Begonia
Ideal_Rock
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We paid off our house. We took money from our savings and put the last 47k on it this weekend at the bank. It was a pretty big moment for us. We thought long and hard as my husband's job is not secure.
I feel conflicted: relieved, proud and questioning our choices in life to get to this point. I was a stay at home mom for many many years, and have always underearned once I did get back full time. Paying off the house represents choices: not going on holidays, driving older cars, not eating out, no spa treatments or tucks for this middle age gal, not having new clothes and (especially to me LOL) not buying bling or buying inexpensive bling. I may never have that holy grail blue sapphire I dream about, and I've never dared dream about a holy grail OEC.
On the other hand, we've always had the funds on hand for our needs (vs our wants). I'm in need of a root canal (bloody tooth pain is killer), and have that scheduled. I can afford to do that. My kids have never known hunger, we have a safe and warm roof over our heads. I'm rich in the ways that matter.
We can't tell anyone as it just brings up negative emotions from people: resentment, jealousy, and some other weird stuff I'm not qualified to name. So I'll say it here. Yes, for all those sacrifices we made, the feeling today is relief and gratitude that debt is gone.
I feel conflicted: relieved, proud and questioning our choices in life to get to this point. I was a stay at home mom for many many years, and have always underearned once I did get back full time. Paying off the house represents choices: not going on holidays, driving older cars, not eating out, no spa treatments or tucks for this middle age gal, not having new clothes and (especially to me LOL) not buying bling or buying inexpensive bling. I may never have that holy grail blue sapphire I dream about, and I've never dared dream about a holy grail OEC.
On the other hand, we've always had the funds on hand for our needs (vs our wants). I'm in need of a root canal (bloody tooth pain is killer), and have that scheduled. I can afford to do that. My kids have never known hunger, we have a safe and warm roof over our heads. I'm rich in the ways that matter.
We can't tell anyone as it just brings up negative emotions from people: resentment, jealousy, and some other weird stuff I'm not qualified to name. So I'll say it here. Yes, for all those sacrifices we made, the feeling today is relief and gratitude that debt is gone.