today''s Q...why are there so many lurkers on PS?

[Dancing Fire]

are they too shy to joint?
are they laughing at us diamond nuts?

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I think a lot of people start here looking to gather information...their membership either will grow, or they will move on. I remember a PS member a while ago suggesting that people should lurk for an extended period of time before joining the site....

 

[LostSapphire]

they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

Hahaa...I was just going to say that.

 

[Cachette]

I lurked for many months (almost a year) before registering Dancine Fire.

I agree with Italiahaircolor that most would seek and find the info they need and move on (there is enough info on this site to make many informed decisions without even asking one question!). Some, like myself, just can''t stop at the lurking part and just decide to jump in one day and become part of this world. Why you probably wonder? To seek reasurrance (about a purchase perhaps) and/or to show off to those that really appreciate what you have to show off!

In my lifetime I''ll probably never hit as many posts as many have here but I''ll probably be a PS lifer. I still enjoy "lurking"; I''m the girl in the corner at a party sitting with an acquaintance or two, making the occasional small talk, having a drink but taking in all the action!!

Some are like the girls at the party who sit alone all night and who are content to never say a word but who enjoy the party nonetheless.

Cachette

 

[Fly Girl]

I think most lurkers enjoy reading the posts, and are not laughing at us. You can get tons of information without posting a question. People are busy, and probably have more pressing interests.

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

I wonder if maybe it''s intimidation? I lurked for a couple months before feeling brave enough to post. When you have the very wise long-timers, the experts on the diamond forum, and the experts in the colored stone forum, it can be intimidating. Of course, what I didn''t realize then (and do now) is that even if everyone knows way more than me, they''re totally willing to help and teach too. So I''m totally glad I started posting, but I can see why others wouldn''t just yet

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

maybe that''s why so many of them stay in the LIW forum.

 

[DiamanteBlu]

I only log in if I have something to post [and then I don''t bother to log out!]. So, some of the lurkers here are just us lazy folk - too lazy to login each time we show up.

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 1/25/2009 9:08:51 PM
Author: Brown.Eyed.Girl

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

I wonder if maybe it''s intimidation? I lurked for a couple months before feeling brave enough to post. When you have the very wise long-timers, the experts on the diamond forum, and the experts in the colored stone forum, it can be intimidating. Of course, what I didn''t realize then (and do now) is that even if everyone knows way more than me, they''re totally willing to help and teach too. So I''m totally glad I started posting, but I can see why others wouldn''t just yet

I totally agree. I''ve lurked since 2003 (research engagement rings), officially became a member in 2005 (to post wedding set) and started posting again to share my new stone. I have to admit, I was intimidated by all of the "veterans" and "experts". Everybody is so knowledgeable. It''s also tough when you''re a newbie because you don''t exactly know how you''re going to fit in.

I just started coming out of lurkdom this month. I just couldn''t keep my admiration of colored diamonds and gemstones to myself. I had to join in! And I am so glad I did, because I am having a blast! Everyone is so nice and helpful.

I wish it didn''t take me 6 years to come out of hiding, but I''m here now.

 

[dc sparkles]

Well... Hi !

Delurking and my first post. This lurker -
a) is normally too shy to join a conversation because I''m new to posting on the board, but hey, ya gotta start somewhere
b) is mostly too lazy to login, since I''m not going to post
c) is not full of diamond knowledge, etc

But - I''ve been reading for about a year, and have developed a severe PS addiction. I started by researching diamond studs, which I got from James Allen and love. Since then PS has motivated me to buy WF earring jackets, a WF scattered diamond band, a Cartier rolling ring, stacking bands, solitaire pendants in YG and WG, a couple of high karat gold items, and I''ve lost count of what else. Trend follower, yes. If you love and want something, there''s just all kinds of validation here to go get it

So, Hi - and I bet there are many lurkers like me

 

[MissGotRocks]

Hi DC and welcome!

I''m sure that was the way many of us joined; it was fun reading and learning and then you bought something that you just wanted to share.

Sounds like you have been inspired to buy many things - we would love to see them!

You could start a collection thread in SMTR!!

 

[Fly Girl]

Date: 1/25/2009 9:59:22 PM
Author: dc sparkles
Well... Hi !

Delurking and my first post. This lurker -
a) is normally too shy to join a conversation because I''m new to posting on the board, but hey, ya gotta start somewhere
b) is mostly too lazy to login, since I''m not going to post
c) is not full of diamond knowledge, etc

But - I''ve been reading for about a year, and have developed a severe PS addiction. I started by researching diamond studs, which I got from James Allen and love. Since then PS has motivated me to buy WF earring jackets, a WF scattered diamond band, a Cartier rolling ring, stacking bands, solitaire pendants in YG and WG, a couple of high karat gold items, and I''ve lost count of what else. Trend follower, yes. If you love and want something, there''s just all kinds of validation here to go get it

So, Hi - and I bet there are many lurkers like me

Welcome, dc! Sounds like you have gotten yourself a wonderful collection while lurking. Please begin a thread to show us all of your beauties and allow the rest of us to drool!!!

I''ll bet you know more than you are willing to admit!

 

[Alexiszoe]

Ok, I am going to admit...I have been lurking since 2005 (as you can see I registered only in 2008!)

I have always loved diamonds, but it doesn''t seem to make sense to register when I don''t intend to ask questions about diamonds then, this site was used more for the wealth of information it provided.

PS is ALSO the reason why i keep getting shrinkage and am now looking around for my upgrade! my DH thinks it''s a bad influence for his pocket

 

[Blair138]

I don''t ever answer DF''s questions because I much rather like to lurk and read

However, I was a longtime lurker and found this site because I was a LIW and couldn''t take the wait! I finally signed up and was engaged not too long after. I like to read mostly, and post in BWW more than any other forum here. This site has GREAT information, diamonds, bridal, LIW, and everything else. Once in a while I need to get feedback or other''s insight, so I will post a topic.

I lurked mostly because I was a little intimidated with all the knowledge! I know a lot more about diamonds than I used to, but I have a lot of catching up to do!

 

[dc sparkles]

Thanks for the welcome

I''ll try to take some pics soon and post in SMTR, maybe a PS trend craze thread

I also want to apologize if my earlier post sounded obnoxious - just demonstrating the enabling effect of PS on even lurkers.
I''ve got a small collection going, but no large rocks... yet !

 

[jewelerman]

i invite them to jump in...

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 1/25/2009 9:20:46 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM

Author: LostSapphire

they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

maybe that''s why so many of them stay in the LIW forum.

Hey?!! Are you talking to me?!!

 

[Sizzle]

I think in the beginning I felt like I would be unwelcome. I think the first day I was reading a few years back, there was a thread that had turned nasty and that turned me off. Then I was reading something oneday that compelled me to post and here I am. Even now sometimes I feel uncomfortable posting because I feel like if I am not in the "popular" group, no one will care anyway.

 

[tlh]

I too was a long time lurker approx 8-9 months. But I had to join. I was addicted to the pretties, and I guess that just doesn''t go away.

 

[gemgirl]

Date: 1/25/2009 9:08:51 PM
Author: Brown.Eyed.Girl

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

I wonder if maybe it''s intimidation? I lurked for a couple months before feeling brave enough to post. When you have the very wise long-timers, the experts on the diamond forum, and the experts in the colored stone forum, it can be intimidating. Of course, what I didn''t realize then (and do now) is that even if everyone knows way more than me, they''re totally willing to help and teach too. So I''m totally glad I started posting, but I can see why others wouldn''t just yet

I think part of it is definitely intimidation. It''s hard trying to jump into a well established group where people seem to know each, if not personally, at least have been chatting with each other for years. I guess it''s a fear of not being accepted. It happens on all discussion boards though. It''s uncomfortable being the new kid on the block. On a more practical level..... we''re talking about diamonds and some ladies here have rings and jewelry that most people can only dream of owning, and that too can be very intimidating.

After just reading for years, I just figured "what the heck", I''m jumping in. Like me or don''t like me, Pricescope has been part of my ritual for way too long. Now I don''t think I''ll ever stop reading or participating. It''s more fun being involved than just lurking. Now I look forward to seeing whose posted lately and just saying

.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Date: 1/25/2009 9:20:46 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

maybe that''s why so many of them stay in the LIW forum.

Hey now thre DF... be nice to my LIW''s....we have emotional issues.....we just have to take them out on someone....

Are you volunteering DF?? I can find some ladies who wants some answers...maybe not from you...but you can be the scapegoat.

 

[geckodani]

I didn''t lurk for long, since it''s just not in my nature.

That said.... my first few posts left much to be desired.... lol. I think this can be a very indimidating forum to start posting on. I also think a lot of the lurkers may just be getting info and moving on.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/25/2009 9:20:46 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

maybe that''s why so many of them stay in the LIW forum.

We''ve all been involuntarily committed to the LIW forum, unfortunately.

We''re stuck there til our BFs get their bums in gear.

Or you could buy us all nice diamonds to hold us over, DF. Then maybe we''d come out to play?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/26/2009 10:18:35 AM
Author: gemgirl

Date: 1/25/2009 9:08:51 PM
Author: Brown.Eyed.Girl

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

I wonder if maybe it''s intimidation? I lurked for a couple months before feeling brave enough to post. When you have the very wise long-timers, the experts on the diamond forum, and the experts in the colored stone forum, it can be intimidating. Of course, what I didn''t realize then (and do now) is that even if everyone knows way more than me, they''re totally willing to help and teach too. So I''m totally glad I started posting, but I can see why others wouldn''t just yet

I think part of it is definitely intimidation. It''s hard trying to jump into a well established group where people seem to know each, if not personally, at least have been chatting with each other for years. I guess it''s a fear of not being accepted. It happens on all discussion boards though. It''s uncomfortable being the new kid on the block. On a more practical level..... we''re talking about diamonds and some ladies here have rings and jewelry that most people can only dream of owning, and that too can be very intimidating.

After just reading for years, I just figured ''what the heck'', I''m jumping in. Like me or don''t like me, Pricescope has been part of my ritual for way too long. Now I don''t think I''ll ever stop reading or participating. It''s more fun being involved than just lurking. Now I look forward to seeing whose posted lately and just saying

.

the ladies here don''t intimidate me

 

[Dreamgirl]

They probably like to read more than talk.

I like to talk!

 

[fieryred33143]

I thought you were all weird

I searched for rings under 1 carat and the 1 ct thread came up. At first I didn''t know how to get to other threads or sections so I didn''t even know there was a whole community. Then I figured it out and it turned weird to me, mostly because I was in the SMTR section and found it strange that everyone was bragging about their purchases and people were

about it.

Then I learned how to get out of SMTR to Rocky Talky and went ooohhhh that''s why they''re all bragging because they know how to buy good stuff.

And I eventually made my way to LIW. Don''t know how but was glad to see it there. I spent most of my time there but not as an active member. I would post every once in a while (so as not to be deleted from the list

). Now I''m mostly in Families and learned my lesson to stay away from other sections for the time being.

Anyway, PS is kind of hard to figure out at first and it can be intimidating. But women that are searching probably stumble across LIW and it pulls you in

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 1/26/2009 10:37:52 AM
Author: ~*Alexis*~

Date: 1/25/2009 9:20:46 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

maybe that''s why so many of them stay in the LIW forum.

Hey now thre DF... be nice to my LIW''s....we have emotional issues.....we just have to take them out on someone....

Are you volunteering DF?? I can find some ladies who wants some answers...maybe not from you...but you can be the scapegoat.

don''t think the LIW wanna hear my advise.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/26/2009 11:33:15 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/26/2009 10:37:52 AM
Author: ~*Alexis*~

Date: 1/25/2009 9:20:46 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 1/25/2009 7:32:06 PM
Author: LostSapphire
they''re afraid you''re going to ask them a question

maybe that''s why so many of them stay in the LIW forum.

Hey now thre DF... be nice to my LIW''s....we have emotional issues.....we just have to take them out on someone....

Are you volunteering DF?? I can find some ladies who wants some answers...maybe not from you...but you can be the scapegoat.

don''t think the LIW wanna hear my advise.

I beg to differ! I''d love to hear it. Bring it on over, I dare ya!

 

[Gayletmom]

For me it was certainly intimidation. I was (and still am) wowed by how much some of you know about diamonds, jewelry and everything related. An earlier post asking what you might want to ask other members prompted me to think "how long did it take you to learn all that".

What I learned pretty quickly, however, is that this is a very friendly, welcoming place. My early posts (and some of my more recent ones) were a mess and rather than sounding irritated, many of you offered helpful suggestions (thx, Neatfreak). I really appreciate your willingness to let anyone join the fun. I don''t think I''ll be going anywhere soon, I''m hooked!