Trash the dresses

[princesss]

Date: 6/19/2010 2:05:57 PM
Author: Circe
I see the whole phenomenon as an attempt to subvert the persona of the ''bride'' - you''re not a prudish, goody-goody, virginal milksop just because you''re wearing white! You''re bad.

I also always saw this as being kind of silly and a copout - I mean, you chose to wear the white dress, own its symbolism, whatever that might be. And yes, it is wasteful if it ruins the dress completely (though, one does have to wonder how one can totally ruin a dress in the age of dry-cleaning, short of swimming in a wineries vats).

That said, given how many people in this thread appear to take the concept almost personally ... I guess it is successful in being subversive. Or, at least shocking ....

Does it really subvert it if it happens AFTER the wedding - you know, when a girl''s "allowed" to be bad. It could be viewed as just a ritual to show that you couldn''t wear white again if you wanted to, KWIM?

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I don''t have an issue with the pictures, but I wouldn''t do them. There''s a whole lot of self-indulgence in weddings, and it''d probably be good for me to remember that I''m not actually the center of the universe once the day is done. (Not saying anybody here is like that, but I like the spotlight and am a little vain, so it''d be a good reminder for me.)

 

[merilenda]

I''ll just throw out there that I also love TTD pictures. I especially think it''s awesome that Lauren got some great pictures, since she wasn''t happy with the ones from her wedding (and that underwater shot is very cool).

I will probably consider doing this, because I love photography so much. To me, pictures are worth much more than a dress will ever be. We all have our own priorities, and that doesn''t make any of them right or wrong. But I also won''t be spending that much money on a dress either way.

Like others, I will never understand why anyone gets offended at the choices of others that don''t even concern them. If you wouldn''t want to do a TTD session for yourself, then that''s totally up to you. But why waste time judging others for their choices?