Those with smaller e-rings... ever get called cute?

[ladypirate]

My ering is 1/3 of a carat (heirloom from FI''s great grandmother) and it''s never been called cute. More often than not people say it''s really elegant or classy.

 

[junebug17]

I think "cute" is an inappropriate response for an engagement ring, and shows the person''s ignorance or insensitivity. I don''t think the most important ring of a person''s life should be deemed "cute". I think that person needs to work on expanding her vocabulary. May not have been meant in a bad way, but how about resorting to "pretty"? I guess I''m in a bad mood today, your ring looks beautiful and I can think of many ways to describe it rather than "cute".

 

[ficklefaye]

i''ve never had my e-ring called cute before, but i do know a lot of people who use the word cute often, i wouldn''t really take offense unless i sensed something in the tone or if this person just isn''t nice, and yes, perhaps cute is a word that needs to be used less

 

[SparklyLibra]

Um, yeah... My Aunt-in-law took one look at my ring, looked up in the air, back down her nose at my .71, and said, "oh, yeah, it's... um... cute"....

Her stone is .20 Total carat weight....

My back-handed reply:

"Oh yeah Aunty! But not as um.... cute as yours... Your ring is really, really, cute!"

 

[wyndham]

This thread is perfectly timed!

I was at a friend''s birthday party last weekend, and a friend of a friend asked to see my (2.1 ct) engagement ring. She said "oh, I think it''s so sweet when people have modest rings...so unpretentious."

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 7/21/2009 2:22:40 AM
Author: Haven
I don''t think it''s nice when people call diamonds cute. My bet is that they''re doing it to be passive aggressive.

Yup. A friend of mine called my 1.06 carat ring both "cute" and "nice" when she saw my ring for the first time. She and I have COMPLETELY different taste in jewelry. I suppose it is "cute" next to her "huge" former engagement ring (1.6 carat princess cut). I personally hated her ring but instead of using the word "nice" I just found some details about her setting that I liked- tapered baguettes, pave, etc and gushed about those things.

 

[Clairitek]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:06:51 PM
Author: wyndham
This thread is perfectly timed!

I was at a friend''s birthday party last weekend, and a friend of a friend asked to see my (2.1 ct) engagement ring. She said ''oh, I think it''s so sweet when people have modest rings...so unpretentious.''

Was she being a jerk and commenting on the much-larger-than-average size of your ring? Or is 2.1 carat considered "cute" in your social circle and she was actually trying to pay you a compliment of sorts?

 

[vizsla]

i've never gotten 'cute' - but my MIL did call my engagement rings (i have 2 facets 1/2 eternity bands) 'interesting'. i thought that was odd... i think they are classic and beautiful with amazing sparkle and sass .... but yeah, sure, 'interesting' works too.

that 'unpretentious' comment KILLS me.. OMgawd i hope she was being sarcastic...

 

[Haven]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:06:51 PM
Author: wyndham
This thread is perfectly timed!

I was at a friend's birthday party last weekend, and a friend of a friend asked to see my (2.1 ct) engagement ring. She said 'oh, I think it's so sweet when people have modest rings...so unpretentious.'

She is just showing her jealousy or insecurity.

I was in Macy's once (which was my first mistake) and a saleswoman in her fifties grabbed my hand and said "Oh, what a lovely, simple ring. I love it when people choose small, tasteful engagement rings." She seemed to be very genuine, so I didn't take offense to it. I was just surprised because my center stone is 2 cts--if she thinks that is small, I'd love to see what she thinks of as being normal!

It's also set on an eternity band, so there's a lot of bling going on, so the "simple" comment perplexed me as well.

 

[wyndham]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:17:14 PM
Author: Clairitek

Date: 7/21/2009 12:06:51 PM

Author: wyndham

This thread is perfectly timed!


I was at a friend''s birthday party last weekend, and a friend of a friend asked to see my (2.1 ct) engagement ring. She said ''oh, I think it''s so sweet when people have modest rings...so unpretentious.''

Was she being a jerk and commenting on the much-larger-than-average size of your ring? Or is 2.1 carat considered ''cute'' in your social circle and she was actually trying to pay you a compliment of sorts?

If she was trying to be sarcastic, it was definitely lost on my fiance and me!

I do wear a size 7 ring so it''s not like my stone looks super large on my hand, but I just thought it was a strange comment to make. I would certainly never use the word ''modest'' to describe ANY engagement ring, regardless of its size...it''s far too loaded of a word!

 

[wyndham]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:46:21 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 7/21/2009 12:06:51 PM

Author: wyndham

This thread is perfectly timed!


I was at a friend''s birthday party last weekend, and a friend of a friend asked to see my (2.1 ct) engagement ring. She said ''oh, I think it''s so sweet when people have modest rings...so unpretentious.''

She is just showing her jealousy or insecurity.


I was in Macy''s once (which was my first mistake) and a saleswoman in her fifties grabbed my hand and said ''Oh, what a lovely, simple ring. I love it when people choose small, tasteful engagement rings.'' She seemed to be very genuine, so I didn''t take offense to it. I was just surprised because my center stone is 2 cts--if she thinks that is small, I''d love to see what she thinks of as being normal!


It''s also set on an eternity band, so there''s a lot of bling going on, so the ''simple'' comment perplexed me as well.

Hahahaha Haven I love this! Some people, right??

 

[LilyKat]

Lilylover, you actually have my absolutely ideal ring, with exactly the size of centre stone I want

It is dreamy and I can't imagine anyone NOT thinking it is beautiful.

I wouldn't necessarily take it as an insult - some people do just have a very limited vocabulary and "cute" is an all-purpose word to describe something they like. Sometimes people are being snarky, but that pretty much always stems from jealousy and/or insecurity.

Don't let it bother you.

 

[lilylover]

I love the idea of coming up with witty comebacks to not-so-nice comments about our e-rings! Why anyone would say they don''t like anyone''s e-ring, regardless of size, shape, etc. is beyond me.

In the defense of the people that called my ring cute, I do think that most of them didn''t mean anything bad by it. There were a couple that you could tell they thought it was small, but most genuinely seemed to like it. One of my friends described it as, "Dainty, just like you!" which didn''t bother me one bit.

I agree that people need to develop a larger vocabulary!

 

[lilylover]

Date: 7/21/2009 2:02:36 PM
Author: LilyKat
Lilylover, you actually have my absolutely ideal ring, with exactly the size of centre stone I want

It is dreamy and I can''t imagine anyone NOT thinking it is beautiful.

I wouldn''t necessarily take it as an insult - some people do just have a very limited vocabulary and ''cute'' is an all-purpose word to describe something they like. Sometimes people are being snarky, but that pretty much always stems from jealousy and/or insecurity.

Don''t let it bother you.

Thank so much! I am very flattered.

 

[lovegem]

SIL said "not bad" about my 1.1 ct ring (it is an ACA stone) .

 

[Elmorton]

No one has ever called it cute. Ignored it completely - well, I get that all the time (which is a good thing, IMO!).

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Personally, I wouldn''t take offense if the comment was simply "cute" followed by nothing else demeaning and was said by someone who normally is kind. I''ve called people''s rings "cute" or "dainty" because that is my honest to God impression of their ring.

Sometimes a thin band makes me think "danity"...sometimes a setting has hearts or other little designs incorporated in the band, I think that is "cute". I don''t mean those type comments to be insulting to the person...there is no hidden message with me, it''s just my take. I''d be upset if I knew my remark made someone feel badly...because that isn''t my intent.

I think you need to consider the source. If someone is snarky in every day life and makes a comment about your ring being "cute" then maybe you could see the message...but if that person generally isn''t the sort to give a back handed compliment, then take it at face value...you have a cute ring, and that''s not a bad thing.

 

[LGK]

People are... interesting... with what'll come out of their mouths. My 3.55 ct OEC has been called "cute" in a condescending way before. Same person purposefully asked "what's that? about a carat and a half?", again trying to poke at me. Um. No? I just laughed, it was wayyy obvious he was just trying to irritate me on purpose. (Based on other, less pleasant conversations, I wasn't surprised; frankly, as long as he wasn't asking if I was pregnant based on how "fat" I was looking on a given day, I considered it a win.)

 

[iheartscience]

I used to work at a clothing store and we definitely overused the word ''cute'', so I''m sure I''ve used it inappropriately once or twice. "Cute top! Cute haircut! Cute shoes!" You get the idea.

I''m sure they didn''t mean it in a bad way...unless they did, in which case, they''re passive aggressive and pathetic so I wouldn''t worry about it!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 7/21/2009 10:40:28 PM
Author: thing2of2
I used to work at a clothing store and we definitely overused the word ''cute'', so I''m sure I''ve used it inappropriately once or twice. ''Cute top! Cute haircut! Cute shoes!'' You get the idea.

I''m sure they didn''t mean it in a bad way...unless they did, in which case, they''re passive aggressive and pathetic so I wouldn''t worry about it!

hahaha, earlier I almost posted "cute" in the SMTR forum and then remembered this thread. Never again will I say that word unless I''m talking about a kitten or puppy.

 

[vip0802]

yup, and it happened this past weekend actually! i don''t have an e-ring, but i wear a 1 ctw eternity band on my ring finger that BF gave me. we were at a "maul" store, and as i pulled off my e-band to try on a semi-mount, the sales lady asked if it was real. which btw, is something i think is rude as well. i said it was, and she said, "oh, it''s umm cute.".

there are just certain words and/or phrases people shouldn''t use in certain situations. like the phrase, "sort of". i quote from Demetri Martin:

""sort of" is a harmless thing to say. it''s just a filler. it doesn''t really mean anything except, for certain things, "sort of" means everything. like after "i love you", or "you''re going to live", or "it''s a boy!"."

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 7/21/2009 11:13:41 AM
Author: TheBigT

Date: 7/21/2009 1:33:20 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, 'cute'.

LMAO!!!!

I don't get it either lily. I haven't gotten that (seeing as how my erings are colored stones though, I don't know that people know they are engagement rings) but I would be irritated too. It's such a placating word. Like 'nice'. There is just no imagination there.

Regardless, cute is not a word for an engagement ring. Unless maybe if it's a heart. Or perhaps the infamous Mickey Mouse ering/wedding band combo....

I've always wondered about colored stone engagement rings. Do you think that people don't know your rings are engagement rings? I'm guessing it doesn't bother you much, since you don't like diamonds and you designed a ring you love! But do people's reactions ever bother you?
I knew a girl who was proposed to with an amethyst, and no one seemed to understand that it was an engagement ring -- it bothered her so much she even cried over it! (sorry to threadjack..)

GREAT question! I have NO idea! It doesn't bother me that much. I have the three (so far

) and they are all solitaires. When I wear them, unless I'm dressing up and putting on my WF bling RHR, they are pretty much the only jewelry I wear. So if a girl in sweats and crocs is wearing ONE ring, on her left ring finger, and that's it, you'd think it was an engagement ring right?

Who knows? I will confess that I have my 6 prong solitaire with the .81ct Montana Sapphire (super light tealy kind of color) that at a glance looks like a 1/2 diamond or so--especially because of the setting and the light color of the stone. This is the most "engagement-y" of my erings, and it's meant to be that way. I think I'll end up having a colored stone ering for any and all occasions I can think of.

But say, if we were to go to an open house, I'd wear the sapph because it looks like your classic ering. When we get married, I'll probably just wear a band most of the time, unless I want to wear bling, in which case I'll have to carefully decide what kind of look I want to give off.

I put a lot of time and effort into picking out an ering for the day dangit! I especially like wearing the pink spinel, because NO ONE has a clue what it is. They automatically think it's a pink diamond.

And I have my almost colorless Barry cushion Tourmaline that is just begging for an antique-ish solitaire setting so it can look like an antique diamond....

ETA: Sorry for the continued threadjack!

 

[loriken214]

Date: 7/21/2009 8:40:27 AM
Author: gwendolyn
Yes, it''s happened to me (about 1/2 carat diamond on a size 9 finger), which bothers me a little bit because my ring is an heirloom and is what it is!

Worse though, in my opinion, is when people here on PS comment and say a diamond is ''cute'' because they consider it small. C''mon, as fellow jewelry lovers, we should really know better than to sound condescending to someone''s lovely sparkly, which may be big to them!

I agree!!!! Well said Gwen.....

My very first ER was around 1/3 carat, I was SO happy with it, and several "friends" called my ring "cute." I was crushed and had no idea why they were making fun of my beautiful ring. It was AWESOME to me!

Lori

 

[loriken214]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:21:31 AM
Author: whitby_2773
hi lilylover

cute is one of those words - ridiculously overused by the vocabulary impaired. don''t let it bother you.

it''s like ''awesome''. i''ve heard the most bland and dull things described as awesome; ''we had hamburgers for dinner tonight - it was awesome!'' / ''i had my first driving lesson today - it was awesome'' / ''my IQ almost breaks 100 - awesome!!''

lily, people have described my australian accent as cute! trust me, i am not a ''cute'' woman, so i never get where that comes from.

don''t let it bother you - it''a a bit like swearing; people use it when they have no other words in their arsenal.

your ring is delightful, delicious, delicate, icy, sparkling, mesmerizing, romantic, beautiful, elegant, classy, captivating...and most of all...

YOURS!

congratulations

I agree Kareyn! I use AWESOME quite a bit to reply to jewelry postings....I truly mean it when I say something is AWESOME, but I agree that the word is overused on bland things....I''ll come up with more interesting things to say....THANK YOU!

Lori

 

[MakingTheGrade]

My ring hasn''t been called cute, but people like to call me cute/adorable all the time because I''m kind of small and baby faced.

I don''t mind too much, but I draw the line when they try to pinch my cheeks, especially if I''m at work.

I think the most commonly used word I''ve heard to describe my ring is "sparkly". It''s a very simple solitaire, so there isn''t much to comment on.

 

[joelly]

My promise ring is 0.40ct and ppl has not call it cute yet. maybe because they know i can be such a b***ch.
I won''t call 0.47ct is a cute/baby diamond. It is a good respectable size. Maybe they meant to say it looks cute, like the whole setting and not only the diamond. Because thats my first impression when I see your e-ring. It looks so good on your finger.

 

[joelly]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:21:31 AM
Author: whitby_2773
hi lilylover

cute is one of those words - ridiculously overused by the vocabulary impaired. don''t let it bother you.

it''s like ''awesome''. i''ve heard the most bland and dull things described as awesome; ''we had hamburgers for dinner tonight - it was awesome!'' / ''i had my first driving lesson today - it was awesome'' / ''my IQ almost breaks 100 - awesome!!''

lily, people have described my australian accent as cute! trust me, i am not a ''cute'' woman, so i never get where that comes from.

don''t let it bother you - it''a a bit like swearing; people use it when they have no other words in their arsenal.

your ring is delightful, delicious, delicate, icy, sparkling, mesmerizing, romantic, beautiful, elegant, classy, captivating...and most of all...

YOURS!

congratulations

Whitby, its so me. I am the vocabulary impaired. I hope OP doesn''t get mad at me because I do think her ring looks so cute on her finger but I don''t mean that her diamond is a baby diamond. Her diamond is larger than my promise ring''s diamond.

 

[Prana]

I just saw this thread now, but thought I would comment. I have a 1.21 carat ering, which I think is a pretty decent size, and had a couple of people call it "cute" after they asked to see it. At first it bothered me, but I just figured that maybe people don''t know the right thing to say.

 

[icekid]

Haha, actually I did get this a couple days ago! A lovely colleague was gushing about my ring- it''s so unique, sparkly, one of a kind, etc. And then she said, it is just so cute! I took it all as a compliment

(It is .72 rb w/ halo)

 

[marcy]

I went and found your ring; it''s gorgeous and fits your finger / hand perfectly. While cute isn''t a word I would associate with most rings (in my mind cute is like a butterfly, lady bug, frog, little flowers, etc) I don''t think it would offend me either. Of course, the tone of their voice might make me wonder. My center diamond is .53. Wear and show your ring proudly.