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lovedogs|1487916220|4132838 said:Because that's not the facility that corresponds with their gender identity. If you HAD to use the men's restroom you might be uncomfortable with that, because you'd feel as though that wasn't your "correct" restroom based on your gender. Their legal gender isn't what they feel, it isn't what they agree with, and they are distressed by that. So their legal gender is irrelevant here, IMHO.
I have been in situations - several times - where I had to use a men's restroom (women's was closed, long line/couldn't wait, etc). I wasn't harassed, assaulted, etc. I did my business and left. It was nature's call; not a date. Having the opposite gender's anatomy would be a bigger 'discomfort' for me when using the bathroom 10 times a day; not which bathroom I was using for nature's call. And again, there ARE laws in place to protect someone who is 'mistreated'. So this is about comfort and how an individual feels through no fault or action of anyone or anything else. That is a 'coping issue' where counseling to help manage feelings would probably be helpful. And I am not trying to be or sound insensitive about it; I understand it's deeply personal to that person. But you cannot legislate 'feelings'; only 'actions'.
Legal gender is absolutely relevant and central to this topic. You cannot dismiss the legality of something while also insisting that there be a law or protection addressing it because any law or protection would require or prescribe a definition of 'gender', and that definition needs to be specific enough to enable enforcement by the courts, as that is where any related offenses would be judged. That is what NC was doing by referring to 'biological gender' in HB2, which IMO should have been stated as 'legal' gender instead of 'biological' gender.