Hi
This is my first post, and really I think I have become obsessed, I feel like I’m going mad.
My boyfriend and I got together when we were very young 17 & 18, we were totally in love and stayed together for 5.5 years.
We broke up for 3.5 years and got back together nearly 2 years ago, I am now 28, after all the ups and downs of our relationship we are totally happy since we got back together, and I feel that the time apart was the best thing for us at the time, it gave us time to grow up and experience life apart. It was my boyfriend who came looking for me when we got back together he told me he had never stopped loving me. When we got back together first my boyfriend mentioned getting engaged in a couple of months, delighted as I was, I wanted to make sure that we were not getting caught up in the excitement of getting back together so I didn’t say no I just said that I wanted us to enjoy the time we were having together and not to rush into anything.
After a year I knew that we were together for the right reasons and I was totally in love. Since before Christmas I was thinking of getting engaged, and I was quiet disappointed when my birthday passed and nothing, although I knew in my heart that there wouldn’t be any proposal as we are buying a new house, and he had mentioned that he wanted to finish the house first. He has told me many times that he wants to marry me, and our most recent conversation he mentioned that he didn’t want a long engagement, and that he would like to get engaged and married early next year…. The thing is, I would like a bit longer to get used to the idea that we are getting married and enjoy being engaged for more than a few months, this would give me time to organise the wedding etc… I feel like its just dragging on and I would like to get engaged now and set a date and organise the wedding for a years time… what if he doesn’t propose and this time next year I’m sitting here with the same problem and not knowing either way, its not fair I like to plan things and know what is happening in my life. so I have been looking at e rings online, I know he wants to surprise me and he wont let me pick it out first or even know when he is going to propose if ever, its just so frustrating. He has never so much as asked me what kind of ring id like or even looked in shop window with me, so I get scared that it will just never happen.
I had been thinking about ways of hinting to him…a thing I thought id never do, and I ended up sending him an email of a PowerPoint slide show with a selection of rings I love on it with the message Babes this will help you, if you ever want to buy me one of these some day! ……………………… now I’m totally afraid, there was no response, I don’t know how he will take it… but I just don’t want to spend another month/ year going mad not knowing and I also don’t want to end up with a ring I don’t like. Should I have done this?????????,
This is my first post, and really I think I have become obsessed, I feel like I’m going mad.
My boyfriend and I got together when we were very young 17 & 18, we were totally in love and stayed together for 5.5 years.
We broke up for 3.5 years and got back together nearly 2 years ago, I am now 28, after all the ups and downs of our relationship we are totally happy since we got back together, and I feel that the time apart was the best thing for us at the time, it gave us time to grow up and experience life apart. It was my boyfriend who came looking for me when we got back together he told me he had never stopped loving me. When we got back together first my boyfriend mentioned getting engaged in a couple of months, delighted as I was, I wanted to make sure that we were not getting caught up in the excitement of getting back together so I didn’t say no I just said that I wanted us to enjoy the time we were having together and not to rush into anything.
After a year I knew that we were together for the right reasons and I was totally in love. Since before Christmas I was thinking of getting engaged, and I was quiet disappointed when my birthday passed and nothing, although I knew in my heart that there wouldn’t be any proposal as we are buying a new house, and he had mentioned that he wanted to finish the house first. He has told me many times that he wants to marry me, and our most recent conversation he mentioned that he didn’t want a long engagement, and that he would like to get engaged and married early next year…. The thing is, I would like a bit longer to get used to the idea that we are getting married and enjoy being engaged for more than a few months, this would give me time to organise the wedding etc… I feel like its just dragging on and I would like to get engaged now and set a date and organise the wedding for a years time… what if he doesn’t propose and this time next year I’m sitting here with the same problem and not knowing either way, its not fair I like to plan things and know what is happening in my life. so I have been looking at e rings online, I know he wants to surprise me and he wont let me pick it out first or even know when he is going to propose if ever, its just so frustrating. He has never so much as asked me what kind of ring id like or even looked in shop window with me, so I get scared that it will just never happen.
I had been thinking about ways of hinting to him…a thing I thought id never do, and I ended up sending him an email of a PowerPoint slide show with a selection of rings I love on it with the message Babes this will help you, if you ever want to buy me one of these some day! ……………………… now I’m totally afraid, there was no response, I don’t know how he will take it… but I just don’t want to spend another month/ year going mad not knowing and I also don’t want to end up with a ring I don’t like. Should I have done this?????????,