Wear Ering alone...

[stci]

Curious to know how much among you wear their ering without wedding band (married woman)?

I decide to wear mine like this but not sure it's acceptable after 32 years of marriage. Your opinion?

 

[artdecogirl]

Stci, I have not worn the ering alone, I will often wear the band alone, to me my ering just looks naked alone but if you like the way yours looks then I say do it!

 

[Rhea]

I have two diamond rings, my original e-ring and another ring. I don't wear either with an engagement ring, in fact, I just now bought a matching wedding band to go with my e-ring after over 4 years of marriage.

 

[AprilBaby]

I like to wear my 3 stone ering along because it showcases the diamonds better.

 

[vespergirl]

I wear mine alone a lot because sometimes I don't want to wear my diamond eternity ring, because I'm afraid of damaging it. Then I just wear my solitaire alone.

 

[junebug17]

Stci, I think after 32 years anything is acceptable! I lost my ering quite a few years ago, so for the past 15 years or so have just worn several different kinds of rings on my left hand (5 stone band, antique ring from ebay, etc.). There have been days I didn't wear any rings. My husband bought me a new wedding set last year and I wear them together because it's a matched set. But, in my opinion anyway, I don't think there's a right or wrong thing to do here. I think you should just wear whatever you like and not worry about it!

 

[ecf8503]

I've never worn a band - always just the e-ring, and I like it that way! Shows off the diamond.

 

[cellentani]

I wear my e-ring alone, but it's not a solitaire. If I had a solitaire, I'd probably want to wear it with the band, but that's just my personal preference - it wouldn't bother me one bit if a friend of mine didn't wear the band with her e-ring. Be free!!

 

[mercoledi]

I wear my ering alone on my right hand and my wedding band alone on the left. I know plenty of women wot are European or east Asian who only wear their ering, no wedding band. If you're comfortable, just do it!

 

[RhubarbPie]

I wear my ering alone on my right hand and my wedding band alone on the left. I know plenty of women wot are European or east Asian who only wear their ering, no wedding band. If you're comfortable, just do it!

I'm not engaged yet (soon!), so obviously not married yet, but this is what I will do. Ering on the right hand and wedding band on the left. But my engagement ring isn't a solitaire so it will be able to stand alone.

 

[elrohwen]

When I was growing up, my mom only wore her wband. She really didn't like her ering, and said the high setting got caught on everything.

A few years ago my grandma gave us her ering and wband. My mom used the stone from the ering, and two of the single cut side stones, to make a new ring for herself. It's kind of an edwardian filigree type ring (kind of similar to this: http://ringoblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/filigree-engagement-ring.jpg), where the stone is set flush, so it's very easy for her to wear. It doesn't go with her old wband at all, and really doesn't need a wband, so she wears it alone.

My parents have been married for 36 years. At that point, I think you can do whatever you want

 

[Fly Girl]

I wear mine alone a lot because sometimes I don't want to wear my diamond eternity ring, because I'm afraid of damaging it. Then I just wear my solitaire alone.

I often wonder about this issue when I see all these diamond eternity wedding bands on PS. A nice solution is to get a simple all metal wedding band to wear when doing activites when you are worried about damaging fancier rings. I'm not sure why the OP is thinking about wearing her e-ring solo, but this might be a solution for her as well. Plus, the simple wedding band can be worn solo when you are doing activies that might be damaging to the e-ring. Metal rings are not expensive.

 

[rosetta]

yes, i plan to wear my ering alone to work, even when i am married.

In fact, I have an ering that i wear specifically for work, as it is more discreet, with a 1ct cushion (I am a doctor)

other times, i will wear my full wedding set, with a different larger ering (which I am still sourcing the centre stone for)

i don't see why you can't mix and match.

in fact, i feel that on certain occassions, it is more appropriate to "dress down" your diamonds a bit!

 

[Isabelle]

Particularly if the diamond is larger OR if the ering is a three stone ring, I think you can totally skip the WB and go solo on the ering. I think it's fine to do whatever you like best. Some erings look better without the WB. It's a personal preference.

 

[stci]

I'm happy! I did not know that there were so many women who wear only the Ering!

Mine is a ballerina. It's not a big diamond (1 ct center) but there are rounds and baguettes diamonds in halo style. Have a long time wore a plain wedding band but it passed under the Ering (as you can see in my avatar) and became scratched quickly. Plus, my Ering setting is 1mm (really delicate) and my diamond really look bigger without the band.

I am reassured because I have to resize down my Ering.

 

[zhuzhu]

I often do. My DH does not care how many or how little ring I wear. I wear just one ring because cleaning the eternity band can be such a pain when I apply sunscreen all the time!

 

[swingirl]

I wear my ering alone. I have a diamond band but I prefer to wear one or the other and most of the time I wear neither. I love the look of my rings but I honestly don't like the feel of any rings on my fingers. Married for close to 30 years.

 

[Natylad]

Supposedly those rings are symbols and they have a very specific meaning. If you only wear an ER on your left hand, it means you're engaged, if you wear a wedding band alone or with your ER, it means you're married. As simple as that. So if somebody is wearing only the ER, she looks as if she's engaged and not married, period. Now if somebody is wearing rings just for the fun of it and doesn't care about what those rings stand for, i guess she can do whatever pleases her, but if those rings are worn as specific symbols (as they're supposed to be), then wearing only the ER gives the wrong impression to other people regardless of the lady's age.

 

[gemgirl]

I really think after all those years together, you can pretty much wear your rings however you want to.

I'm making myself a second e-ring in a round and in a completely different setting than my actual e-ring. Whether I go with a three stone or a halo (I'm trying to decide), I don't think I'm going to wear a band with either. I think it will be a little bit of a relief for my finger after wearing such a wide band for so long. I *might* get a little tiny plain band to wear with the halo, but odds are, I'll probably wear the new ring alone. I WANT something very different at this point.

 

[stci]

Supposedly those rings are symbols and they have a very specific meaning. If you only wear an ER on your left hand, it means you're engaged, if you wear a wedding band alone or with your ER, it means you're married. As simple as that. So if somebody is wearing only the ER, she looks as if she's engaged and not married, period. Now if somebody is wearing rings just for the fun of it and doesn't care about what those rings stand for, i guess she can do whatever pleases her, but if those rings are worn as specific symbols (as they're supposed to be), then wearing only the ER gives the wrong impression to other people regardless of the lady's age.

Awwwww! This is exactly the problem and why I feel "strange" to wear my Ering alone... perhaps this impression will pass with time... I hope!

 

[BLING BLING GIRL]

HI. VESPERGIRL, WHAT IS THE TOTAL CARAT WEIGHT OF UR ETERNITY BAND?

 

[Natylad]

Supposedly those rings are symbols and they have a very specific meaning. If you only wear an ER on your left hand, it means you're engaged, if you wear a wedding band alone or with your ER, it means you're married. As simple as that. So if somebody is wearing only the ER, she looks as if she's engaged and not married, period. Now if somebody is wearing rings just for the fun of it and doesn't care about what those rings stand for, i guess she can do whatever pleases her, but if those rings are worn as specific symbols (as they're supposed to be), then wearing only the ER gives the wrong impression to other people regardless of the lady's age.

Awwwww! This is exactly the problem and why I feel "strange" to wear my Ering alone... perhaps this impression will pass with time... I hope!

Awww...my dear Stci... i'm sorry, i didn't have any intention to make you sad with the things that i said...

 

[princesss]

Wear it however you like, and tell anybody who tells you how you "should" wear your rings to shove it.

Or, if you want to be polite, tell them you are recapturing the romance of your engagement.

 

[winelover23]

My dear friend Princess, you are a wise woman. Genius I tell you!

 

[HavocBride]

I agree with Princess - anyone who has a problem with you wearing your rings how you want can SHOVE IT!

I have a friend who wears only her engagement ring, because it's very unique and she hasn't found a band that really "fit" with it. She DOES get asked a lot, "when is the big day?" But she just politely says, "this is actually my wedding ring," and leaves it at that.

My mother only wears one ring. I've never heard anyone assume she was only engaged, though.

I was concerned about this because the ring I really like isn't advised to be worn with a wedding ring (could damage the prongs of the solitaire), and the wedding ring is supposed to be a "symbol" and what-have-you.

My FH, however, said "any marriage that is based on a whether you're wearing a piece of jewelry, isn't worth very much."

Just another perspective to consider.

 

[Lula]

Congratulations on 32 years of marriage, stci! I think you should wear your ring any way you want. The "traditional" e-ring-wedding-band set is a pretty new invention (early to mid 1900s) and it's not a tradition you see in every culture either. A ring on the ring finger of the left hand is a symbol of marriage in the USA; in other countries, the wedding band is worn on the right hand.

One of my grandmothers, who was married in the late 1920s, wore an Art Deco engraved, filigreed ring set with an OEC and small sapphire accents. It was the only ring she wore. My other grandmother, married about the same time, also had an Art Deco diamond ring that she wore alone, no band. In the 1950s, for her 25th anniversary, she had her diamond reset in a classic 1950s illusion style setting and got a matching diamond wedding band. People's taste change over time. Styles change.

I wear my halo alone sometimes; with a band sometimes; or wear it on my left hand with a wedding band on my right hand sometimes - I like to have options. When I wear my halo alone, I've never had anyone ask me if I was engaged. Mostly they just say "pretty ring" and leave it at that.

I tend to think of any person -- male or female -- wearing a ring on their ring finger of their left hand (in the USA) as "taken," whether married or engaged.

 

[kittybean]

I sometimes wear my e-ring alone, and no one seems bothered by it. My wedding band occasionally irritates my finger, so I'll go without it for a few days to let my skin "breathe" a little and heal before I put it back on.

My mom has been married for 33 years, and she has worn her upgrade by itself for the last 23 years. She has a wedding band that she used to wear on her right hand, but she has since gotten a three-row pave ring that she wears as an RHR.

I think you should wear your ring however you want to wear it! Married people do all kinds of different things when it comes to rings--wearing or not wearing a ring does not change the vows you made to each other. My in-laws have never worn rings, and they have been married for over 35 years. I liking wearing something sparkly on that finger because it reminds me of my DH and to show that I'm "taken." If people want to think I'm engaged, that's wonderful. If they want to think the ring is a ruse and I'm not really married, that's fine too. What matters is whether I am being true to my DH and my marriage vows. Stci, you have been true to your vows for 32 years--you should wear whatever pleases you.

 

[stci]

Supposedly those rings are symbols and they have a very specific meaning. If you only wear an ER on your left hand, it means you're engaged, if you wear a wedding band alone or with your ER, it means you're married. As simple as that. So if somebody is wearing only the ER, she looks as if she's engaged and not married, period. Now if somebody is wearing rings just for the fun of it and doesn't care about what those rings stand for, i guess she can do whatever pleases her, but if those rings are worn as specific symbols (as they're supposed to be), then wearing only the ER gives the wrong impression to other people regardless of the lady's age.

Awwwww! This is exactly the problem and why I feel "strange" to wear my Ering alone... perhaps this impression will pass with time... I hope!

Awww...my dear Stci... i'm sorry, i didn't have any intention to make you sad with the things that i said...

No no Sweety! No problem!

Or, if you want to be polite, tell them you are recapturing the romance of your engagement.

Hoooooooo! I like this!

My decision is made, I will wear my ring alone! Thank you PS angels!

 

[soocool]

I have been married almost 21 years and have always worn my WB and ER together, even when I was pregnant. My mother always wore hers together. My MIL only wears a plain band on her right hand. A good friend of mine usually wears her ER alone on her left hand only because it is so huge and wears her pave wedding band on her right hand.

Do whatever makes you feel good. I don't think there is a right or wrong to this question.

 

[betty6333]

I often wear my ering alone. I have 2 bands that I will wear with it when I want to change the look up from time to time. I dont worry that people will think I am "just engaged". It seems to be quite common in my area for women just to wear the 1 ring now. Especially whent he diamonds are a good size and can stand on their own. When I do wear the bands it changes the look of the ring, and honestly, I like the looks of just the ering by itself. when the bands are there, it makes my ring look bulky imo. and since it is my hand I figure I get to say what I am wearing on it!

Wear your ring and enjoy!