Those with smaller e-rings... ever get called cute?

[portia]

I have a SIL that does this to me. She has never said my ering is cute, but things I say or do are ''cute'' to her which I feel is very condescending.

I can see using the word to describe an outfit or pair of shoes, but I would not say a diamond or ering is cute. I think there are better words that can be used.

 

[UCLABelle]

Just yesterday a co-worker commented on my "cute, little ring". She asked "Why did you get a little square?!"...and continued to say "they don't sparkle".

Yep, that is how I would describe a 1.5 Tiffany & Co Emerald cut.

I think it doesn't matter what size your ring is, someone is ALWAYS going to have a comment that isn't 100% pleasing.

 

[Cehrabehra]

I wouldn''t take it personally - I''ve had my 2.7 stone called "cute". I think the cute is sincere. Better than an insincere, "wow it looks so freaking huge is that 3 carats?" lol

 

[cate]

I just found this board, and this thread in particular, and had to join!

I am recently engaged. My fiance surprised me with an absolutely gorgeous ring. It is 1/2 carat with four tiny diamonds on each side of the band. It is a beautiful diamond. The diamond is incredibly sparkly. I have very small hands and I think this ring looks perfect on me. My fiance knew what I''d like and knew what would look good on me.

But I have gotten the "cute" comment and found it very insulting. I know I shouldn''t care what other people think, but it really does feel bad when I show off this ring, which I love with all my heart, and instead of complimenting it, I get "it''s cute."

Or just the other day, a co-worker from a different department took a look at it and then said, "You should see (co-worker''s) diamond; it''s huge!" What is that???

My ring is a symbol of the love my fiance and I have for each other. It is the most precious piece of jewelry I''ll ever own (along with the matching wedding band, which will be on my finger in a few months).

Anyway, anything bigger than 1/2 carat would look ridiculous on my tiny hand.

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/10/2009 1:48:22 PM
Author: cate
I just found this board, and this thread in particular, and had to join!

I am recently engaged. My fiance surprised me with an absolutely gorgeous ring. It is 1/2 carat with four tiny diamonds on each side of the band. It is a beautiful diamond. The diamond is incredibly sparkly. I have very small hands and I think this ring looks perfect on me. My fiance knew what I''d like and knew what would look good on me.

But I have gotten the ''cute'' comment and found it very insulting. I know I shouldn''t care what other people think, but it really does feel bad when I show off this ring, which I love with all my heart, and instead of complimenting it, I get ''it''s cute.''

Or just the other day, a co-worker from a different department took a look at it and then said, ''You should see (co-worker''s) diamond; it''s huge!'' What is that???

My ring is a symbol of the love my fiance and I have for each other. It is the most precious piece of jewelry I''ll ever own (along with the matching wedding band, which will be on my finger in a few months).

Anyway, anything bigger than 1/2 carat would look ridiculous on my tiny hand.

it is quite annoying when you are showing your ring and then they say something like that. Its like "you are asking to see my ring and then you make me feel un-important by pointing out someone else''s ring". I think it is rude and un-thoughtful!

 

[musey]

I''m careful not to call others'' jewelry that because I know some don''t like it, but I take it as a compliment! I think my ring/set IS "cute." I like cute. I''ve actually had this conversation with my husband... I''d rather have "cute" luxury goods (jewelry, car, house) than "lavish" luxury goods. If that makes sense. I like the cute cottage better than the palatial estate, the smart car better than the maserati.

Sorry it bugs you, I do understand why

 

[Madam Bijoux]

My smallest one is about 1/2 carat. People have called it "dainty", but never "cute".

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/10/2009 1:53:50 PM
Author: musey
I''m careful not to call others'' jewelry that because I know some don''t like it, but I take it as a compliment! I think my ring/set IS ''cute.'' I like cute. I''ve actually had this conversation with my husband... I''d rather have ''cute'' luxury goods (jewelry, car, house) than ''lavish'' luxury goods. If that makes sense. I like the cute cottage better than the palatial estate, the smart car better than the maserati.

Sorry it bugs you, I do understand why

I have a smart car! And I think its cuuuuuuuuuute!

 

[musey]

^^ I''ll be joining you very soon, Amethyste

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/10/2009 2:06:35 PM
Author: musey
^^ I''ll be joining you very soon, Amethyste

Yay!!!! I have had mine for almost 2 years now ( feb of ''10 ) and i looooooooooove it!!! Its a convertible and soooo efficient on gas! Can''y beat 46mpgs!

sorry for the thread jack!!!!

 

[cate]

Thanks, Amethyste.

I''ve heard "dainty," too, Madam Bijoux. It depends on who says it. I have one "friend" who is constantly trying to one-up me. (Ugh, I don''t play those games.) She called it dainty, which was her way of saying, "Look how little it is!" On the other hand, a close friend of mine called it dainty and meant it as a compliment.

If my diamond was equal in size to the amount of thought and love that my fiance put into selecting the setting and the diamond, I wouldn''t be able to lift my hand!

 

[trillionaire]

I would never call an e-ring ''cute'', strikes me as inappropriate. I''d say ''lovely'', or ''beautiful'' or ''striking'', or ''elegant'' or ''perfect for you'', which fits even if I don''t care for it. ''cute'' does sound condescending to me, though I''ve never gotten that comment, to date. Now, I have a Trillion with a split band, so I imagine it''s not everyone''s cup of tea, but I''ve only gotten lovely comments on it, especially from my parents who have been kind of blown away... It''s 1.51 tcw, with a 1.01 center. Honestly, I don''t think I''d care what anyone else thinks of my ring. It''s mine, they don''t have to like it. I especially feel that way because I am not a big jewelry person, and I rarely notice other women''s rings...

So, I assume most women aren''t paying attention to mine

 

[swingirl]

Cute has no connotation of size so why is cute insulting or inappropriate?

Grown men can be cute.
Houses can be cute.
Shoes can be cute.

It''s meant as a compliment so why take offense?

 

[junebug17]

Date: 8/10/2009 1:48:22 PM
Author: cate
I just found this board, and this thread in particular, and had to join!

I am recently engaged. My fiance surprised me with an absolutely gorgeous ring. It is 1/2 carat with four tiny diamonds on each side of the band. It is a beautiful diamond. The diamond is incredibly sparkly. I have very small hands and I think this ring looks perfect on me. My fiance knew what I''d like and knew what would look good on me.

But I have gotten the ''cute'' comment and found it very insulting. I know I shouldn''t care what other people think, but it really does feel bad when I show off this ring, which I love with all my heart, and instead of complimenting it, I get ''it''s cute.''

Or just the other day, a co-worker from a different department took a look at it and then said, ''You should see (co-worker''s) diamond; it''s huge!'' What is that???

My ring is a symbol of the love my fiance and I have for each other. It is the most precious piece of jewelry I''ll ever own (along with the matching wedding band, which will be on my finger in a few months).

Anyway, anything bigger than 1/2 carat would look ridiculous on my tiny hand.

Cate, I don''t blame you for being annoyed, your post illustrates exactly why I think calling an engagement ring "cute" is so wrong...here you are, showing off your beautiful ring that is so special to you (and expensive, to boot) and someone calls it "cute"? It makes me mad for you! I am amazed at some people''s ignorance and insensitivity. Just ignore those dolts and enjoy your ring, luckily most people know how important this ring is to you and will be so impressed by it''s beauty.

Actually, I would love to see your ring! How about posting some pics of it over in SMTR?

 

[junebug17]

Date: 8/10/2009 3:27:21 PM
Author: swingirl
Cute has no connotation of size so why is cute insulting or inappropriate?

Grown men can be cute.
Houses can be cute.
Shoes can be cute.

It''s meant as a compliment so why take offense?

Swingirl, I just think that an engagement ring is different from all the things you mentioned. As Cate said, it''s a very important symbol of the love that a couple has for each other, there is alot of meaning behind it and it ranks higher than the examples you sited. And I think that people are entitled to their feelings...if it bothers them, then it bothers them. And unfortunately it''s not always meant as a compliment. In this instance, I disagree with you, I think "cute" does make an inference about size. Would you call a 3 carat ring cute? even a one carat? There are many other ways to describe an engagement ring, it''s very special and deserves more than just "cute".

 

[cate]

Here''s a picture of my "cute" ring.

 

[junebug17]

Cate, your ring is beautiful!!! My favorite style, solitaire with side stones, love it!

Everyone is entitled to their opinions, some don't agree with us about using "cute" to describe an ering, (which is fine!) but I'm with ya on this one!

 

[cate]

Thank you, junebug17! The wedding ring is part of a matched set. It looks like the ering without the center diamond. It has 12 of the smaller diamonds. The two rings look so pretty and sparkly together.

 

[Nomsdeplume]

Cate, I love love love your ring!

 

[swingirl]

Why do you think someone would want to insult your ring by calling it cute? Are these people typically rude? If they are, they''ll find a way to insult you. If it were me I wouldn''t give them the satisfaction. In the dictionary "cute" means "attractive in a pretty or endearing way". Take it as a compliment whether they meant it or not.

 

[AdiS]

I don''t know, sometimes I refer to my own rings as cute. It can sound malicious in some situations though, no doubt about it. I guess it depends on the person saying it.

 

[honey22]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.

As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

ROMFLAO!!!! This puts it into perspective for a few of the guys out there - I am sure FI would feel the same way!

 

[Amethyste]

I''ve had some people asking me about my "cute" pear Topaz...
Mostly, I wasnt really offended by the word Cute, but mainly by their lack of knowledge for assuming it''s a Topaz ( I have nothing against topaz, I think they are beautiful in their own way.. ). I just say "Oh thank you, I love my diamond "
It''s priceless to see the look on their face. I don''t really care ifthey believe me or not, at least I know the truth...

 

[marcy]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:45:45 PM
Author: cate
Here''s a picture of my ''cute'' ring.

Cate your ring is gorgeous!

 

[cate]

Thanks for the compliments. Doesn't my fiance have great taste?

I have a ring I got at Disneyland many, many years ago. It's a little metal ring with Minnie Mouse's face on it. Now, that's a ring I'd call cute!

Amethyste, your ring is absolutely beautiful. Honestly, I didn't know diamonds came in that color, so I might have asked you what kind of stone it is, but I certainly would not have made any assumptions.

I'm so new to diamonds. When I got my ering and saw all the paperwork that came with it, I was amazed at all the details involved with buying a diamond. I'm very much a newbie at this.

People also say "cute" to mean small. In the dictionary, it also says, "attractive, especially by means of smallness or prettiness or quaintness." It really does depend on who says it and how that person means it. This woman I know said it to make to make me feel bad about it so she'd feel superior. That's just how she is...insecure and rude.

I think if a 13-year-old girl told me it was cute, she'd mean it in a totally complimentary way. "OMG! That's so cute"!

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/11/2009 9:20:05 AM
Author: cate
Thanks for the compliments. Doesn''t my fiance have great taste?

I have a ring I got at Disneyland many, many years ago. It''s a little metal ring with Minnie Mouse''s face on it. Now, that''s a ring I''d call cute!

Amethyste, your ring is absolutely beautiful. Honestly, I didn''t know diamonds came in that color, so I might have asked you what kind of stone it is, but I certainly would not have made any assumptions.

I''m so new to diamonds. When I got my ering and saw all the paperwork that came with it, I was amazed at all the details involved with buying a diamond. I''m very much a newbie at this.

People also say ''cute'' to mean small. In the dictionary, it also says, ''attractive, especially by means of smallness or prettiness or quaintness.'' It really does depend on who says it and how that person means it. This woman I know said it to make to make me feel bad about it so she''d feel superior. That''s just how she is...insecure and rude.

I think if a 13-year-old girl told me it was cute, she''d mean it in a totally complimentary way! ''OMG! That''s so cute''!

Cate - your ring is truly gorgeous and yes! your SO has great taste!! You have to post pictures in the SMTR section of PS for all of us to see Please
Yeah... I guess most people out there do not know that diamonds come in other colors than colorless. Thank you for your kind words about my yellow pear

 

[ilovethiswebsite]

hmmm. I can see how that would be annoying if taken literally... but honestly - they are noticing your ring to begin with! If I saw someone who''s ring I disliked or thought was sub-par - I wouldn''t say a thing - let alone ask to see it and call it cute. They must think it''s really pretty to be commenting at all!

 

[kas baby]

I know what you mean about the condescending remarks... I have a very dainty 2mm natural sapphire half eternity band that I currently wear as my e-ring. It it is very sweet and feminine yet I can wear it doing anything and don''t have to worry about any abuse it takes. I like this because that means I''ll be able to wear it at times where it wouldn''t be safe or practical to wear the solitaire we are having made. My FI wanted to propose to me at a certain time but didn''t have the money saved up for exactly what we wanted so he got the band so I could have something to wear while we have the other ring made. The band though is beautiful and I love it!

BUT- when people ask to see it (all excited) and then I show them, its an immediate switch from excitement to "oh... well thats nice..."

what bothers me even more is when the same people see my FI SIL''s diamond chip and go"ohmygoodness it is so beautiful!!" and gush over it... she really is sweet, and when saw it I told her that the yellow gold looked lovely against her skin- which in fact it did. I did not poo poo her ring, nor did I lie to her.

I don''t understand why people just can''t be nice to my band too. My FI loves me very much and wanted to show people that, even if its not with a blingy ring. we''re not blingy people.

The size or ''quality'' of your diamond/gemstone does not equal the love and strength of the relationship you are in, and I take comfort in knowing that my FI put a lot of love into picking out my band and now while we share the experience of picking out everything for the other one.

if you can look at your ring and have it remind you how wonderful your relationship is and how much you love each other, then your ring is doing its job as a symbol of your relationship. wear it in good health!!!

 

[cate]

Oh kas baby, I know exactly what you mean about people asking to see the ring and then acting obviously disappointed. I wind up defending it...and I hate myself for feeling that I have to defend it. It''s the most beautiful ring I''ve ever seen from the most beautiful man I''ve ever known.

 

[junebug17]

Date: 8/11/2009 2:04:12 PM
Author: cate
Oh kas baby, I know exactly what you mean about people asking to see the ring and then acting obviously disappointed. I wind up defending it...and I hate myself for feeling that I have to defend it. It's the most beautiful ring I've ever seen from the most beautiful man I've ever known.

Oh Cate, please try very hard not to feel you have to defend your ring to people! There is absolutely nothing to defend, it is a gorgeous ring that many women would love to have! All you have to do is smile sweetly when you show it and say "I really love my ring". It angers me when people judge a ring soley by the size of the diamond...fortunately, there are few of those people out there, and I'm sure most people appreciate the beauty of your ring. Please don't let a few ignorant people keep you from feeling proud of your ring, you have every right to be! And btw, your wedding band sounds beautiful, the set will look fabulous!

You should start your own thread over in "Show Me the Rock" and post pics of your ring there...believe me, here at PS we love looking at diamonds!