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I should have gotten a pre nup when I first got married at 23. I knew there was a chance for divorce and I should have protected myself. The financial pain and agony over what I had to give him has always been worse than the emotional. And I was so drained from the divorce, I couldn't fight for myself because I probably wouldn't be alive today if I did, and unfortunately had awful lawyers (that's another story). Anything legal is just a nightmare because I am ignorant in anything legal and it's so hard to trust anyone. Anyway, it's over I am alive and it's over. That is my biggest regret. I also should have divorced in the first few years. I don't regret the relationship, a lot of love was there and I take responsibility too in the demise of the marriage. I didn't have skills then that I now have. I just would have imagined the worst person ever doing the worst things ever and behaving awful during the divorce and design a prenup on that! That's what I should have done when I first got married. I will not make that mistake again. It's a bit somber and dark and I'm sorry. I wish someone had given me the harsh reality of how bad a person can be and to protect myself. I behaved soo nicely in the divorce. I even wrote a thank you note to his lawyer. Who does that? I wanted so badly to divorce and no one to think poorly of me. But damn I wish I had had a brain back then and I would have the fought tooth and nail and not paid him a penny. I was very naive. This is still painful and still haunts me. I just remind myself of other positive things and that gets me through. Thank you all for being there and listening. A lot more came out than I thought. This is healing. And I know others have gone through worse and my heart goes out to you.
Dear @bling_dream19 I am so sorry for what you went through. You probably know what I am going to say. You did nothing wrong. You loved with all your heart and soul and trusted the man you thought was your soulmate and true love. You are guilty of nothing. And you learned from that experience and that is what counts. Not what happened but what is going forward. And this time in your life is magical. Marrying the love of your life with hard earned wisdom and you are having a happy present and even happier future. Sending you big hugs and wishes for a wondrous life filled with love and peace and joy.