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I have an odd situation:
My Dad and my Stepmom live quite a distance away from us, in another state. DH and I typically visit them once per year, for a week at a time, and we have always stayed at their house. They have a three-bedroom home, and one room is set up as a guest room specifically for that purpose. In fact, they often refer to it as "our" room (meaning mine and DH''s). Although my parents divorced when I was very young, and I lived primarily with my Mom, I have always had my own room at my Dad and Stepmom''s house, and my own bathroom as well, so space has never been an issue. They have both always encouraged me to consider their house to be my home, too.
However, the last time we visited, my Stepmom seemed less than thrilled to have us around. She didn''t say a whole lot to us while we were there, and she didn''t say goodbye when we left. Keep in mind, she and my Dad have been married since I was VERY small, and I love this woman dearly . . . she really is like a second mother to me, although we are not quite as close as my Mom and I are. DH and I send her flowers every year for Mother''s Day, as well as her birthday, because she really is a big part of our family.
Since she seemed a little "cool" the last time we visited, we''re seriously considering staying at a hotel the next time we visit. But, I don''t want to hurt her or my Dad''s feelings, or make them feel uncomfortable. What would you do if you were us?
Harriet''s recent house guest issues brought this up in my mind, and I was wondering what you all think? Thanks!
My Dad and my Stepmom live quite a distance away from us, in another state. DH and I typically visit them once per year, for a week at a time, and we have always stayed at their house. They have a three-bedroom home, and one room is set up as a guest room specifically for that purpose. In fact, they often refer to it as "our" room (meaning mine and DH''s). Although my parents divorced when I was very young, and I lived primarily with my Mom, I have always had my own room at my Dad and Stepmom''s house, and my own bathroom as well, so space has never been an issue. They have both always encouraged me to consider their house to be my home, too.
However, the last time we visited, my Stepmom seemed less than thrilled to have us around. She didn''t say a whole lot to us while we were there, and she didn''t say goodbye when we left. Keep in mind, she and my Dad have been married since I was VERY small, and I love this woman dearly . . . she really is like a second mother to me, although we are not quite as close as my Mom and I are. DH and I send her flowers every year for Mother''s Day, as well as her birthday, because she really is a big part of our family.
Since she seemed a little "cool" the last time we visited, we''re seriously considering staying at a hotel the next time we visit. But, I don''t want to hurt her or my Dad''s feelings, or make them feel uncomfortable. What would you do if you were us?
Harriet''s recent house guest issues brought this up in my mind, and I was wondering what you all think? Thanks!
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