violet02
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This may wind up being a bit controversial but I thought I''d post here and get some thoughts on this.
My cat is 15 years old. She''s in ok shape and has all of her teeth amazingly. She does have some stomach problems and has for years. She barfs a couple times a week or more at times (not cat hair) and has to be on a special hypo-allergenic diet. She used to barf all the time but the diet has really changed this for her. She''s been on it for 5 years now. Last time I took her to the vet they asked me to bring her in again in 6 months because they detected a heart murmur the year before and it seemed to be getting more prevalent. I''m supposed to bring her in soon to get that checked.
So she''s always been a difficult cat. She loves me but hates just about everyone else. She''s very mean. She''s sweet for about a minute then attacks you. She lures you into thinking it''s okay to pet her. The older she gets the worse it gets. She''s been prone to go after me at times. I''ve had another cat which made it even worse for her, a friend took that cat eventually anwyays since having two cats was tough for me and I''d adopted the second one with an old ex-boyfriend. I''ve had a dog now for about 5 years and she REALLY hates him. He loves cats but he''s grown to really hate her too. Because she''s so mean most people give him more attention which just makes her even madder.
I do love my cat a ton but I''m not sure what to do about her now that I''m about to get married (October). My FI and I don''t live together. He lives about a block away. He has a relatively bad allergy to cats and has to take a lot of allergy meds to deal with being over at my house. My dad has a very very bad asthmatic/stops breathing type allergy to cats but lives on the east coast so it''s never been a huge issue. He just can''t be in my apartment or stay there or anything when he''s in town. Eventually when we buy a house (we almost did a couple of months ago) I''d like my dad to be able to stay there.
So my FI and I are holding off on moving in together until we''re married probably in October. In the meantime I need to work out some sort of plan for the cat. Right now she has a cat door and lets herself in and out. But once he moves in we won''t be able to have all that cat hair and her in the house anymore. He can''t live with the cat, he''s pretty much thrown down the gauntlet about that. Sure I''d prefer to have him on allergy meds and just to deal with it but it''s not really going to work out like that.
I don''t want to put her in a shelter. That''s where I got her from and I feel responsible for her and I don''t think anyone will adopt her. She''s pretty vicious. She''s one of those cats they have to put the hood on at the vets office. I don''t know anyone that will take her either. Also I do think her health is getting worse, she''s showing some signs of health issues which is why I have to take her in (pee''ing a lot, barfing more etc). I''ll take her in next week. The only other option is (don''t shoot me for this) putting her to sleep. That''s really not the option I''m going for here but it''s on the table.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do? I know there are a lot of cat lovers on here so I don''t want to offend anyone with any of the above options but I wanted to put it out there to see what people have to say.
Thanks.
My cat is 15 years old. She''s in ok shape and has all of her teeth amazingly. She does have some stomach problems and has for years. She barfs a couple times a week or more at times (not cat hair) and has to be on a special hypo-allergenic diet. She used to barf all the time but the diet has really changed this for her. She''s been on it for 5 years now. Last time I took her to the vet they asked me to bring her in again in 6 months because they detected a heart murmur the year before and it seemed to be getting more prevalent. I''m supposed to bring her in soon to get that checked.
So she''s always been a difficult cat. She loves me but hates just about everyone else. She''s very mean. She''s sweet for about a minute then attacks you. She lures you into thinking it''s okay to pet her. The older she gets the worse it gets. She''s been prone to go after me at times. I''ve had another cat which made it even worse for her, a friend took that cat eventually anwyays since having two cats was tough for me and I''d adopted the second one with an old ex-boyfriend. I''ve had a dog now for about 5 years and she REALLY hates him. He loves cats but he''s grown to really hate her too. Because she''s so mean most people give him more attention which just makes her even madder.
I do love my cat a ton but I''m not sure what to do about her now that I''m about to get married (October). My FI and I don''t live together. He lives about a block away. He has a relatively bad allergy to cats and has to take a lot of allergy meds to deal with being over at my house. My dad has a very very bad asthmatic/stops breathing type allergy to cats but lives on the east coast so it''s never been a huge issue. He just can''t be in my apartment or stay there or anything when he''s in town. Eventually when we buy a house (we almost did a couple of months ago) I''d like my dad to be able to stay there.
So my FI and I are holding off on moving in together until we''re married probably in October. In the meantime I need to work out some sort of plan for the cat. Right now she has a cat door and lets herself in and out. But once he moves in we won''t be able to have all that cat hair and her in the house anymore. He can''t live with the cat, he''s pretty much thrown down the gauntlet about that. Sure I''d prefer to have him on allergy meds and just to deal with it but it''s not really going to work out like that.
I don''t want to put her in a shelter. That''s where I got her from and I feel responsible for her and I don''t think anyone will adopt her. She''s pretty vicious. She''s one of those cats they have to put the hood on at the vets office. I don''t know anyone that will take her either. Also I do think her health is getting worse, she''s showing some signs of health issues which is why I have to take her in (pee''ing a lot, barfing more etc). I''ll take her in next week. The only other option is (don''t shoot me for this) putting her to sleep. That''s really not the option I''m going for here but it''s on the table.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should do? I know there are a lot of cat lovers on here so I don''t want to offend anyone with any of the above options but I wanted to put it out there to see what people have to say.
Thanks.