Wedding Wedding band blues

[Gwyn]

So, I have looked around at tons of different types of wedding bands but I cannot really say that I love any of them with my engagement ring. The only band that i like enough, that i feel suits me enough that i would wear, is band that matches the band of my ering. Now don''''t get me wrong i LOVE my e-ring. i picked it out and everything, its exactly what i wanted, i just really like it alone.

I priced it out at a few different places and to get it made to match (in platinum since mixing platinum and other metals is not recommended) is about $3300-3500 (4 different jewelers all gave me within this range).

One a scale of 1 to 10 i like the look about a...6 maybe. I cant really think of paying that kind of money for something that I don''t love let alone spending it on something thats more of a lesser of the evils kind of deal

So...anyway...i have thought up a few options

#1 Suck it up, buy the matching band. It looks really nice, even if it doesnt suit my style, maybe i''ll learn to love it too

#2 Do not wear a wedding band. Get a cheap one for the ceremony and for sentimental purposes but dont wear it out afterwards

#3 Get a nice band that i like and wear that alone on my left finger and move my e-ring to my right finger. Using this option i could get a band that semi-matched my fiances.

Then option #4

Keep in mind it is 6:30 am and i have not gone to bed yet (not that i have been obsessing about this, im just not a big sleeper)

Ok so tonight i got to thinking... I have always wanted a blue topaz (my birthstone) or saphire ring mostly a blue stone ring (blue is my fave color) Kind of antique-y looking like the one Kcoursolle had made

here is the thread: https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/my-antique-garnet-ring-is-done-pics-inside.48251/ Or maybe more like a simple center stone with two baguets on the side.... ANYWAY

What if, instead of buying just a band, my FI and I designed a new ring and with a matching band (this band could also match his in a way, depending on how we designed it). He could give me the ring as my wedding gift and it could be my "something blue". Then i could wear that ring, with new matching band on my left hand (since those would be the rings he gave me on our wedding day). And wear my e-ring on my right hand.

I would probably end up spending a comprable amount of money, but I could have something I really loved. Plus it might be a lil cheaper b.c i could get white gold or plated silver or whatever the rage is these days. Or even a real simple platinum setting. Anyway, details could be worked out later.

Now...am i crazy? Is that something that crazy people would do? My FI is totally on board with the idea. But, then again, he is always on board with things he thinks will make me happy. He told me he wouldnt mind any option, but he would prefer i had a band, and maybe wore it sometimes

What do you all think???


Oh if you want to see my e-ring you can look at this thread. I really do love it. I think the problem is that I had it made exactly how i wanted it that anything else takes away from it to me. I dont know... i might be a lil crazy, lol. This ring style is so popular now and i see so many different band styles with it and it looks really nice with so many of them its just not...well its not me. Am I the only one out there with this issue, lol.

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/my-asscher.62498/

 

[Sabine]

It's obvious what will make you happy! The only concern I would have with option 4 is making sure your FI is okay with your original ering not being part of your wedding set. If he is on board, then go for it, otherwise you will always be wondering if you should have.

ETA, I can totally commiserate! I returned my second wedding band today. I haven't been able to find what I'm looking for, but I have a budget of about $500, so having what I want custom made doesn't look like it's an option at all =( I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I don't think I'm going to get what I want, and it sucks, so I really don't want anyone else to have to go through this!

 

[Sabrina_Fair]

For that kind of money, I think you should get something you really love.

#1 I wouldn''t go this option if you think every band you''ve seen would detract from it. Try not to spend that sort of money on anything that you''ll "learn" to love.

#2 Your fiance and everyone will be looking for a wedding band on the day and he''s hoping you''ll wear it after the wedding. I''m hearing that you''d be willing to wear a band as long as you like it.

#3 This will be your wedding band, not just an ordinary piece. I think option # 3 is nice and will give you another option than having to leave out the band entirely. What if you had a diamond/sapphire wedding band, or one made with topaz? Band on the left, engagement ring on your right.

#4 is perfect if your fiance is right on board. I think this would be your best option, the bonus being your key words "I have always wanted"....

Go get that topaz ring, girl!!!

 

[Gwyn]

Date: 4/27/2008 10:05:40 AM
Author: Sabine
It's obvious what will make you happy! The only concern I would have with option 4 is making sure your FI is okay with your original ering not being part of your wedding set. If he is on board, then go for it, otherwise you will always be wondering if you should have.

ETA, I can totally commiserate! I returned my second wedding band today. I haven't been able to find what I'm looking for, but I have a budget of about $500, so having what I want custom made doesn't look like it's an option at all =( I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that I don't think I'm going to get what I want, and it sucks, so I really don't want anyone else to have to go through this!

He was actually the one that suggested the whole separate hand thing to begin with.

My FI is sentimental but not overly so. I think he wants us to both have wedding bands we wear. But he doesnt care too much about little things like if they match or if i wear it with my E-ring. if i told him i wasnt going to wear my e-ring anymore (not an option) ...I honestly dont think he would care sentimenal wise. But i know he would not be too thrilled we forked over the money for a ring i wasnt going to wear anymore.

As for the second ring...Since we were thinking of getting the other ring anyway and, with the separate hands for wedding band and Ering I am out of "ring fingers", I thought maybe we could incorporate the new ring into the wedding and I could wear a "wedding set" kind of deal on my left hand (keeping in line somewhat with "tradition").

 

[dogmama]

I wish my FI were that accommodating. I suggested that I have a plain band and a diamond one and he was like, no way. He was pretty much just like--get what you want but make sure that you choose only one.

I''m having a hard time deciding on a band too. I always pictured a diamond band, but I did try a whole bunch on. Eternity, pave, channel. They didn''t seem to look right. I''m getting really frustrated too.

I think you should just get what works for you especially if your FI is not particular at all. That makes it SO much easier for you and you have a really great budget to work with. Maybe you could have a designer look at your ring and come up with different band ideas. Or incorporate blue gemstones into the band to satisfy your sapphire longing.

I think in the end I''m going to settle for a plain band. FI is overjoyed that I''m leaning towards this because he wanted plain matching bands to begin with. (grumble) So, sometime this week I''m heading back to GOG to try on bands that they ordered in for us. They were the only plain bands so far that actually sit flush with my e-ring and that I''m even vaguely considering.

Sigh...you would think picking out the bands would be the easy part!