A little background - Her family lives 4 states away and she rarely gets to see them. We''d talked about when we get engaged that she hoped that she''d be able to share it with her family but never thought she''d be able to due to distance. I''ve had a ring for months now and have been waiting and planning to give it to her. She came to me about a month ago and said that her family was having a reunion and that she wanted me to go. PERFECT! I thought... I''d take out the day before the reunion and propose. Then when we arrived at the reunion she''d be able to share it with her family like she''d always dreamed. So for the past month I''ve been planning and scheming on how to pull this off. I finally had all the details worked out and the only thing left was to talk to her parents. Her mother was going to come visit before the reunion and I knew that I would have time to talk to her and her husband (via telephone) and ask for their blessing. When the time came I ask her mother to speak with me, I showed her the ring and said that I intended to ask her daughter to marry me. Her face turned to stone. She said, "it''s a nice ring" turned her back and walked out of the room. Almost 2 hours later I found her in the kitchen, I said "I''m sorry I didn''t mean to upset you" she said "I know" and went on about her business. Later she asked to talk with me and for the next 48 hours when ever my girlfriend was away we talked. She said over and over that I was not a financially viable candidate to marry her daughter. She said that I talk big but she never sees anything come of it and that it takes at least $100,000.00 annually to raise a family and that my generation won''t surpass the previous generation in terms of wealth. Here''s what she''s talking about. I make $50k a year. I''m young and I''m new to the company I work for. Because of my past experience, I was lucky and didn''t start at an entry level position but that may make it harder for me to move up in the company. I''d been working there going on 2 years and last year received a promotion and at 13.1% salary increase. I''m doing ok for myself for being as young as I am. I do have bills - I''ve paid my student loans down from 30k to 10k in the last year so I keep on top of my bills but that keeps me from having spending money. That''s not something I''m concerned with. I plan on going back to school - I had planned on returning this year but a series of unexpected expenses kept me from feeling comfortable spending more money to do so. What do I do now? Many of my friends have told me to say "forget you" and go ahead and propose. I don''t think I can do that. I know that I''m joining the family as well. She and her mother are very close - I know that they talk about everything and if I start out on a bad foot with her mother it will only get worse. Her father doesn''t really say much so I have no idea if he really feels the same way or not. I''ve also had people tell me that I need to talk to them again and If they don''t say yes to break it off with my girlfriend and let her deal with her parents. I don''t know if I''m willing to do that either but I really am at a lost on what to do next. I never expected this response from her parents, and they have always said that they are thankful that I love her and am in her life. The response I received however tells me maybe they were just saying that for her benefit. Please help!