When people say your ring is unique or cute..

[ShinyPink]

@Sprinkles&Stones I can't do the ugly baby thing. I just say the baby "is so sweet." Looking at my DD's newborn pics, she and I agree she looked like a rat for awhile there.

Rings are another thing. I'll just tell the newly engaged her "ring is special and it's such an exciting time!" I also use "Wow!" a lot, since it's open to interpretation.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I don't really think/or say that any ring is ugly.....I just say "Congrats!" when someone gets engaged. If someone else gossips about an ugly e-ring, I just say: while it's not my aesthetic, as long as the person who was proposed to loves it, that's all that matters.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I think the world would be a better place if people didnt take offence to these comments. Someone offended by "cute" or "unique" sounds like a real negative nancy.

i never felt this way about the world cute ......


.... untill PS

 

[Diamond Girl 21]

Unique when I use it is meant as a compliment.
So many ring designs are similar; but when you can take the classic and make it your own, unique, that's something that should be noted. I say it in admiration.

Agree 100%. I take unique as a compliment.

 

[oncrutchesrightnow]

I mean and interpret “unique“ to be a compliment but maybe I’ll stop using it with people I don’t know that well after reading here that some people interpret it is a euphemism for ugly.

I’ve never heard anybody say someone’s engagement ring is “cute.“ I can imagine someone using that word sarcastically to be mean and I can’t imagine what a genuinely cute engagement ring would look like (Fluffy? Moi et toi plastic goggly eyes?) so would agree “cute” is probably an insult.

If someone says they’re engaged then you bet your sweet bippy I’m asking to see that ring. But my response is always, always, always, “Wow! How beautiful!”

Talking about rings behind people’s backs… If a mean person asked me what I thought of someone else’s engagement ring I would say I thought it was lovely no matter what. If a fellow jewelry geek asked what I thought, and I knew they weren’t doing it to be gossipy or mean, I would have a technical conversation. In my experience jewelry geeks don’t have long conversations about ugly jewelry. I can imagine having an argument over J color but not in the presence of the wearer.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I mean and interpret “unique“ to be a compliment but maybe I’ll stop using it with people I don’t know that well after reading here that some people interpret it is a euphemism for ugly.

I’ve never heard anybody say someone’s engagement ring is “cute.“ I can imagine someone using that word sarcastically to be mean and I can’t imagine what a genuinely cute engagement ring would look like (Fluffy? Moi et toi plastic goggly eyes?) so would agree “cute” is probably an insult.

If someone says they’re engaged then you bet your sweet bippy I’m asking to see that ring. But my response is always, always, always, “Wow! How beautiful!”

Talking about rings behind people’s backs… If a mean person asked me what I thought of someone else’s engagement ring I would say I thought it was lovely no matter what. If a fellow jewelry geek asked what I thought, and I knew they weren’t doing it to be gossipy or mean, I would have a technical conversation. In my experience jewelry geeks don’t have long conversations about ugly jewelry. I can imagine having an argument over J color but not in the presence of the wearer.

someone on here (thankfully i honestly long ago forgot who) called my grandmother's ER cute (as in small)
my apoligies for mentoring this for the 15th time
but i felt it insulting toward my grandad
they delayed getting married due to the great depression
my grandad was a tradesmen in a factory, he would have worked and saved hard for grandma's ring
i imangine my grandma looking at her diamond twinkle in the sun at lunch with her workmates (she worked in a habadashery -excuse spelling- in a dept store) or maybe out walking with one of her sisters - or showing it off excitedly to her own mother and father

i fell honoured of all her descendants to be the grandaughter that inherited her ring (from my mum - my grandparent's only daughter)
It is not cute !
it is very 1930's middle NZ
it may be small by PS stabdards but i dont need a microscope to look at it !

 

[MamaBee]

someone on here (thankfully i honestly long ago forgot who) called my grandmother's ER cute (as in small)
my apoligies for mentoring this for the 15th time
but i felt it insulting toward my grandad
they delayed getting married due to the great depression
my grandad was a tradesmen in a factory, he would have worked and saved hard for grandma's ring
i imangine my grandma looking at her diamond twinkle in the sun at lunch with her workmates (she worked in a habadashery -excuse spelling- in a dept store) or maybe out walking with one of her sisters - or showing it off excitedly to her own mother and father

i fell honoured of all her descendants to be the grandaughter that inherited her ring (from my mum - my grandparent's only daughter)
It is not cute !
it is very 1930's middle NZ
it may be small by PS stabdards but i dont need a microscope to look at it !

@Daisys and Diamonds I can’t speak for who said that to you..I never thought the word cute would be a negative comment. I call some of my own jewelry cute. I’ve used the words sweet and cute when describing mine. I will be careful not to use those words on other people’s jewelry. I hope the person that said it to you wasn’t me.
I once had an acquaintance..who was very mean btw..tell me my house was quaint. It wasn’t small..but to her eyes it was. I remember taking offense because of who said it. If a friend said it..and I knew she meant it in a positive way..I wouldn’t be upset. Hopefully that’s the case with your grandmother’s ring.

 

[Missy]

@Daisys and Diamonds I can’t speak for who said that to you..I never thought the word cute would be a negative comment. I call some of my own jewelry cute. I’ve used the words sweet and cute when describing mine. I will be careful not to use those words on other people’s jewelry. I hope the person that said it to you wasn’t me.
I once had an acquaintance..who was very mean btw..tell me my house was quaint. It wasn’t small..but to her eyes it was. I remember taking offense because of who said it. If a friend said it..and I knew she meant it in a positive way..I wouldn’t be upset. Hopefully that’s the case with your grandmother’s ring.

I agree with you Joanne. You can tell a compliment generally from an insult. Even a lovely word like sweet can be used negatively so it really depends on who is saying it and their tone of voice. When someome calls me sweet I take it as a compliment but it could also be used in an insulting way. It just depends. It’s our strange language the way the same words can be twisted to mean different things.

 

[Calliecake]

@Daisys and Diamonds, I’m sorry someone said something to hurt you. I’ve heard people make comments about large diamonds and say”“Wow, your husband really loves you“. Comments like these have always kind of baffled me. Love and closeness have nothing to do with the size of a diamond. Your grandparents had a lifetime of love and closeness.

Your grandmother‘s ring meant a lot to her. I’m glad you have that beautiful ring now.

 

[stracci2000]

I always say that engagement rings are amazing, fabulous, gorgeous, etc!

Whether I'm being honest or not.
The person wearing the ring is happy, so I would never bash that.
And extra points if the ring is antique or vintage!

 

[lambskin]

I think everyone knows a backhanded compliment. I would just say it was beautiful and offer my congratulations.

 

[lambskin]

HI:

After 18 months of not seeing my Mother; we visited for her 86th BD this July. She saw my Tiffany ring for the first time, and said, "Awww, that's cute". I LOL because it is cute! (she doesn't describe my Cartier Sapphire ring that way.....no matter).

I do not subscribe to any malintent to the compliments/comments.

cheers--Sharon

If I had the balls I would respond “ just like you!”.

 

[AprilBaby]

Unique: something no one else has, 1 of a kind

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I agree with you Joanne. You can tell a compliment generally from an insult. Even a lovely word like sweet can be used negatively so it really depends on who is saying it and their tone of voice. When someome calls me sweet I take it as a compliment but it could also be used in an insulting way. It just depends. It’s our strange language the way the same words can be twisted to mean different things.

excellent point dear Missy

but unfortunately with the written word you cant see or hear someone's intend through their expressions like if we were in person

throw in English as a 2nd language and local colloquialsim (not to mention bad grammer or spelling) its a wonder more things aren't taken offence out around here

but at the end of the day 99% of people here on PS have really good manners which in this day and age is a real credit to this place

as an aside i always find Americans have really beautiful manners

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

@Daisys and Diamonds I can’t speak for who said that to you..I never thought the word cute would be a negative comment. I call some of my own jewelry cute. I’ve used the words sweet and cute when describing mine. I will be careful not to use those words on other people’s jewelry. I hope the person that said it to you wasn’t me.
I once had an acquaintance..who was very mean btw..tell me my house was quaint. It wasn’t small..but to her eyes it was. I remember taking offense because of who said it. If a friend said it..and I knew she meant it in a positive way..I wouldn’t be upset. Hopefully that’s the case with your grandmother’s ring.

oh dear @MamaBee im sure it wasn't you - we need a hug emoji
i honestly dont remember

i dont take offence at very much in life but it just must have really rubbed me up the wrong way
i mean i know most of my jewlery is overpriced mall jewlery and i can laugh at that (or id cry with what ive learnt from the PS community) but grandma's ER came long before mall jewlery (or for that matter malls) and cheap imported mass produced 'luxury items ' were ever a thing
Everything has always cost more in my part of the world because it or the raw materials used to make it often has to come from so far away

my grandad was such a lovelly grandad, (and dad and husband) i think an inherited ER is as much about the man who gave it, as it is about the woman who proudly wore it

 

[MamaBee]

oh dear @MamaBee im sure it wasn't you - we need a hug emoji
i honestly dont remember

i dont take offence at very much in life but it just must have really rubbed me up the wrong way
i mean i know most of my jewlery is overpriced mall jewlery and i can laugh at that (or id cry with what ive learnt from the PS community) but grandma's ER came long before mall jewlery (or for that matter malls) and cheap imported mass produced 'luxury items ' were ever a thing
Everything has always cost more in my part of the world because it or the raw materials used to make it often has to come from so far away

my grandad was such a lovelly grandad, (and dad and husband) i think an inherited ER is as much about the man who gave it, as it is about the woman who proudly wore it

@daisy..An inherited piece of family jewelry is priceless.. I have my maternal grandmother’s plain yellow gold band…I rescued it from a scrap gold pile my mom wanted to sell. I couldn’t believe she would do that with her mom’s ring. My mom is not sentimental. I am..I actually looked for my birth certificate as a child because I didn’t think we could be related. We are so different…. I never met that grandma..I love to try it on and imagine her wearing it.

 

[stracci2000]

@daisy..An inherited piece of family jewelry is priceless.. I have my maternal grandmother’s plain yellow gold band…I rescued it from a scrap gold pile my mom wanted to sell. I couldn’t believe she would do that with her mom’s ring. My mom is not sentimental. I am..I actually looked for my birth certificate as a child because I didn’t think we could be related. We are so different…. I never met that grandma..I love to try it on and imagine her wearing it.

I just inherited a bunch of jewelry from my MIL.
There were lots of beautiful things, but the pieces I love most are the 5 wedding bands.
Two are inscribed and belonged to DH's great grandparents, so they are extra special.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

@daisy..An inherited piece of family jewelry is priceless.. I have my maternal grandmother’s plain yellow gold band…I rescued it from a scrap gold pile my mom wanted to sell. I couldn’t believe she would do that with her mom’s ring. My mom is not sentimental. I am..I actually looked for my birth certificate as a child because I didn’t think we could be related. We are so different…. I never met that grandma..I love to try it on and imagine her wearing it.

these are my favourite kind of PS threads/posts

i have my great grandma's wedding ring
i never knew mum had it, but at the will reading at the lawyers when we had the jewlery to divi up between my sister and i, i put my hand up!

i never even knew mum had it, i never even knew my great grandma's (or the great grandad's) name - (thank you internet)
my grandma was the youngest child so im not sure how she ended up with it but im sure it hadn't been worn for a very long time and i knew i wouldn't wear it looking like a wedding ring so i had tiny saphires set into the band, one for each of their children
i wish i could show it to my mum
i wear it often
ive told this story before on PS but i think its the best thing i ever spent money on, jewlery wise even if the saphires are a little dark

and i know in 2021 Grandma's diamond is small but i think the ring is nicely proportioned and i take terrible photos

i am so glad you rescued your grandma's ring from the scrap pile
humans definatly vary in the sentimentality dept !

 

[molecule]

these are my favourite kind of PS threads/posts

i have my great grandma's wedding ring
i never knew mum had it, but at the will reading at the lawyers when we had the jewlery to divi up between my sister and i, i put my hand up!

i never even knew mum had it, i never even knew my great grandma's (or the great grandad's) name - (thank you internet)
my grandma was the youngest child so im not sure how she ended up with it but im sure it hadn't been worn for a very long time and i knew i wouldn't wear it looking like a wedding ring so i had tiny saphires set into the band, one for each of their children
i wish i could show it to my mum
i wear it often
ive told this story before on PS but i think its the best thing i ever spent money on, jewlery wise even if the saphires are a little dark

and i know in 2021 Grandma's diamond is small but i think the ring is nicely proportioned and i take terrible photos

i am so glad you rescued your grandma's ring from the scrap pile
humans definatly vary in the sentimentality dept !

@Daisys and Diamonds I can't decide which one of those rings I like more! One of my jewelry goals is to get a rich gold bangle with a few scattered diamonds and "star rays" just like your great grandmothers band. And your grandmother's ER has such lovely details with the milgrain and carving. I don't know how to explain it more, but it looks like it's right out of a fairytale.

 

[MamaBee]

these are my favourite kind of PS threads/posts

i have my great grandma's wedding ring
i never knew mum had it, but at the will reading at the lawyers when we had the jewlery to divi up between my sister and i, i put my hand up!

i never even knew mum had it, i never even knew my great grandma's (or the great grandad's) name - (thank you internet)
my grandma was the youngest child so im not sure how she ended up with it but im sure it hadn't been worn for a very long time and i knew i wouldn't wear it looking like a wedding ring so i had tiny saphires set into the band, one for each of their children
i wish i could show it to my mum
i wear it often
ive told this story before on PS but i think its the best thing i ever spent money on, jewlery wise even if the saphires are a little dark

and i know in 2021 Grandma's diamond is small but i think the ring is nicely proportioned and i take terrible photos

i am so glad you rescued your grandma's ring from the scrap pile
humans definatly vary in the sentimentality dept !

I love both of your rings! The detail on your grandma’s diamond ring is beautiful. I agree the setting and diamond are perfect together. I love how you designed the band by adding sapphires. I especially love that you thought to add a sapphire for each of her children.

 

[Calliecake]

@Daisys and Diamonds, I missed this story when you posted it before. Both the rings are beautiful! I love the detailing on her diamond engagement ring. I wonder if she wore her diamond ring only on special occasions. Often when you find older rings most of the detailed engraving is hard to see due to them being worn everyday for many years. I remember my MIL saying her mom only wore her wedding band and her engagement ring was rarely worn because she worried she would damage the diamond. I’m glad you have these rings. Thank you for telling the story behind them again.

 

[oncrutchesrightnow]

Unique: something no one else has, 1 of a kind

My English teacher would scold us for saying “really unique.”

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I love both of your rings! The detail on your grandma’s diamond ring is beautiful. I agree the setting and diamond are perfect together. I love how you designed the band by adding sapphires. I especially love that you thought to add a sapphire for each of her children.

thank you
it was kind of funny because Grandma's family all had weird nic names
except Grandma was just known as Mary i think because there wasn't anything weird names left
Aunty Tuz and Aunty Neater spring to mind
i dont really know who was who looking at their real names and saddly there is no one left to ask now

anyway the ring was already at the jewlers when i discovered an extra two uncles so had to get 2 extra saphires added

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

@Daisys and Diamonds, I missed this story when you posted it before. Both the rings are beautiful! I love the detailing on her diamond engagement ring. I wonder if she wore her diamond ring only on special occasions. Often when you find older rings most of the detailed engraving is hard to see due to them being worn everyday for many years. I remember my MIL saying her mom only wore her wedding band and her engagement ring was rarely worn because she worried she would damage the diamond. I’m glad you have these rings. Thank you for telling the story behind them again.

why thank you Calliecake
the jewler said it was made in NZ (like lots of things used to be not that long ago)
i honestly dont know how much grandma wore it?
i was quite young when Grandma got old and sick but she always wore nice brooches if she got dressed up to go out
so perhaps she only wore her ER for good ?
when mum got altzimers and she forgot dad and me she started wearing her mum's ER (this ring)
- the jewler said the band has 30% wear
i actually dont remenber mum wearing a lot of jewlery but when we look at photos mum always has a stack or two going on but she would never have done house work with her rings on (except her wedding ring)
mum was really careful with her jewlery and i would think Grandma would have been also especially living through the depression and the war

im surprised to have the great grandma's wedding ring because both gramdma and mum were buried in their wedding rings as they never took them off (im pretty sure my dad also was buried with his wedding ring)
things like that tend to be family traditions

 

[MamaBee]

thank you
it was kind of funny because Grandma's family all had weird nic names
except Grandma was just known as Mary i think because there wasn't anything weird names left
Aunty Tuz and Aunty Neater spring to mind
i dont really know who was who looking at their real names and saddly there is no one left to ask now

anyway the ring was already at the jewlers when i discovered an extra two uncles so had to get 2 extra saphires added

I love this @Daisys and Diamonds

 

[AprilBaby]

I think grandmas ring is gorgeous, they don’t make them like that anymore! I have a large ring but I would trade it for my grandmothers smaller one in a heartbeat if I could have it. Unfortunately my cousin has it.

 

[Cerulean]

these are my favourite kind of PS threads/posts

i have my great grandma's wedding ring
i never knew mum had it, but at the will reading at the lawyers when we had the jewlery to divi up between my sister and i, i put my hand up!

i never even knew mum had it, i never even knew my great grandma's (or the great grandad's) name - (thank you internet)
my grandma was the youngest child so im not sure how she ended up with it but im sure it hadn't been worn for a very long time and i knew i wouldn't wear it looking like a wedding ring so i had tiny saphires set into the band, one for each of their children
i wish i could show it to my mum
i wear it often
ive told this story before on PS but i think its the best thing i ever spent money on, jewlery wise even if the saphires are a little dark

and i know in 2021 Grandma's diamond is small but i think the ring is nicely proportioned and i take terrible photos

i am so glad you rescued your grandma's ring from the scrap pile
humans definatly vary in the sentimentality dept !

Beautiful ring. how special that she gave it to you. it's elegant and i love the details

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I think grandmas ring is gorgeous, they don’t make them like that anymore! I have a large ring but I would trade it for my grandmothers smaller one in a heartbeat if I could have it. Unfortunately my cousin has it.

i know im really lucky to have it
i have a girl cousin who is a few months older than me
we used to be very close but sometimes you just grow apart and have nothing in common except your parents are siblings (...
ok we feel out over politics)

i am the oldest daughter of grandma's only daughter and my sister got Mum's ER plus a quite impressive saphire dress ring of mum's also
my mum was quite organised and left a list
perhaps to avoid the unpleasantness mum's middle brother and his wife caused after grandma's death

my sister and i do not get on at all well but we did not squabble over who got what and a lot of families who are closer than ours have major falling outs at times like those so my sister and I hopefully conducted ourselves in a manner that would not have caused our late parents any distress, embarrassment or shame

i actually also have the ER of grandma's sister who had no children (her husband was a civil servant in Wellington- its a slightly bigger ring and made in England)
Aunty Neater died when i was young also but i have very strong memories of her. She was very close to mum and her brothers even thought she lived in the North island
I often think who is left to remenber Aunty Neater and Uncle Horrie ? - but she is often in my thoughts - even before i got her ring