- Jun 8, 2008
Partner deal breakers:
Dislike of cats
Friends deal breakers:
Home deal breakers:
Low square footage
No back yard/ small back yard
No extra bedrooms for my hobbies
Town/state deal breakers:
Bad winters, too much snow
No ethnic diversity
No art/culture scene
In a partner, someone without a sense of humor. I love to laugh so I can't imagine being with someone that I don't find funny. Also, someone that doesn't love animals is a major deal breaker!
In friends, I need someone that makes me feel comfortable. I'm very introverted and socially awkward to the max so I need someone that doesn't drain me. So a deal breaker would be anyone that's too needy. Also, I don't need any friends that only care about themselves. We all know those people who talk about their problems and their lives but couldn't care less when it's your turn to share.
In a home, I wouldn't want to live near power lines or a school or a city dump. I've been working towards my goal of moving to some acreage so I don't have neighbors.
I share a lot of deal-breakers with those already posted.
For home, though, I was *just* thinking to myself this morning, for the umpteenth time, that I cannot do a house with mismatched wood floors. I have fixed up houses, as well as done some major renovations, but mismatched floors gets me. If everything else is near-perfect for me, then maybe I could take on redoing the floors so they are the same species and finish. But typically when I see that, it's an indicator to me that the bones aren't solid or cohesive and it will take a lot to get the house to where I'd be happy with it.
I want people in my life who believe and practice that everyone is equal regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, religious affiliation, ethnicity, etc. I think being considerate and kind are paramount for me. For my SO, things like lifestyle, kids, money etc. become additional possible dealbreakers. Not how much or what they have, but their attitudes around these topics and how compatible we are. For example, I couldn’t be with either a miser or a spendthrift.
I never thought about the cornfield and nursery aspect re pesticides. Good points. As for a hoarder house how would we know beforehand I wonder.
Oh I can think of a house dealbreaker I forgot to add - I agree with a lot of them that have been posted here, too, but one I haven’t seen yet - I need a bathroom for every bedroom in the house (preferably en-suite, but if not, at least a dedicated bathroom per bedroom). Or at most have one less bathroom per bedroom. I just hate having to manage multiple people through one toilet and shower.