When I''ve talked to my boyfriend about getting married, he says he wants to, and to me, but he''s not ready yet. I know that *should* be enough for me and I *should* be understanding, but I really can''t wrap my head around "ready."
If there are things I''m not doing, it''s becasue I don''t want to or because I can''t. If I said I wasn''t ready for something, I think I would have a reason. If he had a reason, then I think I could understand better.
But there aren''t financial issues, he''s never said anything about wanting to do something before getting married or needing to sow his oats, he''s not waiting for a promotion or for one of us to finish school, we haven''t been having any kind of major issues, etc.
In my head, I can''t help thinking, "what''s the problem?" or wondering if he thinks he wants to get married, but doesn''t actually.
If there are things I''m not doing, it''s becasue I don''t want to or because I can''t. If I said I wasn''t ready for something, I think I would have a reason. If he had a reason, then I think I could understand better.
But there aren''t financial issues, he''s never said anything about wanting to do something before getting married or needing to sow his oats, he''s not waiting for a promotion or for one of us to finish school, we haven''t been having any kind of major issues, etc.
In my head, I can''t help thinking, "what''s the problem?" or wondering if he thinks he wants to get married, but doesn''t actually.