What''''s your ideal proposal

[dmbfan]

Ok...so am not a lady, but am sort of in waiting. Lets face it most guys are not very creative and we know most ideas are very similar (I say most). i consider myself pretty romantic and my girlfriend calls me a SAP. The Problem is that we have done more romantic things over the last year than you could even imagine. You would not believe me if I told you the things we do regularly.

I''ve had her ring since August, yes August, Although I knew she was the one for me I didn''t think it was the right time then. I would like to propose over the next 2 month, and not during any of the holidays.

So my question is, if you could picture the most romantic or ideal proposal for you what would it be? Here is your chance to spill your guts and if guys are smart enough to listen, here is your chance to tell them.

TIA

 

[jcrow]

well i''d say new years would be awesome. does that count as a no-no holiday? also- what part of the country do you live? that''ll help with ideas.

 

[jcrow]

oh- and what kind of things she likes- hobbies, interests etc.

 

[Erin]

slipping it on my finger in my sleep
I love how sweet we can be to each other when we''re still half awake

 

[dmbfan]

Thanks for the replies. Am in Colorado and we love this state, she and I play lots of soccer so I can't see going in one knee during a game. I would like to do it in private if possible. New Years is an Idea but we will be around friend and I would rather do it on an off day say a tuesday to catch her by surprise.

Am not sure how I feel about doing this while she is asleep. I would like to have her be fully aware of what she is saying yes to(hopefully)

 

[AmberWaves]

If it were me, I'd rather it be done on a weekend, so that way we can stay up all night and celebrate (but I also wake up at 6am M-F!), and then have the next day, Sat. Or Sun. to bask in the beauty of it all. Does that make sense? Do it under the stars (Hopefully you're somewhere they can be seen!). Do something that's special to the two of you- first date site, first kiss, dinner, movie.. Something. Tie in onto the dog.

Place it inside a closed flower, and have her play "He loves me, loves me not".

 

[snogirl17]

WOW.... Colorado...
I live in wisconsin and thats my dream state to live in COLORADO!!!!... one of my fantasies would be to be proposed to on top of the mountian with a killer view... after a hike.. or snowboarding!
after being at tahoe a few years ago... it is still on top of the mtn.. but over looking lake tahoe!

 

[SeattleSparkle]

That''s what one of my good guy friends did. His girlfriend and he met at a ski resort (Schweitzer) and he proposed to her at sunset on top of the mountain with no one up there (they were the last ride up the hill) The pictures are gorgeous!! She looved it.

I''m such a ham, whatever my proposal is (if I EVER get one in my lifetime ... no guarantees ...) I hope I''m the center of attention and it could be a scene out of a movie.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 12/1/2005 4:08:18 PM
Author: dmbfan
Thanks for the replies. Am in Colorado and we love this state, she and I play lots of soccer so I can see going in one knee during a game. I would like to do it in private if possible. New Years is an Idea but we will be around friend and I would rather do it on an off day say a tuesday to catch her by surprise.

Am not sure how I feel about doing this while she is asleep. I would like to have her be fully aware of what she is saying yes to(hopefully)

It might be a good idea, but you have to be careful with this kind of idea. For example, I study marine biology and my SO suggested recently giving me a dolphin engagement ring. Yes, I do like dolphins, but I can''t imagine wearing dolphins as my engagement ring! It''s not what I want. It''s important that you find out what she likes and what she wants. She might enjoy soccer very much but not imagine a game as her dream proposal setting.

I prefer the idea of a private proposal. Go somewhere romantic. My ideal proposal would involve a fancy dinner, a walk on the waterside (where he would pop the question) and a hotel room with a fireplace, enormous bathtub and king-sized bed waiting for us...

Good luck and keep up posted!

 

[dmbfan]

Sorry, this was supposed to state that "I can't imagine going on one knee during a game"

I want it to be private and we do take baths which is one of my ideas. keep them coming, i love the flower idea and as well as a bath.

Our first date we went to the broadmoor hotel (5 star hotel) and had some coffee and watched a live Jazz band, we stepped outside and sat by the fire on a cold night overlooking the lake. the night was so clear and you could see the moon reflecting off the lake, you could also see the the shape of the mountains as well.

This is why am having such a hard time. I want this to be special and something to remember, but am competing with myself after dates like this.

 

[caligal]

Yes you are a romantic- how wonderful!!

I think my dream would be for him to propose somewhere while we are on vacation- my dream is to have him send me to a spa for the day, then the salon, then shopping so when I come home I''m all dolled up. I walk into our apartment all romantic, decorated, with a fabulous meal he''s cooked. Then we walk on the beach and he''s writen it in the sand! Nope, haven''t thought about this much.....

 

[AmberWaves]

Ya know, I''ve never really thought about how he''d do it. But I wouldn''t mind if he did while we were at Disneyland or the Fair or something- we got to the OC Fair and LA County fair all the time, here. When I told him about the other posting in "Proposal Ideas" about the proposal contraption, he was like, "Thanks a lot buddy". But dmbfan, I think you should make it as personal as possible. Is she a public person? Do it in a public place, but if she''s a private person, surround her with things she loves.. Put it inside an oyster, they have some that you buy to get the pearl out of it- instead of the pearl, put the ring in it.

I am SO lame.

 

[ellewoods]

Hello!

My dream proposal would involve some sort of surprise, catching me off guard, some intrigue.....I would love to have something like my boyfriend picks me up from work on a Thursday night (which might not work since we both drive to work....he could make up something about his car not working and he needs to borrow mine that day).

When the time comes to meet him though, there's a limo waiting for me. I get in the limo, and it's only the driver and me. The driver tells me that my boyfriend sent him to pick me up. (Obviously at this point I will probably realize that a proposal might be coming soon but that's OK). In the limo there is some romantic note from my boyfriend, not explaining what's happening, but being cute and telling me to drink the champagne that's chilling in the limo.

Then instead of driving me home, the limo takes me to a fancy, beautiful, romantic hotel. The limo driver helps check me in (since I don't know what's going on) and someone walks me to my room. It's a gorgeous deluxe suite or something. There's candles lit, nice music playing, martinis waiting.

There's also another romantic note from my boyfriend, telling me that I should get dressed for dinner. Low and behold, in the closet is a beautiful new cocktail dress that he's bought me. And somehow there's matching shoes, and also some toiletries, jewelry and my makeup, etc (he could have my sister help him with all that stuff).

So I get dressed and all of that and then there's a knock on the door (or a phone call from the front desk) and a hotel staff person tells me my boyfriend is waiting, and then escorts me to him.

Now at this point...............I could go to the fancy restaurant on site, meet my boyfriend, and have a wonderful romantic proposal. Then eat dinner and drink and celebrate.

Or....instead of going to dinner, they escort me back to the limo and the limo drives away from the hotel. I don't know where it's going. When we stop, it's some beautiful cliff overlooking the beach (he lives in So Cal), or a beautiful view of the sunset from a romantic area of some sort. Then my boyfriend is waiting, there is a romantic proposal, and we go to dinner and celebrate.

But here's my favorite part!

Sometime after proposing, my boyfriend tells me that we're going to someplace warm and exotic for the weekend (Mexico, Belize, Puerto Rico, Hawaii?) to celebrate!

He has already arranged with my work for me to have Friday off without telling me. So we have a romantic night in the hotel and then leave for the weekend vacation the next morning.

I'm drooling just thinking about it!

 

[ellewoods]

Hi again DMB Fan.

You don''t know what you started -- I, for one, am now brainstorming dream proposals for myself. This could lead to some bad things!

Makes me very very impatient! I don''t want to wait anymore! When is it MY turn??

Anyway....I love the idea of being proposed to on a romantic vacation somewhere. I love the stories where the girl doesn''t know it but she''s somehow whisked to the airport and her boyfriend has planned a romantic weekend getaway and he proposes sometime that weekend. But once she is taken to the airport, she''s going to know something is up. So it doesn''t give much surprise, and I do want surprise somehow.

I have not been to the Broodmoor but I have heard it''s beautiful and amazing. Why don''t you propose there somehow? Make up some reason for going.....like you guys are going to have dinner with another couple there (your parents, your friend and his wife, your boss and his wife). That way she''ll dress up and be feeling pretty but not think it''s anything out of the ordinary. Then when you get thyere you can surprise here with a beautiful hotel room, a suite or something.....maybe go to a nice romantic dinner and pretend to be waiting for the other couple, and after a drink, then you tell her they''re not coming and give her a romantic speech and propose. Then you can surprise her and tell her you have a suite there for the weekend (or the night)! And then you can go upstairs and have the room decorated with roses and candles and have a hot, bubble bath waiting.

As for the proposal by putting the ring on her finger while she''s sleeping....I personally wouldn''t want that kind of a proposal. I want my boyfriend to try and be creative and really romantic and have some sort of celebration afterwards with a dinner, beautiful hotel room, weekend trip, etc. I think I''d feel like he didn''t put enough thought into it, or he didn''t put enough effort into it, if he woke me up with the ring. No offense to anyone else though, that''s just my preference.

Another scenario that I would like.........I would love to have a romantic proposal somewhere, alone with my boyfriend somehow. But then we go to a nice restaurant for dinner or drinks, and he surprises me -- there''s a lot of our close friends there to celebrate. It doesn''t have to be a huge, expensive party, but it''d be so great to have some quiet time alone with him and then be surprised with a beautiful restaurant or lounge type place and having 20-30 of our best friends there to celebrate with us.

Good luck!

 

[JulieN]

waking up one morning with the ring on my finger. that's what I want! I would prefer to already be engaged before going on a romantic getaway. It seems more "right."

 

[picky]

Hello!

My dream proposal would involve some sort of surprise, catching me off guard, some intrigue.....I would love to have something like my boyfriend picks me up from work on a Thursday night (which might not work since we both drive to work....he could make up something about his car not working and he needs to borrow mine that day).

When the time comes to meet him though, there''s a limo waiting for me. I get in the limo, and it''s only the driver and me. The driver tells me that my boyfriend sent him to pick me up. (Obviously at this point I will probably realize that a proposal might be coming soon but that''s OK). In the limo there is some romantic note from my boyfriend, not explaining what''s happening, but being cute and telling me to drink the champagne that''s chilling in the limo.

Then instead of driving me home, the limo takes me to a fancy, beautiful, romantic hotel. The limo driver helps check me in (since I don''t know what''s going on) and someone walks me to my room. It''s a gorgeous deluxe suite or something. There''s candles lit, nice music playing, martinis waiting. There''s also another romantic note from my boyfriend, telling me that I should get dressed for dinner. Low and behold, in the closet is a beautiful new cocktail dress that he''s bought me. And somehow there''s matching shoes, and also some toiletries, jewelry and my makeup, etc (he could have my sister help him with all that stuff).

So I get dressed and all of that and then there''s a knock on the door (or a phone call from the front desk) and a hotel staff person tells me my boyfriend is waiting, and then escorts me to him.

Now at this point...............I could go to the fancy restaurant on site, meet my boyfriend, and have a wonderful romantic proposal. Then eat dinner and drink and celebrate.

Or....instead of going to dinner, they escort me back to the limo and the limo drives away from the hotel. I don''t know where it''s going. When we stop, it''s some beautiful cliff overlooking the beach (he lives in So Cal), or a beautiful view of the sunset from a romantic area of some sort. Then my boyfriend is waiting, there is a romantic proposal, and we go to dinner and celebrate.

But here''s my favorite part! Sometime after proposing, my boyfriend tells me that we''re going to someplace warm and exotic for the weekend (Mexico, Belize, Puerto Rico, Hawaii?) to celebrate! He has already arranged with my work for me to have Friday off without telling me. So we have a romantic night in the hotel and then leave for the weekend vacation the next morning.

I''m drooling just thinking about it!

Wow. ROFL. Why not just print this out and hand it to him?

 

[picky]

My ideal is no proposal. Grown adults should talk about marriage and discuss it together and come to a mutual decision on when and if it is right to marry. It shouldn''t be a man deciding by himself where and when the relationship progresses. But we live in a sexist society where women give all their power away to the men, so my ideal isn''t going to happen anytime soon.

That said, my fiance proposed to me many times over the last 3.5 years, while laying in bed snuggling. Exactly like in the Drew Barrymore/ Adam Sandler movie "50 First Dates", when he asks her softly while they cuddled in bed.

My response to him each time he asked, was that we will need to continue discussing marriage and engagement as time goes on, and eventually come to a decision together as adults when it is time for the relationship to progress. I said it softly and sweetly in order to not hurt his feelings and it was GREAT. We''ve continued "negotiations" and are now ready.

 

[larussel03]

We''re having a party at our small one bedroom apartment in a couple of weeks with all of our closest friends and their significant others (so this party is now 30 people in a small apartment, but that''s fine b/c we couldnt bear to cut even one person out). I''d LOVE it if he proposed in front of all our friends maybe by our xmas tree. I''d love to have everyone that we love and care about around us when he proposes (as long as they all go home after the party is over so we can have our alone time

)

 

[sunkist]

My ideal proposal is in a beautiful setting, ie. at the beach, look out point, hiking. It''s in private, it''s quiet, and it''s sincere. He tells me that he loves, he can''t live without me, and asks me to be his wife!

It doesn''t get much better than that for me!

 

[Blue824]

My ideal is to be proposed to in Italy. He knows this. The fun thing is, if he continues to work at the company he is currently with, it is honestly totally realistic

I''d want the trip to be a surprise. We''d fly off to Rome and basically anywhere in the city I''d find absolutely perfect...like viewing the entire city from above along Gianicolo atop the Janiculum, or after some tartufo in Pza Navona, or after getting lost in the streets and alleys of Trastevere, or by some of my favorite sculptures in the Borghese, hehe I even thought underneath the oculus of the Pantheon could be cool, but it is always so crowded there. Seriously, I could list every place in the entire city and be on cloud 9. While Rome is my favorite place ever, he & I have never been there together (hopefully this spring, not the engagement though, I know that already

), so I could also go for Paris since that''s where we spent our first Valentine''s Day together. And there my ideal place would probably be in the sculpture gardens of the Rodin Museum.

If for some reason we had to be in the US, I''d love for it to be during a private quiet unsuspecting evening at home. I''d rather it not be at a holiday, but he thinks it''d be cute to propose on Valentines Day...lol, I could see him getting me some fabulous new purse and putting it in there and me finding the box while checking out my new purse. Basically anything simple & quiet at home or after a relaxing night would be perfect! While I might dream of some elaborate weekend escape, when it comes down to it, I really don''t need much fuss, just him

As for a Colorado proposal...I guess I''d envision a weekend skiing and staying at some romantic boutique hotel or private cabin and after a long day of skiing having dinner somewhere with an amazing view of the mountains and proposing with some breathtaking view of nature as the backdrop. I think if I were you, dmb, I''d just try to think about whether she''d want something in front of random people like in a crowded restaurant, or totally private, or with family and friends around? If you do it while you''re out, you could have the hotel staff place chilled champagne, strawberries, flower petals, bath stuff for you guys when you get back.

 

[Angel7]

To be honest I haven''t thought of what kinda proposal I want. I know I want it to be just us two, something sweet and intimate and then maybe aftewards, all our loved ones can be at a restaurant/bar waiting to congratulate us and party with us. That sounds fun. Oh, and of course the ring MUST be perfect!

Your proposals all sound great!

 

[snogirl17]

DMBFAN
Could you some how go to the hotel again? I dont know if this hotel is in your area but you can maybe recreate something like your first date. I have only been to colorado once.. and it was enough for me to know.. this place is beautiful... i have NEVER seen stars in the sky like i have out there! maybe you could incorporate the stars in your proposal, like (her name) this is where we can for our first date and from that moment i knew i wanted you to be with me for the rest of my life.... just like the stars shine bright tonight(if they are shinning!!), you have been the light of my life and i couldnt imagine you not in my life.

i know maybe a tad bit corney... but hey.. what can i say. i sometimes am a sappy corn ball

 

[MissAva]

Jeffrey and I love to play board games, Scrabble, monopoly, rubbikub, trumps, dominos, chess, checkers…we are the stay in sort. I would absolutely adore it if Jeffrey incorporated one of our games into his proposal. I think if he asks me to play board games over Christmas break I will instantly know that he is going to propose though. Or a charm bracelet, I love how they are symbol of a beginning need to be worked on and built upon as time goes by just the way a marriage will. But then I can be quite the cheese ball when stuff like this comes up. I would definitely want something that meant something to the two of us, personal and unique to us.
I would not want a dinner proposal, I have enjoyed hearing about my friends getting engaged this way but I would be disappointed if he did it that way. I guess I really want him to show some effort and thought.

 

[anchor31]

Oh, I adore charm bracelets. It would be a wonderful proposal idea to get a charm bracelet with an engagement symbol on it as a proposal. Or the diamond ring Christmas decoration people have been gushing over all over PS. Christmas decorations are a big thing in my family, my siblings and I (sometimes the boyfriends, girlfriend too, when they find nice ones) get a new special one every year from our parents that marks something special that has happened in the previous year or will happen it the following year, so getting a decoration like that would mean the world to me. I''m starting to imagine what my parents will get me for the Christmas tree next year, since I''ll be engaged then!

 

[Caribou]

My ideal proposal was the one I got last night.

 

[SoonIHope]

Date: 12/2/2005 12:51:12 PM
Author: Caribou
My ideal proposal was the one I got last night.

hehehe, SO CUTE!!! I am smiling like a fool in my cubicle now.

 

[dmbfan]

thank you everyone. This exactly what I was looking for, I want to know what she would like and not what I would like. After I started this thread I have been no-stop thinking about what am going to do. I do plan to take advantage of this beautiful state. Here are some of my thoughts so far.

My first idea was this: I have a full size truck that I can accommodate a bed in the back. I wanted to take off on a summer evening to the top of the of one of the mountains you can drive to easily here in Colorado springs (about 11000ft) and there is a spot that you can see the whole city and at night it just sparkles. I would of been able to set up a bed with some satin sheet and blankets and cover everything so she could not see it. once we were there I would make her stay in the truck and blindfold her. I would light candles all around the bed and have a bottle of wine. We would sit there and talk for a while and then I would get on my knees and ask her to marry me overlooking the city and all by ourselves.
---This would have been ideal but now we are almost in winter and it could not work-- so I could wait till spring, but I don''t think I can.

Here is what I think am leaning to. I love some of your ideas and it just validates what I was thinking. There are a few more details that I would like to still resolve and you gals are helping tremendously. I love the flower idea and have her pull a petal with "I Love You" "I Love You, not". I also thought about last night that I should ask my friend who is a professional photographer and does mainly weddings to be there and take pictures from afar to capture the night with out my girlfriend knowing. She doesn''t know my friend so it would be perfect.

The night would be like this (and please let me know what you think and feel free to add anything...)

I was thinking a Tuesday night, she is usually on call on Tuesdays and has Wednesdays off. I would talk to her partner and have him cover for her that night. she wouldn''t know that I did this till later in the evening. if not than I would wait for the weekend. I take her to dinner, nothing too fancy to not make her suspicious. I tell her we are going for coffee and we go to the Broadmoor and trace back what we did on our first date. We sit and talk as we normally do and keep her on her toes. She knows its coming, but I have to keep some sort of element of surprise. We go outside to the fireplace by the lake and hang out for a bit. (This is when I can have my friend be taking pictures from a distance and she would know) So here is my dilemma; do I ask her there since it would be the ultimate spot or do I wait till later in private so she keeps wondering? If I ask her there, than I have to decide whether we stay there or go back to her place where I could set the room up with wine, I would get some nice white satin sheets with rose petals everywhere and have wine chilled by our bed. I think going back to her place would be ideal since we could wake up the next morning and jus be comfortable instead of having to wake up and checkout. If we go back to her place I could propose there but I would miss the opportunity of having someone take pictures of it all...

thanks for all your input and let me know what else you may have to add....thank you

 

[anchor31]

Ooooh... I love your idea! You should definitely (in my opinion at least) propose by the fireplace and celebrate at the hotel later!!! It''s sooo romantic!

 

[SoonIHope]

Ooooh, that sounds wonderful!!!!

I really love the idea of her not knowing that she''s not on call - very sweet element! I think I would prefer if you did it by the fireplace by the lake, it sounds so romantic, plus it has the sentimental value, and you can get pictures of it. There won''t be anyone else around will there? I care a lot about mine being in private, but if you can be sure that no one else will stumble across you during the proposal, then I think that sounds more ideal than taking her back home first. But either way - sounds like you have a magnificent proposal in the works!!!! Keep us updated!!!

 

[snogirl17]

I am ALL for the going back to where it all began...... i am not familiar with the hotel surroundings but seeing as it is winter maybe not many people will be outside so you would have it be kinda private anyway... i am sure she wouldnt mind a few people... plus i am not really into the whole public thing either.. but when my bf asks me.... i will be in such a zone.. no one else would matter.....

as for the whole staying part.. if you could plan to have one of her friends set it all up at her apartment for when you, and when you get home another element of surprise..you could have candles and rose petals all over or a path of petals going to the bedroom.