janinegirly
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you girls are great with advice, so wondering what you think of a situation i have w/an old friend. some backstory: I
had a falling out w/a very good friend about 1 year ago. I think she was feeling down and annoyed that things were moving forward w/my bf. She was a pretty lousy friend during that period (withdrawn, didn''t respond, talked behind my back about me and FI), and it all culminated in her sending a nasty email to me out of the blue saying she couldn''t be friends anymore as i became consumed by my relationship. It was pretty ridiculous, especially for someone in their 30''s.
Fast forward, and now I kind of miss her since I''m getting married and can''t share the experience with her. However,she really wasn''t exactly supportive even when I was just dating FI. My FI is not crazy about her either and doesn''t understand why i miss the friendship. Anyway, she just invited me to a housewarming (invite was part of mass email though) since she moved to a nice new building. My first instinct is to go..see old friends, and maybe heal the friendship. My FI''s response was he had no interest, but I could go.
This kind of annoyed me...he has not interest in coming and supporting me? and how weird does it look when i show up newly engaged alone. FI says it''s not a nice gesture on my friend''s part b/c it was a mass email and she''s just showing off her new apt. I don''t see it that way exactly b/c i know how girls do things differently (more subtle, and sensitive).
I asked a mutual friend and she said FI and I should def go..to see old friends and also it''s a way to patch things up. i can tell she wouldn''t expect i would even consider going alone.
Who''s right here?
had a falling out w/a very good friend about 1 year ago. I think she was feeling down and annoyed that things were moving forward w/my bf. She was a pretty lousy friend during that period (withdrawn, didn''t respond, talked behind my back about me and FI), and it all culminated in her sending a nasty email to me out of the blue saying she couldn''t be friends anymore as i became consumed by my relationship. It was pretty ridiculous, especially for someone in their 30''s.
Fast forward, and now I kind of miss her since I''m getting married and can''t share the experience with her. However,she really wasn''t exactly supportive even when I was just dating FI. My FI is not crazy about her either and doesn''t understand why i miss the friendship. Anyway, she just invited me to a housewarming (invite was part of mass email though) since she moved to a nice new building. My first instinct is to go..see old friends, and maybe heal the friendship. My FI''s response was he had no interest, but I could go.
This kind of annoyed me...he has not interest in coming and supporting me? and how weird does it look when i show up newly engaged alone. FI says it''s not a nice gesture on my friend''s part b/c it was a mass email and she''s just showing off her new apt. I don''t see it that way exactly b/c i know how girls do things differently (more subtle, and sensitive).
I asked a mutual friend and she said FI and I should def go..to see old friends and also it''s a way to patch things up. i can tell she wouldn''t expect i would even consider going alone.
Who''s right here?