Those with smaller e-rings... ever get called cute?

[lilylover]

I''ve been engaged about three weeks. Half of the people I show say (really enthusiastically, but, still) "ohh it''s so cute!"


....What?! Cute?!

Yes, it is a smaller stone. I have a .47 signature ideal RB center stone. I wear a size 4.5, though, and I actually love the way it looks on my finger. Still, people calling my ring cute just rubs me the wrong way. It''s a lot of things but cute isn''t a word I would use to describe it.

I go out of my way to never call a women''s ring cute. Maybe I am the odd one?

Have any of you ever had your ring described as cute? Does it bother you, too?

 

[oneandahalfrock]

I have a friend with an itty bitty marquise diamond... and yes, I''ve thought to myself, it''s cute- it''s only maybe .10-.15 carats- like sometimes I see more prong than diamond... it''s a cute baby diamond
But I wouldn''t tell her that- I''ve called it feminine, complimented her dainty hands (she has size 4.5-5 finger, I have 6.75), but cute could sound demeaning when said in the wrong tone.
And when did almost half a carat become cute??? I thought that was a pretty decent size.

 

[whitby_2773]

hi lilylover

cute is one of those words - ridiculously overused by the vocabulary impaired. don''t let it bother you.

it''s like ''awesome''. i''ve heard the most bland and dull things described as awesome; "we had hamburgers for dinner tonight - it was awesome!" / "i had my first driving lesson today - it was awesome" / "my IQ almost breaks 100 - awesome!!"

lily, people have described my australian accent as cute! trust me, i am not a ''cute'' woman, so i never get where that comes from.

don''t let it bother you - it''a a bit like swearing; people use it when they have no other words in their arsenal.

your ring is delightful, delicious, delicate, icy, sparkling, mesmerizing, romantic, beautiful, elegant, classy, captivating...and most of all...

YOURS!

congratulations

 

[jstarfireb]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:21:31 AM
Author: whitby_2773
''my IQ almost breaks 100 - awesome!!''

LOVED that comment! Shall I say it was...awesome?

 

[Moh 10]

Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, "cute".

 

[lilylover]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

Hahaha...

 

[oneandahalfrock]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:21:31 AM
Author: whitby_2773
hi lilylover


cute is one of those words - ridiculously overused by the vocabulary impaired. don''t let it bother you.


it''s like ''awesome''. i''ve heard the most bland and dull things described as awesome; ''we had hamburgers for dinner tonight - it was awesome!'' / ''i had my first driving lesson today - it was awesome'' / ''my IQ almost breaks 100 - awesome!!''


lily, people have described my australian accent as cute! trust me, i am not a ''cute'' woman, so i never get where that comes from.


don''t let it bother you - it''a a bit like swearing; people use it when they have no other words in their arsenal.


your ring is delightful, delicious, delicate, icy, sparkling, mesmerizing, romantic, beautiful, elegant, classy, captivating...and most of all...


YOURS!


congratulations

Wow- this reply made me really think about my own vocabulary and the words I use most often/too much.
So as to avoid having my IQ prematurely judged, I made a list of words I use most in my communications and used a thesaurus to find synonyms to vary it up a little.
I''m happy to say ''cute'' wasn''t on the frequently used words list

 

[FrekeChild]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

LMAO!!!!

I don''t get it either lily. I haven''t gotten that (seeing as how my erings are colored stones though, I don''t know that people know they are engagement rings) but I would be irritated too. It''s such a placating word. Like "nice". There is just no imagination there.

Regardless, cute is not a word for an engagement ring. Unless maybe if it''s a heart. Or perhaps the infamous Mickey Mouse ering/wedding band combo....

 

[upgrade]

Date: 7/21/2009 1:33:20 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

LMAO!!!!

I don''t get it either lily. I haven''t gotten that (seeing as how my erings are colored stones though, I don''t know that people know they are engagement rings) but I would be irritated too. It''s such a placating word. Like ''nice''. There is just no imagination there.

Regardless, cute is not a word for an engagement ring. Unless maybe if it''s a heart. Or perhaps the infamous Mickey Mouse ering/wedding band combo....

There was a Mickey Mouse ering??? Can someone post a link?

Lily that''s a horrible thing for people to say and I understand why it upsets you! My original ering was .48 and when I announced my engagement and showed off my ring for the first time I had a (former) girlfriend tell me that she would NEVER wear less than a carat. Some people just don''t think about the effect of their words before speaking. I''m assuming that''s your ring in your avatar? It''s absolutley beautiful- any woman should be proud to wear it! Congrats on your engagement.

 

[FrekeChild]

I believe it was brought up, I don't know if pictures were posted. But yes, there was a Mickey Mouse ering--a regular solitaire for the "head" and a wedding band with two diamond "ears" that would hook to the ering, making it a Mickey Mouse ering/wedding band combo.

And yes, this was intentional.

 

[Haven]

Someone called my engagement ring "cute" once.
She''s the current girlfriend of a male friend of mine, and for some reason she doesn''t like me. I''ve been nothing but nice to her.

Let''s just say that calling my ring cute is much better than some of the names she''s called me behind my back. I don''t understand her, but I''m not going to play that game.

I just kill her with kindness.

I don''t think it''s nice when people call diamonds cute. My bet is that they''re doing it to be passive aggressive.

 

[cindygenit]

Nope, it hasn''t happened yet. But maybe one day someone snarky will say that about my e-ring (.59 pt).

What happened once though, was a jeweller was inspecting my .69 ct princess diamond, AGS0, G, VVS1, and he called it "cute" in a really really demeaning tone.

Sure its not a gazillion carats like you have probably got in your workshop but geez......

 

[atroop711]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.

As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

SNORT

 

[atroop711]

cute is a word that is used as kind of a dig (imo) for the most part...Babies are cute...dogs are cute, guys are cute...but when someone says oh your ring is cute, I think they just don''t like it. That''s ok...you don''t have to like it. Not sure why ppl just don''t say congrats when they see an e-ring. Why say cute? it''s annoying to say the least. I know that when ppl say hmmm that''s interesting (at least my friends) it means they don''t like what they are commenting on.

 

[AprilBaby]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.

As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

I am guessing you prefer "huge" or "amazing" or "wow". (you are talking about the ring you gave to your gf, right?)

 

[princessplease]

Hasn''t happened to me, but I wouldn''t be happy. Diamonds are not meant to be cute, regardless of their size. I always associate cute with babies and kitties, not erings!

 

[gwendolyn]

Yes, it''s happened to me (about 1/2 carat diamond on a size 9 finger), which bothers me a little bit because my ring is an heirloom and is what it is!

Worse though, in my opinion, is when people here on PS comment and say a diamond is "cute" because they consider it small. C''mon, as fellow jewelry lovers, we should really know better than to sound condescending to someone''s lovely sparkly, which may be big to them!

 

[Lauren8211]

That''s a weird thing to say. Definitely seems condescending and passive aggressive to me.

1/2 a carat is so small that it''s worthy of "cute"? Seriously?

Some people...

 

[Amethyste]

Dont you worry! Someone at the store asked to see my ring and she said it was "cute". what a "cute" shape... oh! what a "cute" color too! And she was in her 40's or so... She probably assumed it was fake... But lol, it was funny My husband was like.... "what was that all about???" The look onf his face was really "cute".

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 7/21/2009 8:46:55 AM
Author: elledizzy5
That's a weird thing to say. Definitely seems condescending and passive aggressive to me.


1/2 a carat is so small that it's worthy of 'cute'? Seriously?

Some people...

I called my own ring 'cute' when I first got to this board (looking for a 5-year anniversary ring)

I didn't know (then) that it was a passive-aggressive thing. Perhaps you are over-analysing, and are paranoid about others judging in a negative way?

Also, I think it could be a cultural (US) thing, it had never occurred to me to be upset about the word 'cute' until I got to this board. Perhaps it's partly a matter of the friends you have. God love em.

I can totally see where you are coming from, but I'm going to go with Whitby on this. *waves*

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 7/21/2009 9:17:33 AM
Author: LaraOnline

Date: 7/21/2009 8:46:55 AM
Author: elledizzy5
That''s a weird thing to say. Definitely seems condescending and passive aggressive to me.


1/2 a carat is so small that it''s worthy of ''cute''? Seriously?

Some people...

I called my own ring ''cute'' when I first got to this board (looking for a 5-year anniversary ring)

I didn''t know (then) that it was a passive-aggressive thing. Perhaps you are over-analysing, and are paranoid about others judging in a negative way?

Also, I think it could be a cultural (US) thing, it had never occurred to me to be upset about the word ''cute'' until I got to this board.

I can totally see where you are coming from, but I''m going to go with Whitby on this. *waves*

I also refer to my ring as cute- I don''t assocaite cute with small, I usally associate cute with dainty and delicate.

It very well could be a cultural thing, My stepmother has a 1.30ct center stone & people commonly refer to her ring as cute and I doubt they think it is small.

 

[MonkeyPie]

With my first e-ring I did - center stone was exactly a half carat, and on my size 7 finger looked really dainty. Everyone called it cute! But it WAS - so I didn''t mind lol.

 

[Thomperchik]

I know someone who refers to erings as "cute" when they are not over 2cts. It really makes me want to smack her. I know she has bad intentions when she refers to the ring as "cute." IMHO, I would just ignore that comment. That person provides absolutely no value to you if they meant in it in an insulting way.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 7/21/2009 9:17:33 AM
Author: LaraOnline

Date: 7/21/2009 8:46:55 AM
Author: elledizzy5
That''s a weird thing to say. Definitely seems condescending and passive aggressive to me.


1/2 a carat is so small that it''s worthy of ''cute''? Seriously?

Some people...

I called my own ring ''cute'' when I first got to this board (looking for a 5-year anniversary ring)

I didn''t know (then) that it was a passive-aggressive thing. Perhaps you are over-analysing, and are paranoid about others judging in a negative way?

Also, I think it could be a cultural (US) thing, it had never occurred to me to be upset about the word ''cute'' until I got to this board. Perhaps it''s partly a matter of the friends you have. God love em.

I can totally see where you are coming from, but I''m going to go with Whitby on this. *waves*

LOL... well I guess I just automatically hear the snotty tone of "Ohh... that''s..... cute....

"

I guess "cute" isn''t necessarily a bad adjective, depending on the delivery. You could have a very excited delivery of "Oh! That''s such a cute ring!" and maybe it wouldn''t be so bad. It would not be my first choice in describing a ring, but I could see how it *could* work.

For some reason I tend to take things the wrong way.

 

[Sharon101]

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

LOL...thats quick! I like your wit!

 

[gemgirl]

I agree with whitby that "cute" is one of those overused words just as "sweet" is an overused word. I never thought of cute as being an adjective to describe any diamond.

I do know how you feel. The first time my DH''s mother came to my house, she told me it was "cute". Yes, my house is small but it''s got everything we need to be comfortable. After she and her BF left, I asked him if he heard his mother call my home cute? He said that she meant it as a compliment. As far as I was concerned, it was clearly not a compliment. She meant it to be demeaning and condescending, especially factoring in the look on her face when she said it.

Don''t be offended by people''s comments. Most wouldn''t know an ideal cut if it was right in front of them.
I think your ring is gorgeous.

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 7/21/2009 1:33:20 AM
Author: FrekeChild

Date: 7/21/2009 12:28:17 AM
Author: Moh 10
Maybe I can understand.
As a guy there is something I have that I hope is never called, ''cute''.

LMAO!!!!

I don''t get it either lily. I haven''t gotten that (seeing as how my erings are colored stones though, I don''t know that people know they are engagement rings) but I would be irritated too. It''s such a placating word. Like ''nice''. There is just no imagination there.

Regardless, cute is not a word for an engagement ring. Unless maybe if it''s a heart. Or perhaps the infamous Mickey Mouse ering/wedding band combo....

I''ve always wondered about colored stone engagement rings. Do you think that people don''t know your rings are engagement rings? I''m guessing it doesn''t bother you much, since you don''t like diamonds and you designed a ring you love! But do people''s reactions ever bother you?
I knew a girl who was proposed to with an amethyst, and no one seemed to understand that it was an engagement ring -- it bothered her so much she even cried over it! (sorry to threadjack..)

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Hi,

My eng. ring diamond is around the size. . .it wouldn't bother me if someone called it cute.

Oh, and maybe it depends upon the situation. If an individual doesn't know you're engaged and you walk up and tell them that you are and then show them your ring, it's going to take them a few mintutes to digest the information, yet, an immediate response re: your ring is expected. They are just trying to provide you with some form of positive feedback. . .and clearly failed. I think you're being overly sensitive!

ETA - here's a link to Lily's ring. . .

https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/my-e-ring-from-blue-nile.118779/

It is spectatular!

 

[princesss]

There was a woman on here a year or two ago who had a lovely ring, right around the .25 ct mark. She said she''d had people call it cute. She came on here and said, "Cute? CUTE? This is the hottest damn ring the world has ever seen!" I''ve always thought that was the perfect response to, "It''s cute." That or a diamond-shaped indentation on their forehead.

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 7/21/2009 10:56:44 AM
Author: Thomperchik
I know someone who refers to erings as ''cute'' when they are not over 2cts.

OMG! I don''t know a single person who got over 2cts as their first engagement ring. I guess it just goes to show, it''s a matter of the crowd you run with.

haha elledizzy, you''re the one to judge!

Maybe we should think of witty comebacks to combat the dreaded ''cute'' adjective?

Moh''s response is the best...but I''m not sure how a newly engaged girl would bring the conversation around from diamonds to ****s