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Haven|1320245607|3052500 said:I definitely agree with SonnyJane and MrsWahs.mrswahs|1320240243|3052448 said:sonnyjane|1320190116|3052070 said:It can definitely have a negative connotation. That said, I see it in the same light as a "starter home"... it's something that is a good first purchase, but you will outgrow it and want something bigger and/or better when you can eventually afford it. In other words, it's a respectable buy for a first-timer, but you'll almost certainly want to upgrade.
See, even that comment bothers me. We just bought our first home, with every intention of it being our forever home. It's got a 3/4 acre lot, 4 BRs, 2 bath. It's smallish, but it's cute and right for us. Most of the people who saw it talked about how amazing it was and how lucky we were to have such a beautiful home as our first home. When we showed our parents the house the day we offered on it, my dad said if we weren't going to offer on it, he would. Anyway, one couple said it was a great 'starter home.' They have a starter home that they bought a few years ago, but that's not what this is. We have every intention of staying in this house as long as we continue to have work in this area.
I find that comment just as offensive as 'entry-level' being said to a $15k watch.
It's a rude thing to say, regardless of the intention. Some people just don't know any better, and some people wear their insecurities like a banner across the chest.
Nearly everyone we know called our home a "great starter home" when they first saw it. It's a small ranch home and we love it. Our beliefs about the space required to raise a family are different than most of the people in our circle. That's okay. Their comments about our "starter home" didn't bother me, they just made me chuckle. We both grew up in small homes and plan to raise our future kids in our small home. I'm happy with the decision we made, and I think that makes me immune to rude comments about it.
Thinly veiled insults on Internet forums are particularly interesting to me, now that I think of it. Nobody *really* knows who you are or where you come from or how you live, so it's always fascinating to see which details are important for people to share about themselves, and what's more, HOW they share them can be so telling. I've learned a lot about myself from rereading old posts on PS. It's not always easy to go back and read them, but it is always telling!
LOL! We live in a "starter home" too, Haven, smaller even than yours I think. Of course at my age, people usually accurately assume we aren't "upgrading". I just tell them (now that it's in vogue) that we were concerned about our carbon footprint, etc, etc. In reality, a small house was simply in line with my salary and my willingness and ability to maintain it - 1100 sq feet is quite enough for one person, IMO, certainly it has always been enough to keep ME busy. It's a bit cozy now that I'm married, but in 2 more years it's completely ours, so no complaints.
And yes, that whole idea that you HAVE to have a bigger place to raise kids is pretty amusing, since most of us of a certain age were raised in a house of probably 1600 sq feet or less. I can't remember a house (thinking back) that I lived in as a child, that was over about 1000 square feet....