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Rough_Rock
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- Mar 30, 2004
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You know, I'll have to ask my mother how she felt about my BIL talking only to my father when he wanted to marry my sister. While my family is relatively traditional, my mom works, expects to be included in all family decisions, etc. I wouldn't be surprised if she felt a bit left out when BIL talked to my dad only (especially since both my sister & I are closer to mom). Since my mother would have no more problem keeping a secret than my father, and this wouldn't be a "short" talk with either of them, there was really no reason not to include her. I think my BIL just did it that way because "that's the way it's done."
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RE: alcohol at weddings. Speaking as a social drinker, be SO glad all the weddings you've been to serve alcohol. (Guess you don't know many Southern Baptists!) Nothing more boring than a reception if no one's dancing, and you know not many people are going to be dancing if there's no drinking! My sister had a dry wedding because even though they both drink, they thought his family would be upset if there was alcohol. Let's just say it was a short, dull reception because his family wouldn't dance either (despite my encouragement!). They were actually annoyed that people were clinking on the glasses for the couple to kiss (i guess they weren't supposed to kiss in public other than a short peck when the pastor said so) I always hated weddings as a kid...LONG sermon followed by a short reception in the church fellowship hall with (seriously) punch & cookies.
Only when I went to my first Catholic as an adult did I see that weddings could be romantic & fun. Then, I went to a wedding in Poland--The reception lasted 3 days!!! What a blast! They were shocked when they heard that American receptions are only a few hours/a day long. But, they get more time off work, etc. so people can travel further and stay longer.
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RE: alcohol at weddings. Speaking as a social drinker, be SO glad all the weddings you've been to serve alcohol. (Guess you don't know many Southern Baptists!) Nothing more boring than a reception if no one's dancing, and you know not many people are going to be dancing if there's no drinking! My sister had a dry wedding because even though they both drink, they thought his family would be upset if there was alcohol. Let's just say it was a short, dull reception because his family wouldn't dance either (despite my encouragement!). They were actually annoyed that people were clinking on the glasses for the couple to kiss (i guess they weren't supposed to kiss in public other than a short peck when the pastor said so) I always hated weddings as a kid...LONG sermon followed by a short reception in the church fellowship hall with (seriously) punch & cookies.
Only when I went to my first Catholic as an adult did I see that weddings could be romantic & fun. Then, I went to a wedding in Poland--The reception lasted 3 days!!! What a blast! They were shocked when they heard that American receptions are only a few hours/a day long. But, they get more time off work, etc. so people can travel further and stay longer.