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I have severe IBS and can't fall asleep hungry, otherwise I get woken up with excruciating stomach aches - pain to the point of passing out.
During a period of deep depression I fell into a state of not eating, lost a lot of weight, and of course, my IBS flared up. On one of his business trips he lugged home big ass bags of almond, macadamia and cashews (we don't have that where we live right now) so I would always have stuff to snack on without the fuss of cooking. Since then he's been doing it all the time.
Since he travels often, he made sure the house is well stocked with food and frozen meals while he's away, and orders from our favorite restaurants to have food delivered to me when he's traveling. He still does this to this day.
For the last few years I have been coming to terms with my mother's abuse when I was a child, and have also been going through a hard time careerwise. He's been incredibly patient and loving and supportive all this time. He gives me space to find what works for me, encourages me all the time, and celebrates my successes, no matter how small. He never makes me feel small or less than.
He also often can identify what's good for me and and encourage me to follow my heart (rather than being 'sensible') and some of the decisions I have made as a result of his encouragement has been the best that I have ever made.
I just realize this reads like a love letter to him, lol. I guess it is!
I have severe IBS and can't fall asleep hungry, otherwise I get woken up with excruciating stomach aches - pain to the point of passing out.
During a period of deep depression I fell into a state of not eating, lost a lot of weight, and of course, my IBS flared up. On one of his business trips he lugged home big ass bags of almond, macadamia and cashews (we don't have that where we live right now) so I would always have stuff to snack on without the fuss of cooking. Since then he's been doing it all the time.
Since he travels often, he made sure the house is well stocked with food and frozen meals while he's away, and orders from our favorite restaurants to have food delivered to me when he's traveling. He still does this to this day.
For the last few years I have been coming to terms with my mother's abuse when I was a child, and have also been going through a hard time careerwise. He's been incredibly patient and loving and supportive all this time. He gives me space to find what works for me, encourages me all the time, and celebrates my successes, no matter how small. He never makes me feel small or less than.
He also often can identify what's good for me and and encourage me to follow my heart (rather than being 'sensible') and some of the decisions I have made as a result of his encouragement has been the best that I have ever made.
I just realize this reads like a love letter to him, lol. I guess it is!
Once my late partner took me to a city near where we lived, without telling me why we were going there, and took me to a newly opened Wagamama restaurant, much to my delight, as I had no long relocated from London and missed their food (I used to live within 5min's walk to its first and original branch in London).
That was a very kind and sweet gesture.
DK
Lots of things such as giving me red roses last week. The things I like best are the things he does without telling me. For instance- I mention I need to clean up the yard (freezing cold) after the dogs and the next day I go to do it and it is already done. Or that I can't tell him if someone has hurt my feelings because he will confront that person- even if that person is our friend. I think the reason I love him so much is that he is on my team 24/7. It is comforting to be able to tell your spouse "I really messed up" and have them search for a solution with you instead of laying blame.
That's a thoughtful and sweet gesture indeed.
I didn't know that restaurant originally opened in London! I remember a Wagamama restaurant in Harvard Square, Cambridge, Massachusetts, and I wonder if it's the same one! It was really good, but it just didn't stay open in the same location.