prongs were on my original engagement ring. I have debated resetting the eternity into a channel, but firstly he went to SO much effort to have it made, and second the memories of the day he gave it to me are burned into my mind & I'm very fond of them, even more so since my treasured original ring was consigned back to its box no longer wearable. But also because of the squared off prongs, it feels very spikey worn alone on my right hand - they are quite sharp, but get completely cushioned on my LH with another ring either side of it.

I feel very shallow for worrying about such a silly thing too!

 

[motownmama]

Wait - did you try one band on either side of ER? Not sure if you responded to that suggestion. BTW - I'm in the same boat with you on wearing rings 24/7 - I only take them off to shower. I sleep in 'em, swim in ocean and chlorine pools & hot tub. I mix metals etc - I totally "get" diamonds scratching diamonds - big no-no, but my own personal experience and my mom's do not show dammage from sleeping. Just me - I respect others' choices.

 

[kenny]

from my point of view, there is too much stuff on your finger.

+1

... but you are not me so if you're gonna wear all 3 I'd put the large diamond in the middle and the smooth ring closer to your hand.

 

[Christina...]

As far as sleeping in rings is concerned - I don't really buy into the theory that sheets rub on metal and "wear it down" or damage it over time. It's something that I've heard before and certainly, everyone has the right to their own opinion on the matter, but I just don't share the same opinion. I wear my jewelry pretty much 24/7 (I sometimes switch my gold diamond necklace for my platinum one or I'll wear a special pair of earrings), which means that I have slept in it, showered in it, etc. for years and years.... I don't see anything wrong with taking your jewelry off at night, but I also don't see anything wrong with wearing it 24/7 I'm sure that someone, somewhere has damaged a piece of jewelry in some way by sleeping in it, but my personal experience of wearing earrings, necklaces, and rings to bed every night, has been that I have never had so much of a "snag" on a sheet, so it's not a concern for me.
About the rings in the images - I tend to agree that there is a lot going on there, but I think that it could work. I would wear them with the plain band in the middle position to break up the "competition" going on between the diamonds. They are all pretty rings and I love being unique when it comes to E-Ring/Wedding Ring combos, so maybe you could wear them different ways at different times and you'll probably find that you will have developed a preference for one, particular way.

I didn't claim that the metal would wear down, but that there is a much larger risk of catching a prong in sheets or blankets while sleeping then if you caught a prong on a sweater for example while fully awake and able to untangle the mess before causing damage. The risk of course would increase with the number and type of prongs on the OPs eternity band.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

As far as sleeping in rings is concerned - I don't really buy into the theory that sheets rub on metal and "wear it down" or damage it over time. It's something that I've heard before and certainly, everyone has the right to their own opinion on the matter, but I just don't share the same opinion. I wear my jewelry pretty much 24/7 (I sometimes switch my gold diamond necklace for my platinum one or I'll wear a special pair of earrings), which means that I have slept in it, showered in it, etc. for years and years.... I don't see anything wrong with taking your jewelry off at night, but I also don't see anything wrong with wearing it 24/7 I'm sure that someone, somewhere has damaged a piece of jewelry in some way by sleeping in it, but my personal experience of wearing earrings, necklaces, and rings to bed every night, has been that I have never had so much of a "snag" on a sheet, so it's not a concern for me.
About the rings in the images - I tend to agree that there is a lot going on there, but I think that it could work. I would wear them with the plain band in the middle position to break up the "competition" going on between the diamonds. They are all pretty rings and I love being unique when it comes to E-Ring/Wedding Ring combos, so maybe you could wear them different ways at different times and you'll probably find that you will have developed a preference for one, particular way.

I didn't claim that the metal would wear down, but that there is a much larger risk of catching a prong in sheets or blankets while sleeping then if you caught a prong on a sweater for example while fully awake and able to untangle the mess before causing damage. The risk of course would increase with the number and type of prongs on the OPs eternity band.

Gold prong tips do wear down when rubbed against fabric. Not so much of an issue with platinum. We had a member here awhile back who sewed, and she said she had had to replace the head on her ring 3 times due to handling fabric and the prong tips being worn down!

 

[JulieN]

+1 for too much going on. pick two.

 

[stargurl78]

Actually, I'd choose to pair the engagement ring and plain band together and wear the eternity band as a right hand ring.

Ditto this. Not so much a fan of all 3 of them together...

 

[Ally T]

Gosh, thanks for your honest opinions everyone. It isn't however an option for me to only wear two of the rings together - they are my wedding set, regardless of how unmatched they might look. I love that they are a bit different & just wondered which way around of the 2 options people thought they might look more fluid. I have tonight been wearing them as suggested a couple of times here with plain wedding, then pear then eternity against the pointy end. I haven't tried them this way before, so thank you. I guess I'll muddle along & keep trying different combinations

 

[momhappy]

As far as sleeping in rings is concerned - I don't really buy into the theory that sheets rub on metal and "wear it down" or damage it over time. It's something that I've heard before and certainly, everyone has the right to their own opinion on the matter, but I just don't share the same opinion. I wear my jewelry pretty much 24/7 (I sometimes switch my gold diamond necklace for my platinum one or I'll wear a special pair of earrings), which means that I have slept in it, showered in it, etc. for years and years.... I don't see anything wrong with taking your jewelry off at night, but I also don't see anything wrong with wearing it 24/7 I'm sure that someone, somewhere has damaged a piece of jewelry in some way by sleeping in it, but my personal experience of wearing earrings, necklaces, and rings to bed every night, has been that I have never had so much of a "snag" on a sheet, so it's not a concern for me.
About the rings in the images - I tend to agree that there is a lot going on there, but I think that it could work. I would wear them with the plain band in the middle position to break up the "competition" going on between the diamonds. They are all pretty rings and I love being unique when it comes to E-Ring/Wedding Ring combos, so maybe you could wear them different ways at different times and you'll probably find that you will have developed a preference for one, particular way.

I didn't claim that the metal would wear down, but that there is a much larger risk of catching a prong in sheets or blankets while sleeping then if you caught a prong on a sweater for example while fully awake and able to untangle the mess before causing damage. The risk of course would increase with the number and type of prongs on the OPs eternity band.

I worded my response to include the metal wearing down, but I realize that you were addressing the prongs specifically. I apologize if it seemed as though I was quoting something you never said I was speaking in sort of general terms to include all the "bad" things that people think can happen when wearing their jewelry to bed. Based on my personal experience, I have never had a snag or an issue of any kind and I have worn jewelry to bed every night for many years.

 

[momhappy]

As far as sleeping in rings is concerned - I don't really buy into the theory that sheets rub on metal and "wear it down" or damage it over time. It's something that I've heard before and certainly, everyone has the right to their own opinion on the matter, but I just don't share the same opinion. I wear my jewelry pretty much 24/7 (I sometimes switch my gold diamond necklace for my platinum one or I'll wear a special pair of earrings), which means that I have slept in it, showered in it, etc. for years and years.... I don't see anything wrong with taking your jewelry off at night, but I also don't see anything wrong with wearing it 24/7 I'm sure that someone, somewhere has damaged a piece of jewelry in some way by sleeping in it, but my personal experience of wearing earrings, necklaces, and rings to bed every night, has been that I have never had so much of a "snag" on a sheet, so it's not a concern for me.
About the rings in the images - I tend to agree that there is a lot going on there, but I think that it could work. I would wear them with the plain band in the middle position to break up the "competition" going on between the diamonds. They are all pretty rings and I love being unique when it comes to E-Ring/Wedding Ring combos, so maybe you could wear them different ways at different times and you'll probably find that you will have developed a preference for one, particular way.

I didn't claim that the metal would wear down, but that there is a much larger risk of catching a prong in sheets or blankets while sleeping then if you caught a prong on a sweater for example while fully awake and able to untangle the mess before causing damage. The risk of course would increase with the number and type of prongs on the OPs eternity band.

Gold prong tips do wear down when rubbed against fabric. Not so much of an issue with platinum. We had a member here awhile back who sewed, and she said she had had to replace the head on her ring 3 times due to handling fabric and the prong tips being worn down!

I'm not saying that it's not true, but I actually heard that same thing on an entirely different forum, so I'm not really sure what to make of it. Like I said, I'm sure that someone, somewhere has had issues with fabric (like sheets, clothing, etc.), but that's not been my experience and therefore, not a concern to me.

 

[momhappy]

Gosh, thanks for your honest opinions everyone. It isn't however an option for me to only wear two of the rings together - they are my wedding set, regardless of how unmatched they might look. I love that they are a bit different & just wondered which way around of the 2 options people thought they might look more fluid. I have tonight been wearing them as suggested a couple of times here with plain wedding, then pear then eternity against the pointy end. I haven't tried them this way before, so thank you. I guess I'll muddle along & keep trying different combinations

I actually like they they are a bit mis-matched too Just keep trying different combos and you'll settle into something that works for you. I just redesigned my ring to get away from the matchy-matchy E-ring/wedding ring combo set. I've ordered an entirely different style and color for my wedding band (my new E-ring is a platinum, round halo and my new wedding band will be a delicate bead/eye style rose gold & diamond band).

 

[VRBeauty]

I don't think you've posted a picture, but I like the idea of having the e-ring sandwiched between the two bands. Traditionally that would mean wedding-engagement-etermity, but I suspect the reverse would look better.

 

[Ally T]

Here are a couple more options with the pear in the middle as suggested. I'm leaning towards the second pic, with pointy end towards fingertip. I wore it like that all yesterday afternoon & evening & it definitely looked more structured...

 

[Enerchi]

I like your second option above! Pointy end towards finger tip. Looking good!!