Those with smaller e-rings... ever get called cute?

[junebug17]

And by the way, since I''m on a rant here, when did a half-carat stone become small? I think it''s a very decent sized stone, and many erings I see people wearing are a half-carat. Ok, I''ll stop now, too much coffee today.

 

[dianne]

I called an engagement ring "adorable" once...which may be considered worse than "cute".

It was actually just over a year ago and, since Pricescope, I''m usually more aware of how I act and speak regarding someone''s jewelry. As soon as I said, "Oh! It''s adorable", I wanted to physically pull the word out of the air before it reached the persons ears and squash it under my shoe like a bug.

I actually know why I did this...it was a friends of mine''s daughter who I remember as a baby and she still seemed so young, even in her early twenties, to be getting married. Her ring really was pretty but the fact she still seemed like a "baby" to me definitely played a part in my word choice.....young = adorable/cute, I guess....like babies/kitties/puppies. I guess my comment on the ring was actually a reference to how I felt about her.....and I still think she''s adorable.

I can see how someone could use the word "cute" in a negative way but I can assure you that was not my intent at all.

lilylover: I think your ring is beautiful!

 

[swimmer]

Date: 8/10/2009 2:13:49 PM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/10/2009 2:06:35 PM

Author: musey

^^ I''ll be joining you very soon, Amethyste

Yay!!!! I have had mine for almost 2 years now ( feb of ''10 ) and i looooooooooove it!!! Its a convertible and soooo efficient on gas! Can''y beat 46mpgs!


sorry for the thread jack!!!!

Yes you can, my Pruis has gotten up to 53mpg on the highway, but it is usually only 50mpg. And seats 5 adults with luggage. Plus the hybrid tax credit is nice.

Kas, some folks just don''t get sapphires, it boggles the mind. Hey, if a sapphire was good enough for Princess Di... Your band sounds gorgeous and practical, got any photos? I browse sapphire bands all the time, can''t get enough of them and am confident my sapph er would love a sister.

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/11/2009 4:09:02 PM
Author: swimmer

Date: 8/10/2009 2:13:49 PM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/10/2009 2:06:35 PM

Author: musey

^^ I''ll be joining you very soon, Amethyste

Yay!!!! I have had mine for almost 2 years now ( feb of ''10 ) and i looooooooooove it!!! Its a convertible and soooo efficient on gas! Can''y beat 46mpgs!


sorry for the thread jack!!!!

Yes you can, my Pruis has gotten up to 53mpg on the highway, but it is usually only 50mpg. And seats 5 adults with luggage. Plus the hybrid tax credit is nice.

Kas, some folks just don''t get sapphires, it boggles the mind. Hey, if a sapphire was good enough for Princess Di... Your band sounds gorgeous and practical, got any photos? I browse sapphire bands all the time, can''t get enough of them and am confident my sapph er would love a sister.

Yeah I know you can , but your car is a hybrid and my smart is gas only. I had a prius before and it put me to sleep driving it - but I know why so many people love them

Anyways , I totally agree with people here, the word cute is employed very amply with a loose meaning, it all depends from which mouth it is coming from

 

[Black Jade]

Date: 7/22/2009 11:03:38 AM
Author: MakingTheGrade
My ring hasn''t been called cute, but people like to call me cute/adorable all the time because I''m kind of small and baby faced.

I don''t mind too much, but I draw the line when they try to pinch my cheeks, especially if I''m at work.

I think the most commonly used word I''ve heard to describe my ring is ''sparkly''. It''s a very simple solitaire, so there isn''t much to comment on.

MakingThe Grade, I get called ''cute'' all the time, also. I agree with you, I thought it was a compliment though I also don''t necessarily like the way that a lot of people try to touch me, or do touch me. People are always touching my hair or stroking my arm or putting a hand around my waist--ranging from little old ladies to little kids and it can be a bit much--especially as I''m now over 50 and would think I''d be taken a bit more seriously. I do think it is a function of being a little, petite person who is kind of round in the face with curly hair and smooth skin.
I guess I don''t see where a ring being called ''cute'' is such a disaster. I think if someone wanted to offensive about someone''s engagement ring there are plenty of other things to say, like ''it''s ugly'' or ''it looks cheap'' or--well you get the point. And some of us really do LIKE smaller rings. My favorite ring out of all my friends belongs to a friend who has about a .50 which is just dazzing white and set in a very simple YG cathedral setting--I much prefer it to some of my other friends; who have what (to me, though I wouldn''t say that to them) are over-complicated settings or sort of (to me) overpowering rocks. I think of her ring as being ''exquisite'' but might feel silly using such a pretentious word. I myself had a choice to get a ring bigger than any of the ones I own last year, but chose to stay with my .33 (original) and my .66 (anniversary) because I lIKE simple solitaires in that kind of size. And I like when people compliment them in any way, and I just assume that they mean what they say. And honestly, what are people going to say about a smaller ring? That it''s impressive? Or huge? Obviously, it''s not. But that''s not what I was going for and not what I value, either. And if I''m not disappointed in my ring, or thinking of it as some kind of a placeholder on the way to being Elizabeth Taylor''s competition, nobody else can make me feel that my''cute'' ring is a problem.
Don''t mean to offend--hope you take this in the spirit in which it is written.

 

[Black Jade]

Date: 7/25/2009 1:06:23 PM
Author: UCLABelle
Just yesterday a co-worker commented on my ''cute, little ring''. She asked ''Why did you get a little square?!''...and continued to say ''they don''t sparkle''.

Yep, that is how I would describe a 1.5 Tiffany & Co Emerald cut.

I think it doesn''t matter what size your ring is, someone is ALWAYS going to have a comment that isn''t 100% pleasing.

Wow, I''m kind of speechless at this.
Maybe she''s used to cubic zirconia or moissanite or something? THAT definitely sparkles.
I would put this in the category of so unbelievably rude that I wouldn''t even know what to reply (I can''t believe someone would actually a woman ''why'' she got a certain type of engagement ring), however, some people honestly don''t realize how they sound. They have foot in mouth disease, as my mother used to say. Not even worth continuing the discussion.

 

[Black Jade]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:45:45 PM
Author: cate
Here''s a picture of my ''cute'' ring.

Gorgeous.

 

[Black Jade]

Date: 8/11/2009 7:41:38 AM
Author: Amethyste
I''ve had some people asking me about my ''cute'' pear Topaz...
Mostly, I wasnt really offended by the word Cute, but mainly by their lack of knowledge for assuming it''s a Topaz ( I have nothing against topaz, I think they are beautiful in their own way.. ). I just say ''Oh thank you, I love my diamond ''
It''s priceless to see the look on their face. I don''t really care ifthey believe me or not, at least I know the truth...

I''ve been meaning to say that I think your ring is beautiful Amethyste. I love pears and I love that lemony, but not quite yellow yellow color. I love the simple, elegant setting and to me, your ring is large but not ''busy'' and in the photos looks as if it really suits your fingers.
I think a lot of people just assume, a yellow stone is a topaz, just like they assume that a blue stone is a sapphire, a red stone is ruby--
I love garnets and have one that I often wear. It''s amazing how often people compliment me on my ''ruby'', though its not a ruby-like garnet at all. It has that ''typical'' garnet dark wine color. I have also had people think that my hematite was ''black pearls'' that my chrysophase was jade--people are not knowledgeable about jewelry, in general. I decided long ago just to accept compliments and not worry about this.

 

[Black Jade]

Date: 8/11/2009 2:51:41 PM
Author: junebug17
And by the way, since I''m on a rant here, when did a half-carat stone become small? I think it''s a very decent sized stone, and many erings I see people wearing are a half-carat. Ok, I''ll stop now, too much coffee today.

It took assiduous advertising.

 

[Amethyste]

Date: 8/11/2009 8:47:13 PM
Author: Black Jade

Date: 8/11/2009 7:41:38 AM

Author: Amethyste

I''ve had some people asking me about my ''cute'' pear Topaz...

Mostly, I wasnt really offended by the word Cute, but mainly by their lack of knowledge for assuming it''s a Topaz ( I have nothing against topaz, I think they are beautiful in their own way.. ). I just say ''Oh thank you, I love my diamond ''

It''s priceless to see the look on their face. I don''t really care ifthey believe me or not, at least I know the truth...

I''ve been meaning to say that I think your ring is beautiful Amethyste. I love pears and I love that lemony, but not quite yellow yellow color. I love the simple, elegant setting and to me, your ring is large but not ''busy'' and in the photos looks as if it really suits your fingers.

I think a lot of people just assume, a yellow stone is a topaz, just like they assume that a blue stone is a sapphire, a red stone is ruby--

I love garnets and have one that I often wear. It''s amazing how often people compliment me on my ''ruby'', though its not a ruby-like garnet at all. It has that ''typical'' garnet dark wine color. I have also had people think that my hematite was ''black pearls'' that my chrysophase was jade--people are not knowledgeable about jewelry, in general. I decided long ago just to accept compliments and not worry about this.

BlackJade - Thank you for this post... I am getting to the point that I don''t really care what people say even if they think its a topaz, if they say a complimentary comment on it, I say thank you. They liked it enough to say something nice about it. It''s so true, the average non PS person is probably not too knowledgeable when it comes to fine jewelry. They all know about colorless diamonds and what it should look like ( when did someone mistake a colorless diamond for a white sapphire ? ), but then again, anything else outside the box is uncharted territory. Tonight, I met a friend and she pointed at my ring wondering what stone it was. When I said it was a yellow diamond, she said "REALLY? I didn''t know that diamonds came in different colors!". So that re-inforced my opinion on the lack of knowledge of the general public. In all honesty, why should they take the time to educate themselves on the matter? I came to the realization ( and appreciation ) that people that frequent PS or have a genuine interest in the field is very small fraction of the population. Just like I know nothing about carpentry. To each its own

 

[amyjokerette]

Date: 7/21/2009 1:44:54 AM
Author: upgrade

Date: 7/21/2009 1:33:20 AM

Author: FrekeChild

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM

Author: Moh 10

Maybe I can understand.

As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

LMAO!!!!


I don''t get it either lily. I haven''t gotten that (seeing as how my erings are colored stones though, I don''t know that people know they are engagement rings) but I would be irritated too. It''s such a placating word. Like ''nice''. There is just no imagination there.


Regardless, cute is not a word for an engagement ring. Unless maybe if it''s a heart. Or perhaps the infamous Mickey Mouse ering/wedding band combo....

There was a Mickey Mouse ering??? Can someone post a link?


Lily that''s a horrible thing for people to say and I understand why it upsets you! My original ering was .48 and when I announced my engagement and showed off my ring for the first time I had a (former) girlfriend tell me that she would NEVER wear less than a carat. Some people just don''t think about the effect of their words before speaking. I''m assuming that''s your ring in your avatar? It''s absolutley beautiful- any woman should be proud to wear it! Congrats on your engagement.

I found a photo of a Mickey Mouse ring... i was curious and went hunting...

 

[4ever]

amyjokerette- Wow.....I''m glad you did go hunting

hehehe.....I''m not sure I''d call that "cute" though.....maybe "unique" or "Unusual". lol

 

[Tuckins1]

Date: 8/11/2009 4:09:02 PM
Author: swimmer

Date: 8/10/2009 2:13:49 PM

Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/10/2009 2:06:35 PM


Author: musey


^^ I''ll be joining you very soon, Amethyste

Yay!!!! I have had mine for almost 2 years now ( feb of ''10 ) and i looooooooooove it!!! Its a convertible and soooo efficient on gas! Can''y beat 46mpgs!



sorry for the thread jack!!!!

Yes you can, my Pruis has gotten up to 53mpg on the highway, but it is usually only 50mpg. And seats 5 adults with luggage. Plus the hybrid tax credit is nice.


Kas, some folks just don''t get sapphires, it boggles the mind. Hey, if a sapphire was good enough for Princess Di... Your band sounds gorgeous and practical, got any photos? I browse sapphire bands all the time, can''t get enough of them and am confident my sapph er would love a sister.

My mom has a prius. She gets about 50 mpg too. It''s awesome!!

 

[princesss]

Date: 8/11/2009 3:14:45 PM
Author: dianne

I called an engagement ring ''adorable'' once...which may be considered worse than ''cute''.

It was actually just over a year ago and, since Pricescope, I''m usually more aware of how I act and speak regarding someone''s jewelry. As soon as I said, ''Oh! It''s adorable'', I wanted to physically pull the word out of the air before it reached the persons ears and squash it under my shoe like a bug.

I actually know why I did this...it was a friends of mine''s daughter who I remember as a baby and she still seemed so young, even in her early twenties, to be getting married. Her ring really was pretty but the fact she still seemed like a ''baby'' to me definitely played a part in my word choice.....young = adorable/cute, I guess....like babies/kitties/puppies. I guess my comment on the ring was actually a reference to how I felt about her.....and I still think she''s adorable.

I can see how someone could use the word ''cute'' in a negative way but I can assure you that was not my intent at all.

lilylover: I think your ring is beautiful!

Dianne, you crack me up.

 

[joelly]

I told my FI last year that I want a Mickey Mouse e-ring, he went "You''re kidding, right?" I got a three-stone e-ring this March but not a Mickey Mouse one. When I asked my FI last year, I never thought someone else is actually wearing one. I still want one. hehehehe...

 

[musey]

Date: 8/12/2009 9:07:39 AM
Author: Tuckins1

Date: 8/11/2009 4:09:02 PM
Author: swimmer

Date: 8/10/2009 2:13:49 PM
Author: Amethyste

Date: 8/10/2009 2:06:35 PM
Author: musey
^^ I''ll be joining you very soon, Amethyste

Yay!!!! I have had mine for almost 2 years now ( feb of ''10 ) and i looooooooooove it!!! Its a convertible and soooo efficient on gas! Can''y beat 46mpgs!

sorry for the thread jack!!!!

Yes you can, my Pruis has gotten up to 53mpg on the highway, but it is usually only 50mpg. And seats 5 adults with luggage. Plus the hybrid tax credit is nice.

My mom has a prius. She gets about 50 mpg too. It''s awesome!!

If I could afford a prius, there would be no contest! Hubby drives one, that''ll have to do for longer drives

 

[musey]

Date: 8/12/2009 1:03:23 PM
Author: joelly
I told my FI last year that I want a Mickey Mouse e-ring, he went ''You''re kidding, right?'' I got a three-stone e-ring this March but not a Mickey Mouse one. When I asked my FI last year, I never thought someone else is actually wearing one. I still want one. hehehehe...

Aww

three-stone kinda gets the idea... you can still have a mickey mouse rhr or necklace someday.

 

[dianne]

Date: 8/12/2009 9:29:21 AM
Author: princesss

Date: 8/11/2009 3:14:45 PM
Author: dianne

I called an engagement ring 'adorable' once...which may be considered worse than 'cute'.

It was actually just over a year ago and, since Pricescope, I'm usually more aware of how I act and speak regarding someone's jewelry. As soon as I said, 'Oh! It's adorable', I wanted to physically pull the word out of the air before it reached the persons ears and squash it under my shoe like a bug.

I actually know why I did this...it was a friends of mine's daughter who I remember as a baby and she still seemed so young, even in her early twenties, to be getting married. Her ring really was pretty but the fact she still seemed like a 'baby' to me definitely played a part in my word choice.....young = adorable/cute, I guess....like babies/kitties/puppies. I guess my comment on the ring was actually a reference to how I felt about her.....and I still think she's adorable.

I can see how someone could use the word 'cute' in a negative way but I can assure you that was not my intent at all.

lilylover: I think your ring is beautiful!

Dianne, you crack me up.

Who-o-o?...Me-e-e-e-e?

Now, princesss, you know I had better sense than to do that...If I could have sucked "adorable" back into my mouth like a strand of spaghetti I would have done it!!

She didn't even flinch so I hope she was ok with it....or maybe she just chalked it up to thinking I was getting old...LOL

 

[Kelli]

I don''t believe I have ever referred to someone''s ring as cute. I doubt I ever would because it does sound a little demeaning, but I wouldn''t worry about it. It is just an over-used word. Just like awesome, which I will continue to overuse.

 

[kas baby]

Date: 8/11/2009 4:09:02 PM
Author: swimmer

Yes you can, my Pruis has gotten up to 53mpg on the highway, but it is usually only 50mpg. And seats 5 adults with luggage. Plus the hybrid tax credit is nice.

Kas, some folks just don''t get sapphires, it boggles the mind. Hey, if a sapphire was good enough for Princess Di... Your band sounds gorgeous and practical, got any photos? I browse sapphire bands all the time, can''t get enough of them and am confident my sapph er would love a sister.

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/baby-steps.118585/ here''s a link to the thread that has my sapph band in it.... it can be said that it is cute, as long as it is said from a place of love

I don''t understand why people don''t get sapphs. my FI and I poured over the meanings/mythology/lore behind gemstones and the sapphire really fit, it was in fact at one point the preferred gem of choise for an e-ring. and I totally agree with you... if it was good enough for Princess Di-- who was just oozing class-- its certainly good enough for me

 

[cate]

I''d love to get a Mickey ring as an anniversary gift. Look at this one...

 

[mtjoya]

Yes, I have a .58 and I am in love with it!

I wouldn''t take it the wrong way, because you have a gorgeous ring & these ladies making the comments might have bigger diamonds but are of a lower grade. Don''t mind the comments, as long as your happy with your ring, nothing else matters.

 

[trillionaire]

okay, so I''m a horrible PSer, but I never pay attention to people''s rings.

(ducking tomatoes)

I''ve paid a LEETLE more attention since I''ve gotten engaged, and man, it really helps to put PS into perspective. My center stone is 1.01 carats, which I am thrilled with, but I feel that my ring seems large and conspicious in most situations that I have been in. I felt very self conscious the other day at a table with women in their 40''s and 50''s, as I by far had the largest ring, and this was in the DC area, not in the middle of nowhere. However, I was more concerned that they would find my ring extravagent, because I am not at all that type of person, and I was with FI''s co-workers. The lighting in the sports bar had my ring looking like a disco ball!

I love my ring though, and thought that the other rings at the table were beautiful and tasteful... certainly not cute. I really enjoy different shapes, sizes and styles of rings... variety is the spice of life!

 

[emilina22]

first of all lilylover your ring is beautiful

i remember when we first got engaged people were asking to see my ring and well what i wasnt expecting was to have my not SIL tell me that if we ever go broke i can sell my engagement ring and live off that money...yup those words actually came out of her mouth, and a couple of girls i know pulled the cute card on my ring (2.15 asscher in a halo)and those were the same girls who when looking at my ring put their thumbs straight onto the center stone so technically all they saw was the halo and the band...

 

[anitabee]

i'll never forget the time a girl who was in one of my education classes, who got engaged at the same time as me, called my .60 stone "cute". those words stung and it was the first time i realized my ring was of "smaller stature". hers was obviously bigger. i definitely thought it was insensitive and condescending.

 

[Lady_Disdain]

I have been guilty of calling a few rings cute in PS - mainly in the CS forum. I mean it as "dainty, feminine" and not with negative intentions at all. I even call my own stones cute, if it is any consolation. Sorry, everyone.

I will be more aware of this in the future.