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fleur-de-lis|1308694935|2951339 said:The hypothetical man should ask whether she meant style, or price. The first is a helpful clue about her likes/dislikes; the second means it may be time to have an open discussion about money if they have not yet already.
suchende|1308695500|2951346 said:I'll bet she has no idea it costs $40k.
If she does, she may very well think that marriage is many years off... or with another man.
Dancing Fire|1308696018|2951352 said:suchende|1308695500|2951346 said:I'll bet she has no idea it costs $40k.
If she does, she may very well think that marriage is many years off... or with another man.there was a $40+K price tag in front of the ring..
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Kilops|1308700731|2951419 said:Beg, borrow, steal, do whatever you need to get the ring. Either that or change professions and/or GF. While she might be currently satisfied with a lesser ring, buying a lesser ring will never "make her dream come true".
JewelFreak|1308701859|2951439 said:Very likely she just meant, "If I could have anything....that's my dream ring." I say that kind of thing every day (after being on PS). When I come up with it looking in a jeweler's window, DH laughs & says, "Who's gonna buy it for you?"
Ask her! If you can't do that, you don't know her well enough to marry her.
fiery|1308701257|2951429 said:My coworker took his girlfriend (now wife) looking at styles. She found one she love but it was $35k. She said she really wanted that one and he was honest with her. Said he didn't think spending that much was something he could do. She was bummed and told him that she could help pay for it if that was the case and he said he wasn't comfortable with that. They both left feeling sad.
Later on in the day he said that he was really sorry but didn't want to start out their marriage having spent $35,000 on a ring. She looked at him and said "what?!?! That ring was $35,000?? I thought it said $3,500!"
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Dancing Fire|1308694645|2951333 said:that he couldn't afford the $40K Ering she saw displaying in the jewelry store window ?
the gf said...that's my dream ring.![]()
...in his mind..$40K??..
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wannaBMrsH|1308703922|2951480 said:fiery|1308701257|2951429 said:My coworker took his girlfriend (now wife) looking at styles. She found one she love but it was $35k. She said she really wanted that one and he was honest with her. Said he didn't think spending that much was something he could do. She was bummed and told him that she could help pay for it if that was the case and he said he wasn't comfortable with that. They both left feeling sad.
Later on in the day he said that he was really sorry but didn't want to start out their marriage having spent $35,000 on a ring. She looked at him and said "what?!?! That ring was $35,000?? I thought it said $3,500!"
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I know a woman who did this! Sat down and found her dream ring and the now DH said not only no! but HECK NO! She replied that she knew it was a little more than they agreed to spend but she could help him pay for it. He again said no. They left and she burst into tears and said, "We agreed on $10,000.00 and I know $12,000 is a little more, but we aren't hurting for money. My parents are paying for the wedding and we each already have a home. I really don't understand." He very slowly turned to her and said, "Baby...that ring isn't 12,000 dollars, it is ONE HUNDRED AND TWENTY THOUSAND DOLLARS!"
Even now, she is so embarrassed when she tells the story...they ended up passing on her "dream ring" and she still has a stunning ring that I hear was definitely in their budget!
JewelFreak|1308701859|2951439 said:Very likely she just meant, "If I could have anything....that's my dream ring." I say that kind of thing every day (after being on PS). When I come up with it looking in a jeweler's window, DH laughs & says, "Who's gonna buy it for you?"
Ask her! If you can't do that, you don't know her well enough to marry her.
Kilops|1308700731|2951419 said:Beg, borrow, steal, do whatever you need to get the ring. Either that or change professions and/or GF. While she might be currently satisfied with a lesser ring, buying a lesser ring will never "make her dream come true".
merilenda|1308699447|2951398 said:Are you sure she didn't mean it in a "if I had unlimited resources, that would be my dream ring!" kind of way? I mean, in the same way that you might say "that's my dream home" when you see a house way outside of your financial means. It might not mean that she actually expects the SO to actually buy a $40k ring.
or propose with a CZ ...lliang_chi|1308768435|2952143 said:Agreed, probably a miscommunication between imaginary "if money was no object" and actually something she'd want him to buy.
Also it's quite true about the missing a decimal place issue. I've done that a few times myself.![]()
If she really wants that $40K ring that she knows they can't afford, then time to get a new girlfriend.
~LC
VapidLapid|1308771043|2952199 said:he should turn around and point out his dream wife.