WaitingandWaiting
Rough_Rock
- Joined
- Nov 10, 2009
- Messages
- 12
Ladies- I need to come to you for support since I am at a loss of what to do. I am starting to feel sick to my stomach, on edge, frazzled, you name it.
I have been with my bf just for a little over 7 years. We live together, have a great relationship, etc, other than the fact that I am waiting to get engaged and its driving me nuts. He has the ring, I know what you’re thinking “girl you’re better off than some of us, quit complaining”, but he has been hanging onto this thing for almost a year. I didn’t say anything sooner, because I didn’t want to “ruin it” but now I am at the point where I am beside myself with anxiety, to the point where it is consuming my every thought, and preventing me from functioning. When I say things like, “Oh my friend Lisa is getting engaged. Its only been 6 months. But I guess when you know you know”, he gets p*ssed off, and tells me “when you say stuff like that, you make me not want to do it”. Maybe he is planning for x-mas, maybe its coming and I don’t know it, but every day that passes buy and it doesn’t happen, I feel like a piece of my heart has been ripped out. I don’t know if he just doesn’t understand what this does to me, or if he just doesn’t care?? I said to him last month that it would mean the world to me if we got engaged before the holidays, still nothing. If he doesn’t do it, what does that mean? I just don’t know what to do anymore, and how much longer I should wait without him proposing (and having the ring) before it means he just isn’t going to do it? HELP!
I have been with my bf just for a little over 7 years. We live together, have a great relationship, etc, other than the fact that I am waiting to get engaged and its driving me nuts. He has the ring, I know what you’re thinking “girl you’re better off than some of us, quit complaining”, but he has been hanging onto this thing for almost a year. I didn’t say anything sooner, because I didn’t want to “ruin it” but now I am at the point where I am beside myself with anxiety, to the point where it is consuming my every thought, and preventing me from functioning. When I say things like, “Oh my friend Lisa is getting engaged. Its only been 6 months. But I guess when you know you know”, he gets p*ssed off, and tells me “when you say stuff like that, you make me not want to do it”. Maybe he is planning for x-mas, maybe its coming and I don’t know it, but every day that passes buy and it doesn’t happen, I feel like a piece of my heart has been ripped out. I don’t know if he just doesn’t understand what this does to me, or if he just doesn’t care?? I said to him last month that it would mean the world to me if we got engaged before the holidays, still nothing. If he doesn’t do it, what does that mean? I just don’t know what to do anymore, and how much longer I should wait without him proposing (and having the ring) before it means he just isn’t going to do it? HELP!