Ha I don''t even have a date/venue yet, but these (haha at least in my mind - haven''t discussed much with anyone else yet!) are all a NO:
- Unity candle (I liked the sand ceremony, but probably won''t do it)
- Garter toss/boquet toss - may give the flowers to my grandparents or parents
- Dollar dances - we don''t even do those around here
- Cake in the face
- Bridal party - if there is one, it''ll just be my brother up there with both of us. Or might have my Mom as my MOH.
- Ring bearer or flower girl
- Favors - thankfully Mom doesn''t even like wasteful favors - we''ll either do M&Ms or donate (THOUGHT: Why do we have favors anyway, if the whole point of inviting people is to thank them for being there for us and for their presence? We''re already feeding them, why give them even more? Just a bothering thought...)
- Vocal performances during the ceremony for 3 whole minutes while we stand there staring at each other awkwardly...
- Probably no speeches, unless Dad decides to or something
- Traditional dances, except I''ll probably dance with Dad - I''d love to just do it while everyone else is dancing though, instead of being stared at
- Possibly no first dance alone - I''d like to do it with everybody else dancing as well - can you tell I don''t like being stared at and critiqued? especially my dancing? haha
- I''d love to do a Rock the Reception type dance, but I doubt we will
- Bachelor/ette parties
- Women-only bridal shower - I want to do a coed shower, since the groom is half of the 2 people getting married - it''s for him too!
- Probably no veil
- Table by ourselves at reception
- Traditional processional music
- I love the idea of all parents giving you away, not just the "her mother and I"
- May not have any dancing period. I think I''d like that better, but if we invite ~75 people, I don''t know if just a dinner would just be kind of boring.
- Haha thinking through all this makes me laugh, because my cousin is having a wedding this fall, and EVERYTHING she''s doing is so traditional. She has 9 BM, and he has 9 GM. There are like 5 junior BM, and more ushers, and about 4-5 flower girls.
The ceremony''s going to be 1.5 hours long... 400 people... blaaaaahhhhhh. I have to stand up there for 1.5 hours....
Plus she''s a music major and will probably have alllllll the traditional classic music, plus lots more...