Soon 2 B Mrs. Sparkles
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- May 31, 2005
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I have lurked about looking for my e-ring for a while, but never posted until now. I had a huge fight with my fiance this weekend, and I don''t know what to do. We ended up getting a ring from an estate shop and I like it. We have been fighting over the wedding details for some time now. I don''t know if it''s just the wedding getting to us, but if it''s also US.
Our parents are very unhappy about our marraige. I am formerly married (for a year), but divorced with no kids. His parents are Asian and pretty traditional, so they wanted someone different. When they met me they accepted me. After a big fight we had, they were actually there for the day after so we couldn''t really hide the fight. It was really bad and we considered breaking off the engagement. They are now even more tough on us, and are making it quite difficult.
On top of that my parents don''t like him either. They say that we are too different, as he is very quiet and traditional, and I am sort of a free spirit. I guess our differences made us work, but with all this pressure from everywhere, I don''t know what to do. Our religion and culture are different and everyone tells us how tough it will be to raise them in a cohesive form, but I just don''t know what to even expect anymore!
After everyone telling us so, I have started to notice that he IS more traditional than I first noticed. He has lived in the US for years, but still clings to lot of ideals that his parents have for him. He''s such a hard worker, as he works for a big accounting firm and does very well. I on the other hand work in the art field and although I do well, I do not make work my life. He used to be more outgoing and romantic, but now the problem is that he is such a robot!
I don''t know where to go with this, as we are planning on canceling the wedding by the end of the week, because he says maybe we just need more time to figure it out. I agree, but has anyone ever recovered from more time? Am I being stupid and getting cold feet, or how do you know that this is really the ONE. My first husband was a great big mistake when I was a young girl. I wasn''t in love, but I was in love with BEING in love...
I don''t want to make the same mistake again...
Please help! Anyone have any good ideas on how to repair this???
Our parents are very unhappy about our marraige. I am formerly married (for a year), but divorced with no kids. His parents are Asian and pretty traditional, so they wanted someone different. When they met me they accepted me. After a big fight we had, they were actually there for the day after so we couldn''t really hide the fight. It was really bad and we considered breaking off the engagement. They are now even more tough on us, and are making it quite difficult.
On top of that my parents don''t like him either. They say that we are too different, as he is very quiet and traditional, and I am sort of a free spirit. I guess our differences made us work, but with all this pressure from everywhere, I don''t know what to do. Our religion and culture are different and everyone tells us how tough it will be to raise them in a cohesive form, but I just don''t know what to even expect anymore!
After everyone telling us so, I have started to notice that he IS more traditional than I first noticed. He has lived in the US for years, but still clings to lot of ideals that his parents have for him. He''s such a hard worker, as he works for a big accounting firm and does very well. I on the other hand work in the art field and although I do well, I do not make work my life. He used to be more outgoing and romantic, but now the problem is that he is such a robot!
I don''t know where to go with this, as we are planning on canceling the wedding by the end of the week, because he says maybe we just need more time to figure it out. I agree, but has anyone ever recovered from more time? Am I being stupid and getting cold feet, or how do you know that this is really the ONE. My first husband was a great big mistake when I was a young girl. I wasn''t in love, but I was in love with BEING in love...
I don''t want to make the same mistake again...
Please help! Anyone have any good ideas on how to repair this???